To have smiled sweetly and said nothing to this school bully

[DrinkFromMyFountain]

14 years ago I left school. There was one girl who made my life hell, said a load of nasty things about me and told me I would never amount to anything. She also said I'd end up single and Childless at 30 working in a shop. (NB I see nothing wrong with this, but it was meant in a horrible, nasty, put downy way). This was amongst various other things she said and did to try to make my life a misery.

This morning I took my car to the car wash and saw her working there washing cars.

I ordered my car wash for my naice car with my baby DS in the back and said "fancy seeing you here". She made a grimace of a face and carried on with her work.

Karma you beauty.

Blimey, everyone's a bit sensitive tonight aren't they?!

I don't think it's outside the realms of normality to be able to feel a bit better that your bully who claimed you'd be doing a shit job when you grew up, is actually the one doing the shit job now - and be able to separate that from the fact that you realise all jobs are fine? Can't you see it's only in relation to the bully and the negative experiences people have had?

I don't look down on people with manual/service jobs, I've done them myself and would do again (BTW, not in a high-flying job at all, just office based) but if I saw my bully looking miserable I might have an inner smile to myself.

Talk of doc martens makes me remember when I tried to be one of the cool ones at school. I couldn't afford to buy the cool cherry red boots so I ordered the workman boots from my gran's Kay's catalogue. They were halfway up my shin and had steel toe caps. They all pointed and laughed at my bovver boots, the bastards.

LeGavrOrf Reminds me of the time I bought some Hi-Tec Max trainers as I couldn't afford Nikes and wrote the word 'AIR' on them in biro hoping NO-ONE WOULD NOTICE.

Excellent Op if only we could see in to the future when we were younger we could be stronger back then.
And nobody is slagging off any kind of job on here the Op is talking about what someone said about her, she is not meaning no harm, so just chill people!

Someone asked if anyone was bullied by boys or men. I was beaten up on the way home from school every day when I was 6 - the boy was nearly 9. He had been held back TWICE because of his behaviour issues. He enjoyed running after me, grabbing my special mouse, twisting his head until I cried for him to stop, then punching and kicking me. This happened every day that my mother or sister didn't walk me home. I never told anyone, because as the baby of the family (youngest of 6) walking home by myself was my one little bit of independence. It went on all school year.

Fast forward two years. I was now 8 going on 9. A different boy, aged 11, who I did not know, used to chase me home every day and beat the shit out of me. I have no idea why. Eventually my mother found out, stormed over to his house with me in tow and confronted his mother. When questioned, he admitted he was hitting me on the way home. "Why?!?" asked his Mum. "I don't know..." he replied.

Both boys must have had some problems, surely. But it really sucked to be me. I was always the smallest in my grade, though I was the oldest. I learnt to run really, really fast.....

MarmaladeTwatkins - thankyou. i actually discovered at a very young age that "opinions are like bellybuttons-we all have them".

i think some people on here don't realize just how traumatic the bullying some people suffered was and how it effects them to this day. for those who are in a very vulnerable state emotionally/mentally some of these inconsiderate comments could possibly trigger an episode and tip them over the edge. some people need to have some compassion.

Haha busty

I remember in the early 90s where those basketball boots with the fuck off big tongues were all the rage. The cool kids had Nike, Puma ones. I bought the shoe shop own brand cheapies, brand name Nicks, and they took the piss out of those as well.

Does anyone remember a trainer make called British Knights? Bloody dd bought a pair yesterday. I shrieked and said 'I wanted some of those bloody things twenty years ago'

Another cheapie trainers victim here too , I remember doing P.E in them and sliding all over the place in the Hall as they had no grip!

I think people aren't exactly glorying in the actual job that their bullies have ended up,in - it is more the fact that they know that the bully considered it to be a shit job, and that being in that job would be a negative outcome - that is why they were wishing it on their victims - and Karma has meant that the bullies' ill-wishing has rebounded on them. Does that make sense?

I was so jealous of the girl who was the first one with reebok pumps.

She used to let us losers have a few goes at her pump when she was in a good mood.

You never know why people are working in shops/bars/pubs they night just want too, and be perfectly happy.

I worked in a shop when I was younger in my breaks from university, I remember a girl from school came in and I served her and she was near orgasmic with pleasure over it. Dickhead.

That sounds a bit rude.

I have to say it would very hard for even the nicest person to not get a small bit of pleasure from a horrible bully cleaning their car.

I've BEEN bullied! Did you not read my post?

Still doesn't mean I would be gleeful if I thought that a former bully had a shit life. I'm better than that.

She said something like why why miss Harold fancy seeing YOU here.

Reebok pumps were the biz back then and I remember a girl had purple and white Air Max trainers that I used to want and thought if I got a pair i'd get instant popularity and be super trendy, I was only 12 or something!

I have worked in shops

I haven't been bullied

Ha! Reebok Pumps. What was the point? A friend of mine had them and despite the fact that his feet were THREE TIMES bigger than mine I would borrow them all the time. Naturally, I looked like a dick with my great big flapping clowns feet with the big fat tounges like Jaime Oliver.

Do you want to know something frightening ? I went to an exhibition of clubwear at the V&A the other day and they had British Knights and Fila in it. Things we wore in our lifetime are now so retro they are in a museum on display

I used to work in a pub, we often had some very opinionated students in there.
They were gobsmacked when the staff joined in a conversation, but if you are going to quote Suetonius inaccurately, you need to be prepared for someone to object.

On the other hand, I have sometimes been less than lovely to some people who have not gone on to work in shops. As far as I know.

WHAT CONCLUSIONS CAN BE DRAWN?

Busty, it gets worse. They make retro programmes like "Life on Mars' about my teen years, or I watch something vintage on TV and my children mock cherished elements of my youth..

Fucking hell Fila in the V and A?

I've been served in a restaurant by my school bully. I have also worked in a restaurant. I didn't stay for the food - I wouldn't trust her not to meddle with it! :)

Here's a nice story for you:

A friend of mine had a niece who was being bullied at school, badly, about three years ago, and she was adamant she wasn't going to her prom because of it.

My lovely friend, her uncle, arranged for a good friend of his to pick her up in his Porsche and be her 'date' for the night. She was suddenly very cool and popular, and had a whale of a time showing off her "date". It probably helped that he was one of the Inbetweeners! :)

I'd have loved my friend as an uncle when I was that age.... :)