To not feel comfortable being alone with a random man installing internet at home?

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I know I'm probably being over anxious, but I get quite panicky if I'm anywhere not public with males I don't know. I'm nowhere near as bad as I was a couple of years back, but I'm still worrying about the person due to come over incase it's a man, as it will just be me (and baby DD).

If I phoned and asked for a woman to do it would they be likely to agree or am I being ridiculous? (I know logically its unlikely anything would happen-but still panic and run through scenarios)

Having ZERO psychology qualifications , I assume we all agree, that the WHOLE point about anxiety, is that it is NOT logical or rational.
Isn't that the WHOLE point?
It IS irrational and illogical.
Which is why, if you do have anxiety, if you do have irrational fears, you need, some sort of cbt/counselling/help/support.

I'm sorry, have I said something that is factually incorrect?

To go by some of the stories of unpleasant incidents related by posters on this thread, the OP is NOT unreasonable at all to be anxious about a man coming into her home.

There's a world of difference to feeling a bit uncomfortable when there's a tradesman doing his job in your house and feeling like the OP.

I think OP is BU.
I don't think I was dismissive or abrupt.

OP can't help the way she feels, but it's an irrational fear.

That's all people are saying.

The engineer will work for Openreach and have an employee number etc. It is possible they could give you this number on the day I think , so you could check on arrival.

If it is BT or Openreach you have nothing to worry about: he won't turn up at all.

at Blu.

Ha ha @ Blui. I waited in 3 times for BT infinity broadband. Bastards.

How nasty

Reading thru this thread I cant see the need why some just have to be nasty when a person is obviously seeking help and advice. Ive seen this on other threads here too, particularly when its obvious the poster is feeling down about her situation.

Makes some feel oh so clever to be ' alternative ' (yawn), harsh/sarcastic I suppose. Or helps them get over frustrations and attitudes they cannot and would not take out elsewhere or on others in the real world.

Whatever it is...hopefully OP will get the assistance she needs via counselling, and found some comfort and support via some of the good advice given here by those who are secure enough in themselves to be compassionate and understanding.

Counselling is what most of us have been suggesting, MrsDC.
How does that make us unsympathetic?

YANBU, OP.

That is how you feel and it must be awful.

SilverApples - not you, or those that have advised and been sympathetic etc

It was reading this thread from beginning and some very sharp, harsh comments made by a few posters - I think others also commented/mentioned. No advice really, just a condescending dont be silly attitude as if the OP were somehow stupid. Thats why I said: some.

Im always amazed when some people land on a thread just to stick the boot in. Get a stress ball...

I'm amazed how many posters are always amazed.

wow usualsuspect that was amazingly informative. Thanks

Fickle that's what it is

everlong you often seem to try to inject male abuse and rape into topics on MN afaics, whereas most just look at each situation on it's own merits.

I'm amazed how many posters are always amazed

I'm shocked that you are amazed

Where has everlong done that on this thread ? This is getting completely bizarre.