Pictures of sick child in hospital on FB?

[TheWomanWhoMisplacedHerHusband]

Close-up shots of very sick child sleeping/with drip in arms/trying to smile for camera with balloons people have given them with updates like 'thanks for the balloon they cheered her up a bit' taken by parents have come up on my feed (they don't know what's wrong with child yet).
Aibu to be a bit shocked at these?

You say you were out of line then you stay you stand by what you said.

You can't post such things without it generalising. why is it wrong for one family and not another?

You really are portraying yourself as very nasty on this thread.

How terribly sad for you, OP, to be so totally lacking in compassion.

I was out of line saying parents are selfish to do it
Too fucking right you were.

Once again, im only offereng a more child-centred point of view on this.

MissBetsey - so a picture of you lying there, with tubes in every orifice and some extras for good measure, covered in nothing but surgical dressings and clearly in pain, posted on the Internet, wouldn't harm you in the slightest?

I said stop posting them because it isn't relevant, as I already stated upthread that I could understand why people do post pictures in certain circumstances..

I really feel sorry for the child tbh the pictures were awful, very close up shots of her face all swollen while sleeping :(

I was out of line saying parents are selfish to do it, but I do believe these parent in question were. And stand by that

So what you're really saying is that you don't actually think you were out of line at all

Deja vu from your previous non apology.

Op, I really would just leave this thread alone now. You are just going to end up unnecessarily upsetting people who have experienced something terrible that you havent.

Wow, I just realised how unreasonable some awful people are, making personal attacks on someone for opening up a discussion. For someone entering the nursing profession you seem pretty judgemental yourself Mamma TJ, not really appropriate.

Omg I have seen the dreadfully sarcastic 'so sue me' from OP in response to expat posting about her late daughter. Awful.

I know, Anne, it's unbelievable, isn't it?

Mrs De vere' s comment about a romanticized view of child deAth has really made me think actually. I think that many people really do have a romanticized view of child illness, face stroking etc. Probably thanks to Hollywood, tv programmes. The hideous reality of it is something that I cannot even begin to fathom.

Horrible horrible horrible op , I seriously hope this was misguided rather than a cruel cheap shot of something you are obviously lucky enough not to have experienced.

When DD was in intensive care I had no one. My x was abusive and no one was allowed to visit, OP you have no idea how that feels. It is so lonely and it doesn't stop you wanting to take pictures of your precious children. Just as you do when they are healthy.

'The parents should have just been concentrating on the child at that time, not Fb, and I stand by that. 'So sue me'.'

So you're judge, jury and executioner for these people, but others using their experience to do the same to you are wrong.

Okay.

I am so sad that parents who have lost children have come across this thread. As if they haven't already had enough to go through without people passing judgement about how they cope with their grief and the choices they make in asking for support in times of crisis.

You know what, yeah, it is horrible when children look so ill. It's not pretty. But that's the point, that is the reality for that child and that family. That is what they look like at that point.

I know when my sister was in hospital aged about 8, albeit with a displaced hip, nursing staff suggested my parents take some photos to help my sister later process and be able to talk about what happened to her.

When a child has been that ill, it's likely to be a pretty memorable part of their life. Just because it isn't pretty doesn't mean it should be hidden away. It's almost like saying that these pictures are shameful and so offensive they have to be kept from our delicate eyes.

We really do have such a romanticised view of sick children, of the little Victorian girl in her nightdress tucked up in bed with her adoring parents sat stroking her hair.

Fantastic post educated it is coming across almost as if the OP and others don't want to consider that children get poorly, they only want to see the happy cheery photos rather than anything which reflects what reality is for that family at the time.

Like I said on another thread earlier the goady fuckers are out in force.
Mrsdevere I am so sorry.