...to be worried about what I'll do with my life when my DCs grow up?

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The DC's take up all my time at the moment. Neither of them are in school yet. I really love being so busy - there's never a moment to be bored. We spend the weekends out in playgrounds & parks and I love it.

I was speaking to a friend whose two children are teenagers now and she said she feels a bit redundant now. Her DC's just need her to give them lifts - and they spend all their time with their friends

So I know it's a long way off - but I'm worried life will seem a bit pointless once they're raised - and ill have too much time on my hands

I got a dog I luffs him mine are homebodies and dd1 is a grown up but still lives at home they still have time for me

Six foot! She must be gorgeous :)

I do suspect they will be here for a long time yet my sister is still at home and she is 30

I think 35 is a good age to get married and leave!

I will be 78 when the youngest is 35, mother of god!

I wouldn't worry - it will be gradual and you will start to rediscover time to yourself, and time with your husband. It will be great!

Also, I'm sure your DC will still need you, if not in the same way. You will never be redundant. I still speak to my parents most days, and they are still involved in my life, and I'm 37!

LeGavrOrf - I have been here almost exactly 8 years! I remember my very first thread was about waiting for 11 plus results, so she would have been still in yr6! Quite mad, as I'm only 27!

It really does evolve, like everyone else says. Your children as still so, so young OP and actually, when I first got pregnant, I remember thinking, 'my life is effectively over' DH worked long hours, like yours and my life was just like yours sounds. Quite flipping dull as times!

Don't think about the future too much. People spend so much time planning and waiting for milestones, that they forget to live in the here and now.

Anyway, DD is just a few weeks off being 18 and I am still her mummy. Especially tonight, as we are going on holiday in a couple of hours and she's scared about being sick on the plane! Why, I don't know, but there you go! You will never stop being needed in some shape or form!

tbh you start loosing them to school anyway so OP dont worry about it you will find they need you still but i do think it important you find other outlets, although i work with babies and toddlers so im surrounded by littlies cuteness,

I so agree at planning and waiting for milestones - DON'T! I remember thinking that life would be so much easier when dd started school, it's as if I wished the time away, and it goes ridiculously quickly.

Lol at Maureen being 27! I had dd young, we joke that we will be in the old folks home together.

Annunziata she is slightly taller than me, but I maintain the ascendancy by wearing heels and she wears trainers. she is gorgeous though (even though I am biased) there is a pic of her on my profile.

I thought it was quite a big turning point when the youngest goes to school. You don't realise how much of your social interaction is involved with your dc and toddler groups. Suddenly it's all gone overnight and you have to start thinking about you again.

You COW at going on holiday in a couple of hours. I have to wait until December. And her BOYFRIEND is coming with us (that's a bloody milestone, I tell you [grin[)

oh she is a beautiful girl

OH i havnt had the boyfriend on holiday with us yet although we caravan so I dont think he would want to see DH in his pants first thing in the morning

He he! You won't want to know that I've already booked for December as well then!

See, this is also another bonus to children growing up! You can go on holiday more!

Both beautiful!

I haven't had a boyfriend/ girlfriend over to stay yet... It must be SO weird when you have to say goodnight!

Oh bloody hell Maureen

The first time you bugger off for the weekend and leave them in the house on their own is a bit daunting,

Dd's boyfriend is a lovely boy, but it is a bit strange booking a room with a double bed in it for my dd and her boyfriend.

Thanks mrsJ, she is lovely. She has been a bright light in a sometimes rather hard and dim life.

GetOrf - is that you standing next to your DD?

DS1 started high school today and it really does feel surreal, he only can only be about 20mths old, not 12yrs, for heaven's sake.

Saying goodnight is all right. The awkward shuffle for the bathroom in the morning in pyjamas is worse.

my 2 share a room so he never stays so i cant comment my mum was so strict though i remember having dd1 and staying just before we moved into our flat and she said to then Bf now dh you cant sleep together, I looked at baby and though eh what mother

OP don't fall into the trap of being a SAHM mum if you want more as the DC grow up!
I have grown up DC, when they were little I was a SAHM then ended up as a carer to elderly DGP and DH as his health is poor too..I went back to work full time aged 40 thinking I would be able to get on a career path... big mistake..I'm overlooked in favour of younger colleagues, sidelined and generally patronised although I am more capable and more experienced than those promoted. They make the right noises at work but I'm stuck at the bottom of the heap. If I could turn back the clock I would have worked at least part time ignores the fact I lived at that time in a remote area where jobs to fit round kids didn't exist

I call my mum and sister Cissy and Ada

Yes that is me and my dd.

I remember WEEPING as I sent dd off to high school in her brand new 70 fucking quid blazer like it was yesterday.

It's funny, isn't it, how some people lie to be busy busy busy every second, and others need a certain amount of unplanned time when they can do "nothing" (although of course it's not actually nothing).

I cannot wait! My parents and ILs are living it up now we've all buggered off. I'm looking forward to my next adventures!

My ds is 2.

I wasn't even allowed in DH's car before we got married! Let alone staying over and pyjamas!

Bloody hell at your mum mrsJ!