What's the most pampered/indulged behaviour you've ever seen?

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When I used to have a proper job , one of my colleagues would phone her mom at the first spit of rain to go and fetch her washing in. This was about 8 miles from the office (so who knew what the weather was like at home?) abd a 4 mile round trip fir the mom and dad (mom didn't drive).

SIOB that the parents would do it!

She once called home and asked her to go and wash up a breakfast bowl as she had run out of time to do it.

My dsis friend had a part time nanny after she had one child and a full time one now age has two dch. You guessed it, she doesn't work.

Oh and she has a cleaner.

I think threesy has shocked me on just about every thread I have seen her on. She might actually be me in opposites universe. OPPOSITES universe.

Exactly what I mean Spikey, don't these people realise that indulging their children like this is not "cute" or "treating them well", it is raising a generation that cannot function on a basic human level and creating huge problems for those of us that have to teach/employ/enter relationships with them.

My Dad has never washed his own hair, my mum and his mother have always washed it!

The other day my kettle was boiling on the stove (whistling kettle!) and I called over and said could he turn off the gas. He had no idea howmtomturn it off!

If he is sitting in sofa and wants something he will call my Mum who then goes and gets it (even if she is in another too, doing something).

What a lazy arse!

It's lovely to spoil your loved ones occasionally, and of course to be spoiled. It feels good.

But being a 'princess' 'hardwork' 'materialistic' or 'whining for things you want'....???? That's doesn't sound like somehting to be proud of. In fact, I'd be ashamed if I had to use any of those words to describe my DD. I'd consider myself a crap parent!

The feminist and the parent in me would be very disappointed in DS if he got together with a girl like that.

It is not being a princess. It is being a billy.

Your family only do these ridiculous things because you bully them.

HTH.

bully
Not billy

I have just remembered my cousin, whose (working) parents drive to his flat, pick him up and drop him at work each morning, and presumably home too afaik.

It's not on their way - he's nearly 37 & wonders why he had trouble witn relationships (he is a lovely bloke in lots of ways tbf).

My friends DIL has been.a SAHM for 6 years. Her DH works all day including anhour each way commute. As soon as he's through the door of an evening she hands their 3 DC's over for him to do dinner, bath & bed, before he cooks their meal.

Obviously it's great that he spends this time with the kids but it is all very much about what she expects rather than teamwork.

I understand the need for "pampering" in terms of someone helping someone else with e.g. physical or mental health problems (I'm no stranger to them myself!) who needs the help to function and be happy, but then surely it's not "pampering" or being a "princess" it is a necessity and it's called "caring for someone". Also, with severe enough needs the carer can get compensated for this "caring".

However, if the need is not there and it's all about "wants" then I think expecting to be "pampered" (because one is a pwincess, you see!) is ridiculous and infantile. And the people who facilitate this kind of behaviour are just about as silly.

This is quite possibly the weirdest thread I have ever read on mn. Ever.

Seems to me, we should be less worried about the 'princess' t-shirts sold in shops and slightly more worried about women who think this is a valid way to live.

I don't know what has made some of the posters behave like this and I am very sorry if they've had horrible experiences that have made them like this. But seriously, its really no way to live.

Its very interesting though. I grew up in a single parent household so my mother did everything and would have had a fit if I'd tried to act like a princess.

And I also wonder how people who are very pampered form normal friendships where generally, well people just won't put up with such spoilt behaviour.

Haven't read the thread yet, but I must confess to spoiling my little son terribly when it comes to doing his nails. He kicks up a terrible fuss when I try and cut them, so he sits there like Little Lord Fauntleroy while I FILE them for him - and his toenails - and then paint them for him and do little designs on them. I can't believe I even let it happen to begin with and am hoping he'll grow out of it eventually! [Blush]

toys I think the people who facilitate the behaviour often feel powerless to do otherwise. They avoid the displeasure of the princess who will be 'hardwork' if they don't get what they want.

Alternatively, there are some men who positively revel in having fairly idiotic wives and daughters. It makes them feel manly...imagine having to play this game just to feel like a man?

Ooh, and my sister-in-law, who has never paid rent or mortgage (her father just gave her a flat), packed in her job as soon as she found out she was pregnant and has a cleaner even when she was home alone all day. When she got pregnant for the second time, she refused to carry even a changing bag ("I can't carry things! I am pregnant!"). To my knowledge, she has never cooked a meal in her life, not even for the children.

When my son was on his year abroad as part of his MFL degree he shared a flat with an Italian student. They were at university in Portugal. Once a month the Italian lad's mother flew in from Rome. She brought with her prepared meals for her son for the next month. They were in plastic containers neatly labelled with their contents. They occupied the whole fridge/freezer. Needless to say my son did not get the same service from me.

Most of the food was then thrown away as the lad preferred to eat out!

Strange but I would be hugely embarrassed and ashamed to admit that I acted like a princess and had others running round after me.Likewise I would feel that I had failed as a parent if I had adult children incapable of looking after themselves.
I have an adult son with a disability and have spent the last eighteen years doing everything in my power to get him as independent as possible it seems unfathomable to me that parents of perfectly capable adult children spend time mollycoddling them.

God forbid if any Princesses (and I include any on this thread) have anything happen that means they have to do things for themselves. You'd have to grow up pretty quick.

Being spoilt is not an attractive quality, in anyone. More fool the parents treating them that way.

This is absolutely fascinating. I'm so relieved, I don't think I know anyone like this!

Just to pick up on some of the comments earlier, it might just be a phrasing problem but there's a world of difference between some of these examples.

I can see how, if your parents live far away and you only stay a few times a year, your mum running you a bath and bringing you tea and food is a nice thing to do and is just a mum spoiling her child on the odd occasion.

But not putting the shopping into the car boot and just sitting watching because it "completely unintrests me"

Have read the thread from the beginning and was boggling at the 'we are princesses' attitude of some.

I'm an only child and somewhat indulged. By that I mean, when (as a single woman who is freelance) times have been tough financially, I've been able to ask my parents for a loan. And they've been in the situation to enable that. But - but!- I've ALWAYS paid it back. May have taken a year but its always been repaid. Both my father and I have been strict about it (me ma would let me off). It's a matter of both pride and my needing be in a situation to ask them again. They just wouldn't if I hadn't.

Indulged to me is my dad picking me up from the train station when I go to visit. I'd happily get a cab(and always say I will) but they like collecting me. It starts the visit early! And if I were to catch up with friends who live in the same town, again, I'd happily get a cab but they wouldn't hear of it (but not back, when they would be snoring!).

But get my special Ben & Jerry's (for example)?! They'd laugh me out of the room! (Although my dad does pick up my skimmed milk when I'm coming to stay but in the normal shop).

I ain't a princess. I'm. A Queen! And Queens are independent by nature!

Mil, Gil does everything for her. I jest not including putting her socks on.

Word: I agree with you. Just boils my piss to think that this sort of stuff is voluntarily taking place after all the work women have done not to be treated just as "little ladies". I have NO respect for that.

My ex made his agoraphobic mother come 200 miles on the train to look after him when he had a minor op at university. After all he couldn't be expected to feed himself when he had a couple of stitches in his man-bits, could he? Never mind the legions of women who are doing this after pregnancy and labour while being wholly responsible for a newborn and trying to get to grips with BF too.

Phew, I had a lucky escape there!

"seconds the spoiled little sod over-indulged child was butting in with "i want this" "you said I could have" etc. AND SHE BLOODY broke off our conversation and started squabbling with him. Every. Sodding. Time.
I was not impressed."

maybe your being av bit harsh, a 10 year old was probably bored out of his tree , did he have anything to do? and plus would you expect her to ignore her own child to talk to you? also its actually proven that ignoring them makes them more "mum,mum,mum!!"

Tantrums thats hilarious, and the washing up one haha.

I know one bloke who's mum did all his cooking , even though he is a chef!