to take my 4yo DD to Slimming WOrld with me?

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I want to rejoin, but I'm not sure whether it is ok to take a 4yo with me. The consultant won't mind, and there is a play area but am I sending out the wrong signals to DD about weight or am I overthinking it?

After leaving SW the nurse at our surgery weighed me at 10 stone 12 just 2 weeks later.

I used to take my son. He even asks now if we can go again lol he has fond memories of such odd things

Eh?! There seems to be some crazy talk on here to me!!

If your children show an interest in why you attend a slimming club (if you choose to) or why you are changing your/the families diet, surely it is your response to this that makes for them having/not having a dysfunctional relationship with food??

You can choose to say "I/we have been eating rather unhealthily for a while and I have decided to change that so we can all feel better and be a bit healthier"

Or you can say "I/we are all fat bastards and none of us look like those women on the cover of magazines so we are not normal and need to eat nothing but raw carrot until society thinks we are sexy" while getting on the scales every time you've had a cup of tea/wee.

Whereisegg But i couldnt stop that other SW member telling me what weight i should be in front of kids who happened to be there Im not a magician.
And i bet there have been other incidents happen like this in other classes because sometimes you do get ppl who need someone they can feel superior to and believe me they wont give a shit if a kid overhears it or not.

No, you can't control what other people say to you in front of your children, but again I feel it is our own responses to others that is the most important.

"thank you x for that, I am really proud of the changes we've made to our eating and I feel amazing" in front of your dc changes a horrible comment into something you have achieved.

Then you take her to one side and explain that in front of your dc you would prefer it to be positive comments as you want them to hear more 'healthy eating' and if she has something a bit 'harder to hear' she can take you to one side, thanks.

Oh it was a member!

Tell her to shut up then.

I think that is why it is best to avoid taking children who are old enough to understand to such meetings. Even if you say something to counter it then it doesn't mean the child hasn't taken in the comment that was said.

Exactly Sirzy I dont have DC it was another members DC that was there. But kids DO remember stuff I certainly remember stuff that was said when i was a kid.

Whereisegg I totally agree

Kids pick up all sorts of things from other adults/children/TV etc

It's down to us as parents to help them make sense of it by setting them straight/explaining things.

Of course the children are going to hear things regarding weight and appearance at a slimming club.

If you have to take your children then surely you explain that people change their eating habits for different reasons?!

For some people it is about their health, and for others it is all about how they look, there is no getting away from that!