To think kissing a family member on the lips isn't weird

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I kissed my sister on the lips today to say goodbye in front of my friend. My friend afterwards said to me that she found it weird and almost incestuous .

It was a peck not a full on snog!

I kiss ds like this as well (although he is only a baby)

I am a man of 45 and kiss my 4 year old son on the lips as I did my daughter I was raised with very little affection from my parents and am determined this wont be the case for my children. Anyone who sees this as weird or incestuous probably has similar issues with expressing affection to my parents.

Lips for dh and dd (teen but also when little.)

Don't see a quick peck on the lips as anything sexual at all. It's a loving gesture but not a sexual gesture in the slightest.

I don't really kiss close family and friends much at all. But for those who do, and for other people we meet who do, it's a cheek kiss thing. Don't kiss work colleagues at all.

It's fine for children but in my family it is something everyone sort of grows out of, kiss on the cheek is just fine.

I find it more weird that people always have to have some form of sexual link when giving a peck on the lips.

And incredibly strange that some people feel they need to judge or make some form of gross/freak/incestual type comment over something that is just an affectionate gesture!

Oh I don't think other people are weirdos for kissing family on the lips. Just that it seems to be something children do in my family.

I reserve my "you weirdos" thoughts for the people who won't kiss their children on the lips because their lips are for their husbands

Zombie

Very normal for me, doesn't occur to me that it wouldn't be

In Tudor times people used to kiss on the lips instead of shaking hands or kissing on the cheeks.

I never thought much about it - my kids have always kissed me smack on the lips when they were tiny, but I don't tend to kiss my adult relatives on the lips often.

My ex thought it was v odd though and I remember him saying ew, please don't kiss him on the mouth, it's weird and incestuous - when DS1 was a tiny tiny baby. I was shocked at his attitude tbh and carried on as normal, but it did make me think about it and I don't do it very often now he is 10. The 3 YO on the other hand gives me no choice, he slobbers all over my mouth gleefully!

Oh bollocks, didn't get a ZOMBIE warning - sorry.

Cheek kisses for anyone who is not DH.

I am from a not very tactile or demonstrative family so I find kissing anyone on the lips that you are not sexually intimate with a bit weird.

I would find it a bit odd. I only kiss my husband on the lips and my 20 month old nephew smacks the lips on me occasionally haha.

What is being Googled for the ZOMBIE re-animator to find these threads?

It was linked to in a BBC article about Victoria Beckham kissing her daughter on the lips.

Until a read that article it had never occurred to me that it might be considered weird. Why shouldn't I kiss my children on the lips?

They also showed a picture of a dad in the shower with his child and suggested that he was a paedo. Outrageous really, that wouldn't have been the question if it was the mum.

Seriously, at least the DM lifts current threads instead of Zombie ones.

Jeez.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/blogs-trending-36775203

ParentsNetWithDadsToo I was just going to post this. Although I found it weird because the quote they've used from mumsnet has NOTHING to do with Victoria and harper beckham, the comment was made back in 2013 in response to the original thread about someone kissing their sister on the lips!

I kiss my brother on the forehead when I'm drunk (a lot). Is this acceptable?

Agree with cardiback - not only does it seem very weird to me, it's something I have never even heard of (or seen) until mn, which suggests it is fairly unusual. I think saying it was incestuous is rude though!

1. Each to their own.

1. Zombie FUCKING thread!

I suggest that those who are critical of Victoria Beckham look deep into themselves - as that's where the darkness is! I and my family have kissed this way forever, along with any other style of affection that we thought appropriate: we are normal, the detractors are the ones with the problems, I feel.

I was gonna add my thoughts, but the post by Lsli1951 exactly sums up my feelings. Can't really add anything to it, other than to agree 100% that the people who have criticised it perhaps need to examine their consciences.

If you think a parent kissing their child on the lips is icky I feel sorry for you

I'm actually think it's weird NOT to kiss your child/children on the lips. It just comes completely naturally. My youngest dd will **only kiss myself dp her sisters and brother on the lips multiple times a day

DH and DD2.

DD1 is not a hugger/kisser, except with DD2, whom she adores. DD2 is 13, and still weirdly cute at this age, so very kissable. She initiates the lip kisses, so I'll probably continue as long as she wants.