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What's the most pampered/indulged behaviour you've ever seen?

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ChaosTrulyReigns · 16/08/2013 12:08

When I used to have a proper job Wink, one of my colleagues would phone her mom at the first spit of rain to go and fetch her washing in. This was about 8 miles from the office (so who knew what the weather was like at home?) abd a 4 mile round trip fir the mom and dad (mom didn't drive).

SIOB that the parents would do it!

She once called home and asked her to go and wash up a breakfast bowl as she had run out of time to do it.

Hmm
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TheSecondComing · 18/08/2013 08:52

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waterlego6064 · 18/08/2013 10:38

not sure what people's physical appearance has to do with anything

I thought that when Reality said that people who don't like the idea of being pampered 'must be a bit fat' Hmm

Reality · 18/08/2013 10:41

Er, I was taking the piss.

Those of us who have said our partners or parents pamper us a bit have been called obese, thick, learning disabled and ugly. Which is nice.

SoftDay · 18/08/2013 11:43
Sad Yes, this thread got a bit nasty. Damn, I shouldn't let comments by strangers on an Internet forum get to me . The suggestions that pampered/indulged women are most likely fat and ugly and possibly have learning disabilities were pretty nasty.

I have many faults, but being spoilt and indulged is not one of them. I am, however, very fat and have been since I was a kid. Ergo, I am physically repulsive. I do, however, like to do my make-up every day, style my hair nicely and do my nails. It makes me feel ever so slightly less grotesque. I know myself that it is largely a case of putting lipstick on a pig, but it still hurts to have this confirmed by other people Sad. Sniff.

Reality · 18/08/2013 12:22

SoftDay, have a big squishy hug from me and ignore the nastiness.

BOF · 18/08/2013 12:24
Wink
themaltesefalcon · 18/08/2013 12:24

SoftDay, ignore the wankers.

I also feel like a goddess with a bit of freshly-applied slap on. 'Tis good for the soul.

SoftDay · 18/08/2013 12:25

Aw thanks, Reality. I might squash you though Grin. Don't mind me, I'm projecting! Am going to spoil myself now with a sausage sandwich Shock!! A sauswidge, if you will.

SoftDay · 18/08/2013 12:27

BOF, don't mind if I do! As well as being a porker, I am also a smoker!!!!

Ta, maltese! I will stop hijacking the thread now with my pity party; that is rather selfish and entitled Grin

bornagaindomesticgoddess · 18/08/2013 12:32

I had everything done for me as a child and young adult, not because I was indulged, but because my mum was busy and impatient and wasn't inclined to show me how to do things myself.

When I left home and had a family of my own, I really feel that we - including my kids - suffered due to my complete ineptitutde.

Doing everything for your kids is nothing to be proud of - you are doing them a great disservice.

CorrineFoxworth · 18/08/2013 12:36

Thanks Soft. I didn't mention weight but have realised that I made an unnecessary comment about how someone looked and have had it withdrawn.

Hopasholic · 18/08/2013 12:49

Just tried the 'I would really like a coffee but the cat's on my knee' with DH. And he made me one! Princess Hop for the day! well until I unload the dishwasher, un-pack the cases and put the washing on

Reality · 18/08/2013 12:53

I just said to DH, would you Ding Ding me please, my angel.

And as if by magic, he made me coffee.

I love that man.

Bogeyface · 18/08/2013 13:06

Can I have sosswidge please? If I had the bread I could make one for myself if I had some sausages, but as I dont I need someone to princess me one :o

SinisterSal · 18/08/2013 13:14

Stop missing the point people, nobody gives a shiny shite about reciprical
recipricol mutual pampering, just indulged princesses with a team of shat on servants!

HepsibarCrinkletoes · 18/08/2013 13:54

Dear Reality

If I ding ding next weekend will I get the same response?

Ta,

Heps.

TealRhino · 18/08/2013 13:54

DD2's best friend's mum is a total pampered princess. She's in her late forties but acts like a tantruming toddler most of the time, and has no friends. Two husbands have also left her for being a madam! I put up with her for years and years as DD and her DD are friends, but recently after one of her tantrums I told her to fuck off and now I have nothing to do with her.

She is an extremely demanding person; everything has to be on her terms, and as long as she is getting everything her own way then all is fine. The second someone refuses to do as she demands then the toys come out of the pram! She left me a really shitty answerphone message when I'd just had DC3 as she wanted me to go on a night out (5 days after giving birth) and wasn't happy as my mobile was switched off and my landline wasn't answered. More recently, she made a really nasty phone call to me as I hadn't phoned her and offered her DD a lift home from brownies. I was apparently supposed to absorb by osmosis the fact that her car was in the garage that day. That was when I told her to fuck off. There are a million other examples I could write but we'd be here all day.

Over the years she has fallen out with most of her friends; in the early days of me knowing her she fell out with a group of mutual friends as she got in a strop about not getting her way on a night out. Mums at the school dislike and avoid her. She has fallen out with me, and shortly before falling out with me she went on a girls' weekend away with 5 other friends and fell out with the lot of them when she was there as apparently she had a hissy fit about someone taking instant coffee instead of fresh coffee, and because she wanted a double bed to herself and for the person she was set to roomshare with to sleep on the sofa in their holiday lodge. She is extremely selfish, and seems absolutely oblivious to anyone else's needs or wants. She is also a very rude, abrupt person, and makes nasty personal comments. Clearly she was allowed to speak to her family like dirt as a child and therefore thinks everyone else will accept the same treatment from her.

Reality · 18/08/2013 13:55

You will, Heps, he'll ding ding all of us.

And hopefully make us a fry up in the morning.

noddyholder · 18/08/2013 13:57

My step brother is a lot younger than us and when he was a baby my mother laid him out on a sheepskin cradle thing in the back of the car and we had to either walk or crouch in the boot. No wonder he is 32 now and totally useless

TealRhino · 18/08/2013 14:00

Oh and I also knew a girl at college who was one of the types discussed earlier that has been so spoilt they have decided they are more gorgeous than anyone else and need to be pampered by all!

This girl had everything given to her on a plate; sports car (bearing in mind we were 17/18 this was a big thing), huge clothing allowance, weekly trips to the hairdresser, loads of holidays, and seemed to think she was superior to everyone. She constantly banged on about how gorgeous she was and how women were jealous of her and men were in awe of her.

In truth, she was very average looking but dolled up like a dog's dinner; party dresses on in the middle of the day, in winter, fake tanned from her forehead down to her toes, huge false eyelashes, thick blue eyeshadow right up to her eyebrows, hair extensions, etc. So therefore she interpreted this as her being gorgeous .

Now we were in our mid thirties and I've not seen her in years, but she is on my FB friends and I have to say she looks like a man in drag now, but still seems totally in love with herself and spoilt.

Reality · 18/08/2013 14:04

Haha I have just taught the baby to hold his cup up and say 'ding ding'.

Genius.

HepsibarCrinkletoes · 18/08/2013 14:06

This is excellent news. LOVE that you've taught Baby Boots to do it too!

cory · 18/08/2013 14:14

SinisterSal Sun 18-Aug-13 13:14:04
"Stop missing the point people, nobody gives a shiny shite about reciprical recipricol mutual pampering"

This.

If dh and I take it in turns to make each other's dinner that is not indulgent behaviour. If dd is led to believe she never has to do the washing up because she is our precious princess, then that is indulgent behaviour and likely to affect other people when she goes to uni.

I deal every year with students who are flabbergasted to find that they are expected to do their own reading, make their own phone calls, keep track of their own personal effects and do their own time management because this has not been their experience of how life works. In their world, mum and dad sort out anything that is difficult, and a tutor is just another mum and dad replacement.

SPsTotallyMullerFuckingLicious · 18/08/2013 16:16

Reality I got a bit jealous reading you had your cigs lit for you! No faffing looking for a lighter, then finding out it wont light straight away, having to turn in different directions so wind doesn't blow the flame out first.

Sounds like something I need. Someone who stands and lights my cigs up. Something so small but sounds so nice.

Grin
LessMissAbs · 18/08/2013 16:59

Lessmissabs.by god you're RIGHT....not sure what peoples physical appearance has to do with anything. That's just a bitchy thing to say

Dammit. I forgot the "nasty" word. Anyone who doesn't agree they deserve to be pampered is "nasty". Mucho aplogogeta.