To not want my ILs to just walk in?

[CoolaSchmoola]

My DH is currently away with work, and I am at home with DD. I always keep my front door locked when I am in the house. Today my Dad was coming to take us out to lunch and just before he was due to arrive DD needed changing so I rang him and told him I would be upstairs, and had unlocked the door so he could let himself in when he arrived.

DD and I are in her bedroom and I hear noises from downstairs. So I shout "Hello?!" - no reply, just more noises, including one which sounded like the kettle.

At this point I get a bit nervy as on other occasions when I have told my Dad to let himself in he has always shouted "hello!" when he arrives. This may sound like I'm a bit of a worrier - in my defence my next door neighbour had a walk in burglary whilst she was in the house recently, so there is a reason why I get a touch nervous when I hear noises in my house.

So I shouted "Hello?!" again, followed by "Dad?!" and the reply was "No, it's us." - my MIL, and then I heard cups being taken off the dresser. I was really pissed off because I'd been starting to get quite worried and annoyed that apparently they were staying for a drink without actually asking if it was convenient.

I had no idea they were coming over so wasn't expecting anyone but my Dad - if they had phoned first I would have told them I was going out and not to come.

AIBU to not want them to just walk in and put the kettle on?

yanbu
do it back. do it with children when pils are busy watching their fave tv etc or hungry children who need food immediately

oh stop it artex with the encouging reading ffs. I am not supposed to be reading. I am supposed to be getting ready to go to the library to do ... ermmm... reading.

yanbu coola. you could have called the police on them given the circumstances. (thinking they were burgulars) now that would have been fun.

We always lock our front door, lots of walk in burglaries around here. My DH accidentally left it unlocked and his parents walked in on us having the mother of all arguments (I was crying and he was furious) and the next minute they were stood in the kitchen having let themselves in ninja-style.

Mil just started yammering on and unloading her various bits of crap from her handbag as if nothing was wrong. I could have hit her with a chair. The door is NEVER left unlocked now.

Learn from your mistake! Bolt the damn door now.

Lol @ Quint... The possibility of mixing them up by accident is even funnier because I know them!

Folk are all different. My DM and my PILs like us to let ourselves in - but i think that's because they like to feel their child still feels their parents home is their home IYKWIM? And are still comfy just marching in like in the past. It's different the other way around though somehow.

I prefer to know who's coming and when and then for them to knock.

I have a friend who likes me to let myself in when i visit. Gets the arse ache if i don't, in fact (and she can be fierce!) I like to knock, hate the idea of taking anyone by surprise of interupting something - but i know she'll get shirty if i make her answer the door and find it's me and i haven't walked in ...

... so i always do this slightly strained routine of knocking and quickly going in and then starting to shout ''hellloooo it's meeee'' while slowly now stepping through the hall, stopping, listening, shouting again, until i hear her soft tones yelling ''yes, i bloody know it is! Come in Fluffy FFS!''