To have smiled sweetly and said nothing to this school bully

[DrinkFromMyFountain]

14 years ago I left school. There was one girl who made my life hell, said a load of nasty things about me and told me I would never amount to anything. She also said I'd end up single and Childless at 30 working in a shop. (NB I see nothing wrong with this, but it was meant in a horrible, nasty, put downy way). This was amongst various other things she said and did to try to make my life a misery.

This morning I took my car to the car wash and saw her working there washing cars.

I ordered my car wash for my naice car with my baby DS in the back and said "fancy seeing you here". She made a grimace of a face and carried on with her work.

Karma you beauty.

No, TSC - that comment was aimed at YourMaNoBra - mocking someone for misspelling dingy. I apologise if you felt I was having a dig at you.

I am not following you around, nor do I feel you have slighted me in any way. If I have commented on your posts on other threads, that has been because I was interested in that thread, not because I have been looking for threads you are on. Frankly I am baffled by that attack.

Then your memory is better than mine.

Why do we ask them to have compassion for the perpetrator? Because the perpetrator was a child. The same reason why I see it as different from domestic abuse or workplace bullying. Adults have to take responsibility for their actions in a way that we do not expect children to, because children are learning, growing and changing every day. And yes I do consider teenagers to be children, the hormonal changes and development that takes place in teenagers brains are staggering, no less significant than the changes in a toddlers brain as they learn and develop.

I don't think it's a case where one party 'wins' ie that we should be all fluffy and lovely towards the perpetrators and harsh on the victims who still hold a grudge, or vice versa, I just think it helps to remember that children do stupid horrible things and that does not always makes them a stupid horrible adult.

And I do believe that wishing bad on someone, or judging other peoples position in life, is not a very sensible thing for people to do if they believe in karma, and if they don't believe in karma then I just think they are holding themselves back from true happiness. Because nobody, nobody, who is truly happy, would ever take pleasure from the perceived suffering of others.

I genuinely have no idea what thread you are talking about.

That was TSC, not you! happyYoni.

Oh no, harm done, TSC.

Oh cool :) I did have a momentary panic there thinking fuck what thread did I post on by mistake!

AHEM

That was most uncalled for SarahStratton, MYOB comes to mind.

They are both big girls and i'm sure they can sort it out themselves.

Really? So only the poster being attacked is allowed to report? What utter nonsense.

Of course you can report SarahStratton but why would you need to comment on someone else's disagreement that they appeared to have resolved.

Thanks BeerTricksPotter. Had ANOTHER momentary panic when the big AHEM from above came after my post, but don't think it was aimed at me. This thread is an absolute roller coaster!

I'm (doesn't take much really) All I can read of TSC's posts to SDTG is she has noticed that SDTG doesn't seem to like her very much, how is that a personal attack?

HappyYoni

Fuck yeah :)

I may not post much now, but I do lurk, and TSC's assertion that SDTG must have been the one who reported her is unwarranted and unnecessary. As is the statement that she is following her sbout. I see no evidence of that, and it was an unpleasant and frankly nasty thing to say.