To think kissing a family member on the lips isn't weird

[DrinkFromMyFountain]

I kissed my sister on the lips today to say goodbye in front of my friend. My friend afterwards said to me that she found it weird and almost incestuous .

It was a peck not a full on snog!

I kiss ds like this as well (although he is only a baby)

Yes with DH and young DC's - their choice.
NO NO NO to MIL who used to pounce with an enthusiastic sloppy mouth kiss. I still don't think she's got the message but over the years I have perfected my body swerve

I find it odd TBH

Hugs and pecks fine

MILs kissing DH on lips? Lechy FILs trying to kiss unwilling DILs - both bleurgh!

I am not suggesting there is anything sinister involved in this when its just normal or cultural for some families, but on a serious note, how do you then teach your DC about personal space and boundaries so that they KNOW who is and who is not allowed to kiss them in that way. I do also think it has the potential to be abused by some people. I can imagine some freaky FILs getting off on smooching the DIL and making out it was all her imagination & he did nowt wrong.

Normal, to me.

Ah so lip kissers are freaks doesn't take long to get personal.

Lip kisses are for DH DCs mum sis and grandad.
Showing affection.

Kisses with tongues for DH alone.
Sexual.

Kiss my parents, sisters, nieces, nephews and old friends not seen in a long time on cheeks. Only DH on lips. DC all over their lovely faces when little, except lips. Now they are grown up I am lucky to get a kiss at all.

yes, weird. Own children, or partner. Anyone else is weird.

The only thing that's not normal is being told it's incestuous IMO.
I'm not a kissy person usually, a peck on the cheek is fine but it's generally just a hug.
YANBU

Yabu it's weird

Weird.

Can I just point out that people saying they kiss their DH plus DC on the lips and anyone else is weird, well isn't that just what the grandparents are still doing with their own DC?

I'll probably stop when my kids are teenagers, Bowler...

How it happened I just don't know? but...I kiss my Dad and step-mum on the lips!

I do it real quick!

bash bash -dryish lips.

Fair enough Floggingmolly but unless they stop you from doing it themselves, I bet you won't. It will just be natural until they deem it unnecessary, which may or may not happen.

People do seem very shocked, but if it's normal within families it just seems, well, normal. My DM was a lip kisser until the day she died, it just seemed natural to me.

No. I think it's weird and like others I have only heard of it on MNet and have never ever seen it.

If DH and I kiss on the lips it's in private. We don't hold hands in public.

What's wrong with holding hands in public?

Normal here too, kisses on the lips with all close family DM, DF (when he was alive), DSiS, DH and DD. Won't kiss ILs on the lips though!!!

Showing affection is very normal to me. I kiss my best friends on the lips, as well as DH and DS. Not my mother or sisters through as it's how she brought us up. We hug a lot though. I'm very touchy feely.

We do, never even thought about it.
However, there was one funny incident where my cousin (male) arrived, greeted me with a kiss on the lips and then went on to kiss my father on the lips too. Both of them were a bit "surprised" but laughed it off.

I don't understand what age has to do with it.

Ds is 11 and if I suddenly refused to kiss him on the lips he'd think that was weird. It will continue as long as it remains the most natural thing in the world to him and if there comes a time he prefers not to then it stops.

Kissing the in laws NO! Not even if they'd been soaked in Domestos.

I'm from a very non tactile family. I don't hug or kiss any of my relatives, including my Mum and Dad. I kiss my children loads, but never on the lips. One of them had an extended phase of kissing me on the lips, and I let him because it made him happy, but I was glad when it changed to cheek kisses.
I don't think it's abnormal to kiss family on the lips, but I couldn't/wouldn't do it.

God no. Lip kissing with anyone other than your DP is revolting. I don't even kiss DC on lips. Why would you?

Normal here too, it never occurred to me that anyone would think differently until there was a thread on here. I kiss my sister, mum, dsd on the lips.

I find really odd that people don't even kiss their dc on the lips.