My boyfriend is 30, he's around 2+ stone overweight but tall and big built so carries it quite well. I couldn't care less about his weight with regards to his appearance as I like him just the way he is, but obviously want him to be healthy.
We've been together 4 years and he's always been a bit overweight but has probably put on about a stone in the time we've been together. But in all that time he's always complaining about his weight but never does anything about it. He's now convinced himself that he's going to have a heart attack.
He makes out that it's my fault that he's overweight. I am not overweight but I do like to have a takeaway and eat out at the weekend but I know my limits on portion size whereas he will eat until he feels sick. He stays over at mine 3-5 nights a week and I feel under pressure to make him a healthy tea or it's my fault he's not losing weight.
I don't think that it's my fault as I don't think he understands about long term healthy eating, he thinks if he has a roast dinner he can stuff himself silly as it's homemade, he was eating big portions before we even met and would take 2-3 bars of chocolate to work each day before I encouraged him to take fruit and nuts as snacks. Or he thinks it's ok to have two cereal bars in place of one chocolate bar, even though the cereal bars have got as many calories and sugar if not more than a kitkat.
If I say I'd like to have a takeaway or go out for a meal he pulls a really guilty face as though it's the worst sin in the world and I'm a really bad influence.
I've tried to get him to come swimming, go for walks, I've even suggested jogging together but he doesn't like exercise. He says his job is physical enough or he's too tired to exercise.
Might sound harsh but I'm 28 and I don't want to be worrying about diets and weight, I find it all a bit of a bore and just want to take an everything in moderation approach.
It's not that I mean to be unsupportive it's just for example he's phoned me tonight and had a moan about how he's getting chest pains and he's going to have a heart attack. I'm sure that's a hint at me to get the tea on for tomorrow and Friday when he comes over, but then he tells me he's had a full English on his way to work this morning and been and got chip shop for his tea.