to not know WHAT to think? Can you help me shed some light on it please?

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Long story. But the short and the long of it is....

My MIL has 2 sons and a daughter. I married the middle boy

Each of them has a daughter - so MIL is a granny of three girls (two years or less apart in age).

Historically, MIL not keen on me but appears to like my posh SIL.

Today was one of my nieces birthday parties (MIL's daughter/ hubbys sisters child). It was a big family doo.

My other SIL was there with her daughter.

I was there with mine.

Both my nieces had on matching, expensive looking party dresses. One was the birthday girl of course and the other was her cousin too. I head my SIL say to some distant relation that MIL had bought them matching dresses.

AIBU to think it is a bit weird to buy two out of three of your grand daughters matching dresses and not the third? It was a family only party and they were the only three little girls there. All cousins.

My daughter spotted their matching dresses. I distracted her and did not look as if I noticed whatsoever. But inside I did and I think it was a bit wide of MIL.

AIBU?

Ps. made worse in my mind because she knows my daughter loveeeeeeeeeees dresses. It is a family joke that she won't wear trousers! She would have loved a matching dress and I am confident MIL knows this ....

no- tis weird to leave one out if that is what happened.

I'd think you had a lucky escape from cheesy family photo moment to be honest :o

Bizarre. Are the two matching ones nearer in age?

What did MIL say?

Still, a bit mean though

YABU - maybe they were out shopping together, maybe she thought you wouldn't like the style?

Bit hurtful, tbh. Call her on it.

Poor DD

I hate GP favouritism.

I think your MIL is a complete bitch. I don't think this helps you at all but I feel your pain. What an absolute fucking cow.

Glad it is not just me - I thought it was odd too. Like a statement or something.

Just remembered that when my DD came in to the party - MIL said oh I dooooo like your dress - what pretty corduroy etc. Where did you get it?

I played dumb anyway so did not rise to any bait but am a bit :( for my daughter.

Very mean. I'd mention it to MIL, just to make sure therewasnt a reason behind it!

Yep-def weird, but then again I've been unlucky with MIL's so seems normal behaviour, too.....

My DD wears anything.

In fact due to £'s they are in charity stuff mostly - nice stuff but she doesn't get new.

I am soooooooooooooooooooooo glad it is not just me.

I don't know how I could call her on it - she would only turn it back on me.

Unless I said DD noticed?

Yanbu. Not nice at all

Twat the bitch.

I'm only half kidding. Seriously I would kick up a fucking stink if my MIL did that! I would be on the phone NOW telling her what I thought.

The three girls are all in the same age (ish) clothes.

Sad that people can be like that eh.

Her loss. My DD would look cute in a bin bag

But do you think she did it to wind me up or try to provoke a reaction... I am not sure.

Surely I could not be the only one to notice? A family party with only three girls flouncing around - two matching, one not.

I am crap at kicking up stinks.

Has made me sad though.

You're all right she is a twat and I shall call her that internally. I am far too nice.

If my DD was older she would be hurt. THAT is what will make me see red.

Why don't you arrange something like matching christmas jumpers and leave MIL out. Get everyone a silly one and get her an ordinary one and then insist on a family photo on Christmas day with your new jumpers on. And put your fingers behind her head when the pic is taken.

I would make DH say something myself. I would...I couldn't let that lie.

What does your DH have to say about his mothers treatment of your child?

That would have boiled my piss. My mil used to buy her other gc one "big" item for starting school-eg a coat or the school shoes. She has never so much as bought mine a pencil case.

I would call her on it by saying something like-oh mil/cowbag where did you get those lovely dresses you bought for gc?-such a shame they didn't have my childs size eh? While giving her a huge death stare!

You could ask her if she knows where the girls got their dresses from as DD would love one "just like that", see what she says.

Last year, MIL got my SIL and her daughter very £ jewellery. Which they opened in front of me and oohd and ahhhd.

I got nothing.

I was embarrassed. Did not want anything but getting nothing was very obvious.

I do not want my kids to ever feel like this.

Was this another way of telling me that we are not in HER club?

That in itself would make me want to keep DD far away from her. How can a grown woman be so spiteful to a young child, and her own grandchild at that! I would be so hurt by this YANBU.

some good ideas there ladies

You're right. I think I may have a chat to her next time I see her.

What a miserable old toad leaving my DD out like that!

I think it may be time I grew a pair of balls?

DH does not see the problem - he knows his mum is a bit but see's no malice in her.

I think perhaps it is time I speak to her myself.

But can I do it????