To have smiled sweetly and said nothing to this school bully

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14 years ago I left school. There was one girl who made my life hell, said a load of nasty things about me and told me I would never amount to anything. She also said I'd end up single and Childless at 30 working in a shop. (NB I see nothing wrong with this, but it was meant in a horrible, nasty, put downy way). This was amongst various other things she said and did to try to make my life a misery.

This morning I took my car to the car wash and saw her working there washing cars.

I ordered my car wash for my naice car with my baby DS in the back and said "fancy seeing you here". She made a grimace of a face and carried on with her work.

Karma you beauty.

Yes, I was bullied. Next question pimpf?

in junior school i was bullied by a boy. he'd always get me on the way home from school, he'd post his mates as lookout so they would block my way and keep me cornered until he arrived. i'd have to stand there and take a beating, if i ran (he always caught up cos he was quicker) i would get it worse.

i was born with astigmatism in my left eye and had to wear glasses. still do. back then i wore the free nhs glasses and was constantly picked on and laughed at for that and for being "too poor" to afford the decent ones other kids were wearing. i knew i'd never have a decent pair unless i could afford to pay for them myself and by second year in high school i'd had enough and stopped wearing them completely.

now i treat myself to some beautiful designer ones. the only thing i "splash" out on lol!

My experience was a bit like yours, Jo.
I got beaten black and blue all through primary school, and relentlessly bullied by the girls. Small, funny looking, very emotionally manipulable - a bully's paradise, in fact.
I don't think those of you defending bullies have ever been really bullied.
I can say for a fact that I don't give a tinker's continental damn about their pain. My early childhood was an utter hideous disaster thanks to their behaviour, and this was before bullying was recognised, so it was all just 'kids being kids, she needs to toughen up'.

Oh Silver, me too. We'd get the city councillors in, being all high and mighty and bloody annoying. They'd order us lowly bar staff around, never said please or thankyou and were generally twats.

It used to really piss them off when I beat them in the weekly quiz... every week.

I was pretty badly bullied from Primary onwards but I don't really wish anyone ill. I have no problem with karma though.

No questions Ali. As I said, if it didn't make you smile to see your former bully doing a job that they felt was beneath them, then you must be a saint.

You deal with what has happened to you in your way and I will deal with things in my way.

I got beaten up by a girl on my third day at a new school, with a complete ring of children around us - at least 40-50 children watching.

I still managed to feel sorry for her when, a few weeks later, she was hysterically sobbing in the bathrooms because she'd lost a hair grip and her Mum was going to give her a complete pasting when she got home.

I was 8 years old.

How can you be delighted by someone else's distress/low self-esteem?

I am not in a good job with a nice car or nice clothes. I am a school governor, volunteer in admissions appeals, volunteer at two schools, am about to volunteer on a charity advice line, etc., but don't earn a penny. My 'career' stopped when my eldest DD was diagnosed with SN.

I was the child that was bullied, not the bully, but would you look at me and think 'karma'??

Pimpf anything but a saint. They're simply not worth a second thought or indeed a first thought. It's only when I see threads like these I think of them at all really.

Same here Ali, and as I said, I wish them no ill what so ever. But I think the way some people on here have attacked the op and others and twisted their words is wrong.

slurredlines the primary reason/way she bullied me was to tell me I was ugly, square, no one would ever fancy me etc and to tell everyone how inexperienced I was (not kissed till 15) whilst gloating about being fingered on the swings in the local park. Classy. So when what she's boasting about - how gorgeous she is, how all the boys fancy her - gets her into trouble i.e. pregnant then forgive me if I take the opportunity to point out how karma has well & truly bitten her on the arse. She got pregnant because she was shagging all these boys that fancied her in the park. I was at home with NFI to the places these cool kids hung out because I was ugly, unfanciable, square etc. My gloaty moment was that what she bullied me for (being unfanciable) is what came back at her - being so bloody irresistible she became pregnant.

Thanks Marmalade, it was awful at the time but luckily we both have happy families now . It took me a while to forgive her though.

pimpf I don't think I attacked the OP, I hope not, as that was not my intention! I just thought she was being unreasonable. Not being an unforgivably awful person, I just disagreed.

I didn't say you attacked her but some have.

As I've said before, we all deal with things that have happened in our past in different ways

I know you weren't pimpf, I just meant I hope it hasn't come across as though that was what I was doing.

Not at all Ali, I just also wanted to get my point of view across too.

Some people are just shits.

Boosterseat I was thinking the same! We had a really stuck up nasty mum at DS school- would look down her nose at me. She drove a flash car, big house, dripping with jewellery. Transpired that hubby was found shagging the teaching assistant. Of course everyone was sniggering behind her back. Sad thing is when she found out, he bought her a newer bigger flashier car- she's still with him , he's still shagging the TA - who happens to be their neighbour! Cosy. No self respect.

Ugly thread.

All those looking down on people for working in bars/shops...they have jobs, don't they? Who cares if they didn't get to be the MD of a huge multinational, they have a job, are supporting themselves & their family.

Shame that those who were bullied & took constant taunts about growing up to be in a 'shit job' are now bullying & taunting those in 'shit' jobs.

How the tables turn. The bullied really do become the bullies, hey!

I nearly didn't go in for my hair appointment as my old school bully was there. Then I was like fuck it, your washing hair and I have a degree. Your getting paid about £6 an hour and I'm having a £150 haircut! She pretended she didn't know me, it was so satisfying

different name for this I think the point is having been at school with this particular girl, knowing her for over 10 years we had similar family backgrounds and localised opportunities. Her nastiness and unwillingness to be a 'geek' at school and try hard like I did, is one of the reasons she wasn't as academically orpprofessionally successful as I am.

This isn't looking down on people with service industry jobs, but if it is a job where you know THEY aspire to achieve better, it is satisfying they are suffering in the way I suffered. If that makes me a bitch I don't care. She made my life hell and now I am happy and have achieved things she didn't, despite her efforts to downtred me.

thesecondcoming of course I can write correctly. I'm lying in bed and can't be arsed since its an informal chat room.