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To think this article is a joke?

19 replies

hagle · 29/08/2013 12:41

[[http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2404872/I-gave-away-little-girl-I-drunk-day-One-middle-class-mothers-story-breathtaking-selfishness--redemption.html
I gave away my little girl so I could get drunk every day: One middle-class mother's story of breathtaking selfishness - and redemption]]

What does this woman want? A medal? Why didn't her daughter go to live with her father?

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wonderingsoul · 29/08/2013 12:44

did you actually read it?

the girl DID go live with her farther for 3 years.

the owman sobered up

started of contact slowly with weekly phone calls and 3 monthly vists

the girl then wanted to go live with the mum. she said no as she was settled with her dad.

further down th eline the girl asked agagin.. girl lives with ehr mother now.

she beat the drink.

she has a great relationship with her daugther now

whats not to like?

SaucyJack · 29/08/2013 12:46

Her daughter did go and live with her father, but returned home once her mum was better.

And I'd happily give her a medal for turning her life around before it was too late. Alcoholism is no joke.

LRDPomogiMnyeSRabotoi · 29/08/2013 12:46

I am reading this with my 'Daily Mail' filter in place.

But I think probably she is trying to be honest about how it felt. Fairly obviously, drinking that amount, she wasn't coping and wasn't able to look after her DD. It sounds as if she did want to send her to live with her dad?

If she'd written 'I got to rock botttom, rang social services to tell them, they took my DD into care', then people would be asking 'but didn't you keep drinking? You did! Why didn't you admit that?'

So I think she is trying to explain that yes, she kept drinking, and this is part of addiction, the selfishness of it. At least she is recognizing it as selfishness and not making excuses.

Very sad story, though.

Bowlersarm · 29/08/2013 12:46

You clearly haven't read the article.

She did go to live with her father.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 29/08/2013 12:47

I take it you have never struggled with an addiction op?

wonderingsoul · 29/08/2013 12:48

you know what. it shows how drink can make you so selfish, but she did put her child first.

she tried getting hold of the dad first, but with no luck, then sh erang ss. the girl lived with the dad for 3 years.

i think its good these stories are in the paper, to show people that you can turn it around. its hard but you can do it.
so yes.. i woudl give her a bloody medel.

Feminine · 29/08/2013 12:48

The Mother has a long road ahead.

The daughter is still very young. I suspect she will come to resent her Mother as she gets older.

:( sad for all.

SeaSickSal · 29/08/2013 12:53

Do you know what I think she is really brave to talk about this. Some mothers are going to read that and recognize themselves in it and hopefully get the help they need before it goes as far as it did in this case.

She's overcome a dreadful illness and acknowledged what she did wrong.

lljkk · 29/08/2013 13:00

Some people will need to read stories like that to see themselves.

SomethingOnce · 29/08/2013 14:05

Absolutely heartbreaking for all concerned.

Taking it at face value (who knows with the DM) I think the mother has been very brave in recognising her problem, dealing with it, and going public - the DM red arrow crew will love it!

I hope the daughter is as little damaged by her experience as can be hoped.

FastWindow · 29/08/2013 14:15

Wow. Fighting back tears at the daughters forgiveness.

Pawprint · 29/08/2013 14:39

What strikes me is that this woman has given at least three interviews about her story. I'm sure it's already been in the DM.

Alcoholism is am illness, I'm in no doubt. It's a v sad story. There but for the grace of God.

Feelingworried67 · 29/08/2013 15:14

What a great story turn around, I had a tear in my eye by the end...

Addiction is no joke.

wonderingsoul · 29/08/2013 15:21

PAWPRINT- it has. the last time she had just got back in to contact with her daughter, she wasnt living with her at the time as she felt it wasnt fair to distrupt her life again when she was happy and settled at her dads.

that was a good couplke of months ago though.

things seem to have got better and better. her daughter is amazing

Maryz · 29/08/2013 15:22

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

thecatfromjapan · 29/08/2013 15:35

SaucyJack I've p.m.ed you.

(I say this because not everyone notices when they get a p.m.)

Arnie123 · 29/08/2013 15:36

I was an alcoholic and when I decided I wanted a baby I stopped before even getting pregnant. I have never drank again. On the other hand my mum was an alcoholic who actually told me I needed to drink at 14. I think when you have kids you need to stop being irresponsible and grow up

HoldMeCloserTonyDanza · 29/08/2013 17:52

Agree with Maryz

Chiggers · 29/08/2013 19:58

Struggling with addiction is extremely hard for the addict and the wider circle of family and friends. For this lady to call SS and ask that her DC be provided with the necessary care that she couldn't give, shows that in spite of her addiction, she was putting her DC first.

I hope that she can now build a strong relationship with her DD and that her DD can understand that her mum did what was best for her.

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