What's the most pampered/indulged behaviour you've ever seen?

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When I used to have a proper job , one of my colleagues would phone her mom at the first spit of rain to go and fetch her washing in. This was about 8 miles from the office (so who knew what the weather was like at home?) abd a 4 mile round trip fir the mom and dad (mom didn't drive).

SIOB that the parents would do it!

She once called home and asked her to go and wash up a breakfast bowl as she had run out of time to do it.

I'm still laughing at the girl in her first job whose dad is bringing her a plate of lunch every day that has absolutely made my weekend

And the DDs of these spoilt princesses will grow up with the same 'aspirations'? Actually that's just made me feel really sad. aturtle put it perfectly. You are just setting them up for a life of relying on other people to make them happy.

I don't understand the indulgence of someone running me a bath. DH are both in the dark as to why that is a treat.

I remember finding out my dsis's 19 yo bf had his hair washed my his DM. I don't understand the appeal or need here either. I much prefer showers (confused)

My df had a very low pain threshold. Her DM comes to sit with her when she has a headache (not a migraine). She also cries very easily. Misplaced keys, burnt toast, a bit of a cold can lead to sobbing. She is lovely but we couldn't be more different in that respect.

I wasn't aware that any of the posts said that the spoilt would-be princess types were obese. I said that one of the spoilt princesses I know has a personal trainer paid for her by her boyfriend, because she wants to lose a lot of weight.

As for the "nasty" accusation I've seen it more often any accusations that would-be princesses are ugly and/or obese. It is however the case that I've found the most spoilt types to not quite match up to their own notions of their own physical allure. If posters describe themselves as "trophy wives" then that tends to conjure up a vision of beauty greater than the average. So their appearance is relevant because they paint it as their greatest (and perhaps only?) asset. And from what I've seen in practice is that they tend to be average at best.

But alas, any pointing out of the painful truth is "nasty" - that highly analytical term!

AaDB, I suppose it's that you just sit and do whatever yu were doing, reading/watching TV etc until you're ready to actually jump in
...or be carefully lifted in :o ....
I don't like baths but I agree, turning on a tap and waiting is hardly taxing.

Yes, AaDB, Running a bath? WTF. You just turn a tap. Takes a second. Literally.

Oh fair enough. I have never met anyone who would describe or see themselves as a trophy wife. I personally would assume low self-worth or low ambition or low confidence in own abilities.
Will try to avoid using the word nasty from now on.

Well NO toys you actually have to close the plug, put bubbles in, test the temperature and turn the tap OFF again. Unsurprising that after all this physical exertion, the person just needs a lie down.
Oh no...towels....need someone to get the towels....

DH once had a bath running for me when I came home from a shitty mcshitty long day at work. And dinner bubbling on the hob and wine chilling. It was lovely. The difference is probably someone being thoughtful when you need it and someone being obliged because you'll give them hell if they don't.

I was thinking particularly of this comment: "I don't think that anyone has got the heart to tell her that when she is the wrong side of 20 stone and dressing with a wanton disregard for her size, literally no one is looking at her nails." which I thought was particularly bitchy. Not nasty. Bitchy and a tad teenagerish.

exactly sinister. Dh would never run me a bath as he knows that I don't like them. But he sometimes brushes my hair when I can't be bothered :o

Yes, true, I suppose SPB.. I tend to use the shower head to fill the bath as it's quicker that way in this house, for some reason. You can adjust the temp with the thermostat, so I don't need to dick about testing the water. Prefer showers anyway and when having a bath with DS we get in the empty bath and fill it while we sit in it. However, however! On occasion, when DS wants to get out of the bath before I do, I just lift him over the edge and tell him to find daddy to dry him, so I can stay in the bath

DH catches the ungodly big spiders and puts them outside on my behalf. I will deal with small ones (or just leave them where they are - they can share my space), but the big ones DH needs to come and deal with. Like the one he chucked out yesterday. It was so big that when I caught it running on the floor from the corner of my eye, I thought it was a small mouse.

I am an only child and my parents do sometimes buy me things, but I clean their house most weekends and catsit for their three cats when they are away (quite regularly) - they have the money to treat me and I have the time and inclination to help them whenever I can so it works both ways.

If I had someone to run my bath the bathroom would never be cleaned at all - it's the perfect opportunity to give everything a good wipe when you're waiting for the water.

SBS I was thinking particularly of this comment: "I don't think that anyone has got the heart to tell her that when she is the wrong side of 20 stone and dressing with a wanton disregard for her size, literally no one is looking at her nails." which I thought was particularly bitchy. Not nasty. Bitchy and a tad teenagerish

Have to admit I missed that comment.

But I think the general sentiment is that very few people tend to share the adoration of the spoilt princess with their parents or DH. And not being aware of that is kind of strange, from a social interaction point of view, since most psychologically" normal" people have a desire to get on with people outside the family group.

There is also little more cringeworthy than seeing someone who mistakenly considers themselves highly alluring and batting their eyelids and/or acting like a spoilt brat expecting a certain level of attention, and being ignored.

But then I'm not a man, I don't tend to respond to spoilt princessy acts, I just find them irritating!

I don't know ANY men who would respond to that LessMiss. But they MUST exist, I guess.

What Sinister said. It's the expectation that makes the difference.

I had a bath run for dp coming in from work today (I'm on holiday). He didn't expect it though. Wine chilling and baked a pie for tea.

He does loads for me, just little things but it's really nice and thoughtful of him.

eating you are very gracious & I was harsh earlier, I hope you recover soon

I interpreted your situation earlier as entitled, unreciprocated "princessey" behaviour & you sound v reasoned & lovely.

Parenting a dd as a single parent (who has managed most housework & DIY over the years!) I get v exercised by those who exhibit "learned helplessness" in order to manipulate others so they can sit on their arses (& I don't think you're one of them!) & I really want dd to learn she can do anything she wants so long as she puts the work in. So I think I over-reacted.

Mind you some of the lighthearted examples are horrendous!

The daughters may not necessarily have Thr same aspirations.

My dad has run around after my mum for half a century now, meeting her every whim and infantilising her. Including to my detriment at times when he really should have been sticking up for me.

She admits openly she only wanted a girl child, said if I was a boy she would have had another but as I was a girl which she could dress up that was all she needed. I was another toy..

I out earn dh,I have several degrees, I am the most fiercely independent person I know to the point where evey six months I work out my finances if I split from DH to ensure I can still afford it (I have no intentions of ever splitting but it reassures me I am here because I WANT to be and not because I need to)

She did try to pass on the entitled behaviour to me but as I got older I found her simpering manipulation and immature sulking disgusting. I have a lot of pity for her but not much in the way of respect, she's another child and has never had a proper life, and she's ended up making herself ill because of it.

I'm spoilt too - I married another only child, we spoil each other, especially probably in terms of the amount of attention we give each other, but if I want something I buy it myself, if I need something I get it myself, and I'm teaching my two girls to do the same. It doesn't mean I don't enjoy people being nice to me or doing nice things for me - but I don't want or need to be infantilised thank you very much.

My mother was truly stunning though.

My Princess friend demanded an engagement ring costing a silly multiple of her intended's salary then when they got married, insisted he with his commuting costs and much lower salary pay 50% of their expenses and then nagged for an "eternity diamond" after a year of marriage which cost 10k

She was not conventionally attractive by any means and her DH tried it on with every female in the vicinity including me. I wouldn't be surprised if he got lucky with most of the women he knew because she was so bloody awful, you'd have to feel sorry for him. Perhaps that's why these enablers do it?

My MIL, of whom I'm very fond and who is generally a nice woman, is something of a princess. She was a spoiled child and my FIL has continued to indulge this throughout her adult life.

Last weekend we went to a family wedding. On arrival at the reception venue (lovely village hall), MIL immediately examined the place-name cards on the tables and then stood in a corner with her arms folded and a cats-bum expression due to the fact that she and FIL had been seated with people they don't know, and that the table was 'in the corner'. Rather than ignoring this spoilt behaviour, my FIL and DH immediately started rearranging place settings, which I though was exceptionally rude and ridiculous. I'm actually still quite fucked off with DH for indulging her in this way. She will never learn if they keep pandering to her.

Later, as we queued up to collect our food (hog roast), the cats-bum expression returned to MIL's face, and she made comments about it not being 'like a proper wedding' and 'well, it's basically a BBQ isn't it?'. Even though she eats pork, she couldn't countenance having any of the hog roast because she had seen it looking vaguely animal-shaped on the spit. There was plenty of other food besides the pork. Later, when someone asked if she'd enjoyed her meal, she pouted and complained that she'd only had some quiche and salads and potatoes and bread rolls.
Errrr.....well, that's a meal isn't it? The wingeing really got on my tits.

At Christmas, if you decide to be imaginative and buy her something that's not on her list, she pulls a face and then asks if you've still got the receipt. We just stick to the list these days.

She is very nice in lots of other ways though. Just a bit spoilt and has certain expectations.

lego: Your MIL has a Christmas wish list?

Oh yes indeed Toys. And she expects lists from all of us, usually in about October. I don't like making present lists and usually try to fob her off by saying 'ooh, surprise me...anything would be nice...I don't mind', but she gets quite upset and insistent.