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Original poster

Aibu to live off weetabix and tomato soup for the first trimester?

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Poopyisapig · 20/08/2013 14:25

Dh and I just had a row as apparently I am not looking after myself or the growing baby.

I'm 8 weeks and feeling like shit, constantly nauseous and throwing up. Actually, weetabix and to tomato soup in one day is a victory at the moment.

I hate the smell of everything else and even the thought makes me gag. He stands by the fridge shouting out "how about eggs? Tuna? Salad" and wonders why I run to the loo to throw up.

I want him to come down with a vomiting bug and then I will wave fried eggs under his nose and see how he bloody likes it.

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PinkPepper · 20/08/2013 14:27

Sounds better than the McDonald's fries and salt and vinager mcoys I lived on

GlitterFingers · 20/08/2013 14:29

Do it as long as you're taking vitamins some foods better than no food

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MrsHoarder · 20/08/2013 14:30

I lived on water, polos and plain crisps for 4 months. Your diet sounds positively healthy so long as you are managing a folic acid supplement. The featus will take what's needed.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 20/08/2013 14:32

Last PG it was beef and tomato cuppasoup and dry bread. This time, cheese and potatoes.
IMO you eat what you can to get through the first trimester. Baby is very small at this stage and needs little, but gets everything it does need from the food you eat before you do.
Would you like me to come round and beat your DP around the head with a tin of tuna?

DeWe · 20/08/2013 14:33

The best advice I was given was to eat what you can manage. But I had ms for 24/7 for 8 months, so ate rubbish as the only thing I could keep down.

pianodoodle · 20/08/2013 14:33

Heinz tomato soup is lush I lived off it when I had morning (all day) sickness.

And ready salted crisps helped my nausea!

I took the pregnacare vitamins too each morning.

I'm 21 weeks now and am back to eating well...apart from the whole packet of cadburys mallows I had after lunch there Blush

It's nice your DH cares but he's being a pain!

In my first pregnancy my DH bought me dates from the health shop and all sorts of stuff that made me want to puke.

blueemerald · 20/08/2013 14:33

It sounds like he means well and is worried about you and the baby but is going about it all wrong. It's often repeated advice on here but could you get a health care professional to have a friendly word.

Justforlaughs · 20/08/2013 14:34

Firstly, congratulations!!
Secondly, don't worry about it, eat what you can. Weetabix are great, would you be able to eat freshly made tomato soup? Just thinking that he could make you some and would feel better about it, it would be healthier for YOU than the tinned variety, (not that it will do any harm to you or the baby).

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Poopyisapig · 20/08/2013 14:34

I already have a dc from my first marriage who is ten. In that pregnancy I had HG and was sick until I gave birth.

Dh very patronising informed me its because I didn't eat properly (the bastard didn't know me then!) and if this heads the same way then it's my fault.

He would thank his lucky stars I was about to be sick and had to leave the kitchen or I would've stabbed him for that.

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MrsTerryPratchett · 20/08/2013 14:34

Pop corn and tiny bites of apple. I lost weight and threw up all the time. Then, pop corn was triggering too. Horrible.

Babies are parasites and will get what they need. That's why you used to lose a tooth per baby.

MrsTerryPratchett · 20/08/2013 14:36

x-posted. DH is a twunt. Tell him to fuck off from me

insancerre · 20/08/2013 14:38

YANBU
Eat what you can.
I lived off icecubes some days, my sickness was so bad. The other days I lived off melon and yoghurt. With the odd fruit salad and blackjack thrown in.
DH learnt very quickly not to make me eat, after one of his meals ended up all over the living room carpet minutes after I had eaten it Grin

GrumpyRedhead · 20/08/2013 14:38

Yep, eat whatever stays down! Agree that if you reach the point water won't stay down, seek treatment.

When I was hospitalised with HG, I was told that the baby was a 'parasite' and will get the nutrients it needs from you no matter what, calcium from your teeth etc

ShabbyButNotChic · 20/08/2013 14:38

I think his heart is in the right place but i would think its better to eat something thats stays down! My friend has and 8month old and had really bad morning sickness. while she was pregnant all she ate for about 6months was ready salted seabrook crisps, marmite on toast, oranges and sour haribo. Although at least one of them was fruit i suppose :) but it was better for her to just accept it for a while rather than force herself to eat things that would make her sick. She turned a corner at 6months though, literally woke up in the middle of the night and demanded her dh make her a bacon sandwich! From that moment on she ate everything in sight :)
Eat what you like!

monikar · 20/08/2013 14:38

I ate just cheerios and toast for 3 months and even that was a struggle. It is better to eat what you fancy even if it is not 'conventional'. Also being so empty through lack of food from the sickness increases the felling of nausea.

MummyPig24 · 20/08/2013 14:38

Just eat whatever you want. I'm 10 weeks and still feeling sick. I can't manage an evening meal at the moment so I'm just eating a little of what I fancy.

Morebirthdayblues · 20/08/2013 14:40

Cheese toasties and walkers crisps here!! Am 8 wks as well so totally feel your pain, ur DH is being an arse, but probably just means well.

It's a very hard thing to explain unless you've been through it.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss · 20/08/2013 14:40

Im 10 and a half weeks now. I haven't gained anything. My belt is actually tighter than it was to start with! Confused

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Poopyisapig · 20/08/2013 14:41

I know he means well, but comments like I had HG because I didn't eat properly make him sound like a bloody idiot.

I didn't eat a single man made carb for five years prior to three and a had weeks ago, consequently, I do feel sluggish eating weetabix now, but I cannot stand any of the foods I are before, and I certainly can't entertain the thought of fat and meat.

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GobbySadcase · 20/08/2013 14:43

Just supplement with a vitamin, ie pregnacare.
Eating and keeping down trumps eating and throwing up any day!

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Poopyisapig · 20/08/2013 14:51

Yes, I've got pregnacare tablets.

Touch wood this won't be anything like my first pregnancy, but I have to make him realise how crap I feel and that it's normal to feel this way.

The argument stemmed from talking about PIL visiting at the weekend - they want to go out to an Indian resteraunt. I've said great, you go and have a good time with them, there is no way I could eat the food or smell it. He thew a wobbly saying that it would be rude of me not to go.

I am sure they will understand and surely, it would be ruder for me to throw up in the resteraunt?

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Ezio · 20/08/2013 14:53

Poopy, give him two choices, go alone or clean up your sick in the restaurant, hes been warned and he has to choose.

PinkPepper · 20/08/2013 14:58

I found it better to shop each day some days I surprised myself and ate better so by shopping that day could cram good food in. But didn't waste anything on the days I couldn't manage much

SaucyJack · 20/08/2013 15:00

Kick him in the nuts.

My DP did make a few noises about all the shite I'm eating this pg, so I've been leaving the bathroom door open when I go to chuck up bile just so's he can truly grasp how fricking awful I feel.