to think the lollipop man shouldn't give my DD a toy

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my 2yo daughter was crying about going in the pushchair when we got outside the school today. The new lollipop man produced a toy horse out his pocket & gave it to her & told her he wanted to know what she'd called it tomorrow. AIBU to feel incredibly uncomfortable about this?

He was probably trying to help you out by taking her mind off it. I wouldn't feel uncomfortable at all with this and would be grateful for the gesture.

YABU - he was just being kind.

Very, very unreasonable!

An act of kindness and consideration should not be regarded as suspicious.

Get a grip. The lollipop man used to give us sweets, we loved him. What exactly do you think will happen to your DD from this "incident"?

YABU - What a nice man.

Stop seeing danger everywhere & relax. The world is full of nice people.

YABU. He was being kind. Something we need much more of in society,

He's a lollipop man! He likes being friendly to children. He didn't try and take her off down the road or anything untoward.

It's sad that people are so suspicious of others doing lovely generous deeds.

Yabu

For Christ's sake! People can't do right for wrong these days, can they?
You are being really, really unreasonable.

Phone the police, warn all parents.

'Nice man in the vicinity, be alert!!!!!'

Random kindness, how lovely.

You're being so unreasonable I ran out of 'v's

Yabu

YANBU. I'd have expected nothing less than a lollipop from a lollipop man! Does he not read his job description!? Tsk.

Poor man.

It was more that she's been screaming her head off to get things since & was a total nightmare at playgroup crying to get toys. Fair enough though IABU & she'll stop again eventually if everyone else ignores the behaviour. I did realise he was being kind & we did thank him, I'm not a total bitch, but hopefully he won't have an endless supply of them!

Well, you didn't explain that was what you were worried about.

Still unreasonable though. He was only trying to help.

It's part of realising that though you can control your own parenting you can't control the rest of the world around you and your child: you have to kind of accept that and parent around it. It does make for harder work, but then again it is nice to think that there is a rich and interesting and sometimes kindly world out there for your dd and her life will be infinitely more than just her and you.

Very sweet, kind thing to do. If your dd has been screaming her head off to get things since & being a total nightmare at playgroup crying to get toys then it is nothing to do with what the lollipop man did. She just sounds overtired.

FFs our lollipop man used to give them all sweets, toys, and was always smiling and happy with the kids.
Many LA's hold awards each year for the friendliest lollipop person.
YABVU, to be so negative.

yabu

Thanks Cory, that was indeed a wise comment. My son has just started school & I'm emotionally wrung out with trying to act casual & helping him stand his ground & ask for help when the other bigger kids are hauling him about by the jacket & he can't stop them, deal with his new refusal to toilet etc etc that I over-reacted to the toy sending her off on one all day. He is a very kind lollipop man who's been down on his luck, so I wouldn't have said anything to him but it still did make me wish it hadn't of happened. I tell you what though I will think twicw about my wording from now on!

oh dear oh dear pedophile alert. nah joking. best if he scowls at her next time eh?!

Our lollipop man won a large amount on the lottery but he carried on doing his job as he loved it

Your LLM sounds sweet. A random act of kindness makes the world a better place.