To have smiled sweetly and said nothing to this school bully

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14 years ago I left school. There was one girl who made my life hell, said a load of nasty things about me and told me I would never amount to anything. She also said I'd end up single and Childless at 30 working in a shop. (NB I see nothing wrong with this, but it was meant in a horrible, nasty, put downy way). This was amongst various other things she said and did to try to make my life a misery.

This morning I took my car to the car wash and saw her working there washing cars.

I ordered my car wash for my naice car with my baby DS in the back and said "fancy seeing you here". She made a grimace of a face and carried on with her work.

Karma you beauty.

If someone doesn't see anything wrong with working at a car wash, deli counter, as a cashier or waiter, then why mention their jobs in the same breath as "karma"? Clearly anyone who does this is thinking smugly that they've done "better" than someone with those jobs.

Saffy - please see my comment above.

I worked with someone who looked down on me because I had been married before and left my abusive husband, then married again. She used to call me trollop in a 'jokey' way all the bloody time. That stopped when I called her on it one day and reminded her that she had lived with someone, they had split up, he got engaged to someone else, they had a fling and she fell pregnant with her DD.

She also used to say 'My mum is this high up professional my dad was that high up professional and I could have gone to university'. My answer to that was 'I didn't have the opportunities you had, yet we both ended up wiping shitty arses for a living'. I am now off to university to do my nursing degree and she is still a care assistant. (nothing wrong with that, but for someone who clearly goes by money and status is it a bit lowly)

Blimey - let the OP have her moment!

School bully was a complete bitch to her, told her she was worthless and would amount to nothing while she'd achieve great things.

Guess what, it was the other way around. I don't blame OP for enjoying the moment. It doesn't mean she looks down her nose at people in low-paid jobs.

And 14 is old enough to know better (to those saying the bully was 'a child' )

I met my school nemesis on the day I happened to be driving a friend's beautiful classic convertible car. I stopped outside the local co-op and there she was, bulging out of a track suit, fag in overly lip lined gob, greasy blond tresses in a terrible perm (where it wasn't gelled flat to her head) leaning against an ancient ford Capri. Oh how I skipped into the Co-op!

i was a right ugly duckling at school and got bullied loads. however somehow i blossomed when i left and discovered trendy clothes, fake tan and hair bleach and suddenly my skinny figure was the must have

and when i was 18 i took out a shitload of car finance and i had a lovely gleaming white convertible Jeep, it was the envy of all my friends

me and my fit boyfriend at the time went to KFC and drove through in my lovely Jeep. and to my JOY, we were served by one of the horrible cows who had bullied me throughout high school

her face was an absolute picture as she clocked both the new me and my awesome car

i was sweet as anything to her and asked how she was etc but i loved that moment :o

My bully used to be the prettiest, most popular girl in our year.

She'd constantly put me down about how I dressed ('dirty goff grunger scum') and my weight. I wasn't fat. I just wasn't as thin and as pretty as her, apparently, which warranted me getting beaten up and humiliated.

Her husband (who played in a 'dirty goff' metal band who tours pubs as a profession) left her for the local barfly. She's morbidly obese these days and looks thoroughly miserable.

I don't gloat over her, the things she did to me in school actually still bother me quite a bit and I can't even look her in the eye, but I can't help thinking that it's quite ironic.

One boy who made my life a misery at school walked out on the last day and shouted "The next time you losers see me I will be famous and in the papers!"

And he was right. But not because he became an actor, which is what he always said he was going to be. He was in the court report for burglary and breaking and entering and was just given a prison sentence for it.

I've got to admit, the irony made me smile.

I think the karma posts are not because people think that the jobs the former bullies are doing are bad, but that many of the bullies at one point believed those jobs to be below them and actually used them as examples of how 'bad' their victims lives were going to be.

What have you got that she hasn't, if it wasn't her job that you are referring to?

School bully told her she was worthless and would amount to nothing while she'd achieve great things. Guess what, it was the other way around.

In what way have they "amounted to nothing" if not by the jobs people keep referring to?

And now we have "morbidly obese" to add to the list of things to be gloated over too...

My dh was messed around by a firm he worked for (construction) and the man who ran the company held back money, knowing at the time (snowy winter) dh needed it and had little checker of finding other work at that time of year. When dh left we heard he went bust. Dh bumped into him in the garage on day, dh was driving a brand new defender, top of the range (it was a courtesy car but had no signage) whilst his ex boss was in his wife's ten year old Clio.

It fair cheered dh up!

Yes I agree with that definitely Cantspel. Definitely not that it is good to look down on any job ( I've done loads of jobs that other people might think were hideous...manyvof them were enjoyable!). Lovely to see someone when you are feeling happy and positive with your life. It's hard though. My brother was bullied mercilessly at school....it was so awful and I cannot forgive the people who did it. Bastards.

Right, let me say a bit more about why this thread has upset me a bit. I was bullied at school, and these days am rather overweight, drive an old car, am not particularly interested in fashion, and have a low-paid job. So while I'm lucky enough to have found many good things in life, it's still not great to read that if only I were glamorous, well-paid and thin, I'd be able to look down on people like myself and think smugly how karma has worked! The people who bullied me are probably wealthier, more fashionable and thinner than I am these days. They're probably happy-go-lucky too and don't even remember being bullies or feel any guilt about it at all.

For me, facing my bully in adulthood wasn't about feeling smug. It was about finally being able to look her in the eye without me being terrified and about her being nice to me for the first time ever even if she was being paid to do so . It was not about having power over her, it was about having control in the situation for the first time.

ABF, you met happy people on Christmas Eve in retail? Really? lucky bugger. Christmas Eve was my worst shift because everyone was in a shitty mood about having to shop the day before Christmas.

I still see a few people i was bullied by at school, tbf, the ones i know are perfectly nice, well adjusted adults, im happy they are happy, im happy and over the past.

If they arent doing well in their own lives, they will feel miserable enough for it, dont need the past and their teenage twattiness to rub it in too.

I reckon that if someone was really mean to you, i.e. was really life-scarringly horrid, then it's only natural to laugh fucking hard in their face when they have to wash your car.

Human nature shapes us to make pecking order judgements whether we like it or not. (My neighbour once explained what a gite was to me in case I wasn't middle-class enough to know - and yes I laughed in her face)

I don't think people here are 'looking down' in retelling their personal Karma tales.

MrsG Admittedly the only shops ive worked in have been toy shops and chocolate shops so maybe not the best examples! Maybe it's because I'm so annoyingly happy I just don't notice the customer's grumpiness!

Chocolate shop is the best shop by far to win over grumpy customers.

Customer: You've not got any Turkish Delight in stock? How very dare you!
Me: I'm sorry about that but here, have some chocolate!

Customer walks away happy.

While you're at it Amazing, google Junior Mag. She offered me her read ones because she assumed I'd never seen it!

If I worried about all the people who judge me I'd never leave the house...the one that's piss poor compared to my neighbour...

But then I was never the school bully / it girl and my conscience is clear.

I loved working in a chocolate shop Especially around Christmas because then there was a lot less children screaming about chocolatey stuff they couldn't have, because parents and grandparents were there without them to buy as presents. Everyone was lovely and being in a shop surrounded by chocolate was lovely- after I got over the initial whole drooling and wistfully thinking of eating the product thing

Thy could be it. I worked in Superdrug. Bleh, that was a grim experience I don't want to repeat.

Sneer at me all you like, HULLY.

I like it. It gives me a wide-on.

I don't think anyone here is looking down on any particular job.

The point is that a bully made them feel worthless and miserable at some point in their life, and they then found themself happy with their life and being 'served' by that person, i.e. they were in control when they had none before. It's normal to feel happy about this and lay the ghost to rest so to speak.

To imply that someone is looking down on someone else and derail the thread by discussing the validity of various jobs is unfair. We all know that every job is important and worth having, or it wouldn't exist.