To think that jumping to a person's defense

[MrsLouisTheroux]

Is very noble and all that but is very irritating at the same time.

I can fight my own battles, have my own disagreements, make my own judgements and don't particularly welcome others butting in in a misguided attempt to 'stick up for me'.

I see it quite a bit on here between posters. One will appear on a thread out of nowhere and contribute nothing to the conversation orher than some random comment in defense of their friend.

Why? Leave people to have their own discussions/ disagreements. smells of sucking up to me

It's not their own discussions if its on a public forum tho!

I agree. I stay out of most things unless and until it gets really nasty and obviously bullying. In that case I would say something whether it was my 'friend' being attacked or not.

What? It's a public forum, the whole idea is to wade in with your opinion. Sometimes you'll agree with someone, and sometimes you'll disagree. What don't you get?

TheOne is agreeing with you OP, is she sucking up? Should she just butt out and stop defending you?

The trouble is some posters like it, and some dont.
It is easy to spot some of the posters who like it, but not so easy to spot those that dont.

Wow. Am aware I'm revealing I have no life this morning by posting on this thread but it's quite something to even have this problem and bother with writing it all out and posting it.

True Heysoul Still not on for friends to pile in. I know people in RL on here and will contribute to the same thread but don't start ganging upon anyone who disagrees!
Not happened to me but I see it quite a bit on here.
Reminds me of being 8 at school.

Hang on, it depends what we are talking about her. Offering an opinion that agrees or disagrees with someone is the whole point of Mumsnet. That is not sucking up - I though the OP was just talking about when people get into real scraps over something and the difference of opinion gets nasty and personal, and one party rounds up a bunch of supporters. That's different.

I think people do it with the best intentions. I have no mates on here but I will stick up for other posters if I feel they are being treated too harshly. Usually when there is a bit of a witch hunt.

crumbled :) Don't we all need to get out more?

the one Exactly!

I thought the OP was just talking about when people get into real scraps over something and the difference of opinion gets nasty and personal, and one party rounds up a bunch of supporters. That's different.
This ^^

Oh I get it now, yes that's very bloody irritating when that happens theone

If I think someone is getting an unfair kicking on here,I will jump in 'friend' or not.

Oh, I know what you are talking about now.
It wont stop though. It is human nature with some people.

It's actually ok to have 'friends' on here though.

This thread is going to end badly.

And tbh,if you are getting kicked when you are down ,its nice to have a bit of support.

Yes, usual you do. It's only right innit?

usual If a person is making a valid point on a thread others (friends in RL or not) will support them and agree with them.

The noun is defence, unless you are American.

yellowballoons Sat 24-Aug-13 10:37:33 This thread is going to end badly.
Think you may be right there!

I am American.

Password that was unnecessary really. I have a apple mac that autocorrects all of my typing to American English, and changes colloquial words it doesn't recognise. I spell very well but sometimes I just can't be arsed to proof read and change everything, especially as my autocorrect likes to argue back at me and will make me change something for or five times before it backs down.