MistressDeeCee Fri 23-Aug-13 22:53:34
"Cant bear Katie Hopkins. But on this occasion for once I agree with just a little of what she's said. " for some children a lack of exercise, poor diet and absence of parental control is also an issue ". Yes, it is an issue and its normally met head on with an ADHD label. "
What's your evidence for this? Where is this "normally"?
In my world= the world where my dc go to school, badly behaved children do not get given ADHD labels: they get given detentions! Diagnoses of ADHD are given by qualified professionals to children whose behaviour and general profile is obviously very different from ordinarily naughty children.
Parents may try to excuse their child's bad behaviour with ADHD, but parents don't get to make a diagnosis. And as you yourself have noticed, teachers don't get to decide about the diagnosis either. Your nephew didn't get a diagnosis, did he?
Children who have suffered trauma and are acting out (like the poor boy I mentioned earlier) do indeed get put on the SEN register, but that is a simple matter of flagging up that they need extra support; it does not equate to a diagnosis of SN.
SEN means (among other things): a child of whom we cannot always have normal expectations (the assumption being that otherwise children do have to live up to certain expectations- or take the consequences)
In the case of your nephew, over the next years one of three things is likely to happen:
either he will settle down as he matures and realise that he has to adapt to the group
or (as he grows older) he will be punished for being naughty until he learns to behave
or professionals will discover that there is some underlying reason why he cannot be expected to behave like the other children= SEN and adjustments will be made.
What cannot be allowed to happen is for one child to carry on spoiling everybody else's experience. My nephew was in a class with three boys displaying very disruptive behaviour, the problem was never addressed, nobody learnt anything and the (totally unsupported) teacher eventually had a breakdown and went off sick. This was the worst possible solution: nobody knew whether the boys could be expected to behave normally and should have been forced to do so or if they couldn't and extra resources should have been set in to give the other children and the teacher a break. So nothing was done at all. Years of wasted classroom time for everybody involved. Bloody awful (and I'm glad to say it wasn't in this country).
My ds was unconcentrated and lazy. He needed disciplining, so as not to ruin the lesson for himself and for everybody else.
My friend's ds is on the autistic spectrum. He needed support so the lesson wouldn't be ruined for himself and everybody else.
Big difference. And for anybody who knew them, pretty obvious difference.