To think that Neon's Mum, Sally Roberts, definitely displayed Narcissistic tendencies?

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This is for anyone who watched the documentary last night. Maybe it was edited to make her look bad but I felt really angry and sad about her behaviour and attitude.

She seemed more concerned with pursuing a court case that she knew she was never going to win instead of being with her sick son. An example of this is that she didn't see him the night before his brain surgery (even though she could have done) Surely it doesn't really matter what you believe, once the decision was made, she should have been there for him.

She also seemed to be enjoying the media attention a bit too much IMO and spoke to Neon in quite an odd way, when she wanted him to go into a bariatric chamber for some 'alternative' treatment, she asked him to 'do it for her'.

She believes that radiotherapy will affect his DNA and change him - well isn't that better than him dying ffs? The poor bloody kid.

Oh she was annoying BUT it was a tv show and editing plays a part. I found her very frustrating but I also saw a scared mum on the outside of her sons life trying hard to do something and being rather exploited by New age money makers x I felt quiet sad watching her

I have to agree with Gordy, she didn't come across well but given the situation who knows how you would behave? The people that angered me were the snake oil sellers making goodness knows how much money out of her.

To be honest it grates a bit that you are commenting on a potential personality disorder because of a highly edited tv programme.

I was sad watching it. As a big believer in alternative medicine (but definitely not adverse to modern medicine) I really hoped she would come forward and present a really strong, well informed case. Instead I felt she didn't really know anything, she was scared of hospital treatment and felt strongly about the opinions expressed by the people who believe in alternative methods and tried to make them her own. I was hoping to really learn somthing. Instead she came across a bit silly (like talking about his type of cancer like it was never going to threaten his life etc) and constantly lost for words or looking for others to answer for her when questioned. Instead of putting forward a balanced view..she referred to doctors as brainwashed etc which again just made her seem a bit nuts to anyone watching who has no interest in alternative methods. I found watching him deteriorate heartbreaking but was glad to see his invasive surgeries were really working towards the end.

I also really didn't like how she constantly smiled for the cameras etc. I felt she came across quite removed and unemotional towards it all at times.

I wouldn't want to diagnose conditions on the basis of the programme but she certainly came across as seeing events as all about her. Like Vulva I was unimpressed by 'Do it for me' (and her not hugging him at that point), and her failure to go and see him before his op.

She also failed to present any evidence for her beliefs. I can't understand why she was taken as seriously as she was appearing on news programmes.

I think it's easy to sit and judge when you've never been in that harrowing position of putting your child through toxic treatments that may kill them. I worked (at a club for young adults with SN) with a lovely young lady who had a brain tumour as a child. She suffered horrific 'side effects' from her treatment. Her parents feel guilt for putting her through that but equally, they know without it, she wouldn't be here at all. There is no easy answer.

I agree, she did come across as unemotional, buy as other people have said, not sure how anyone would come across in those circumstances.
I felt sorry for Neon's twin sister, Electra - she just seemed to be pushed aside, an after thought. Why separate the children when they probably needed each other desperately?

Lara, looking after a child that ill is so full on it is nigh on impossible to keep the family unit as it was. We were separated foe months whilst DD1 had her treatment.

I totally disagreed with her, there was probably an element of truth inher behaviour or such radical measures would not have been needed to get Neon the treatment he needed to save his life. Yes those quacks are largely responsible, feeding off te vulnerability of people

expat Fair enough. I, personally, feel loathe to judge someone when I have no idea of her situation.

That child's cancer has a very reasonable chance of cure, but there is no alternative to surgery and chemo/radiation at present if you want the child to live. I realise it is frightening, but the risk of death is far more so.

I have been in that situation, candy. Our child's form of leukaemia was not curable with chemo. It was stem cell transplant or certain death. I wanted to take her and run away, because she seemed so well after her 4th round of chemo. But it was not about me and how I felt. It was about trying to save her no matter what. We didn't, she died of secondary infection/pneumonia. But as parents we had to put aside our fears and work together to try to help her.

Not see my child the night before an operation? Only if I were unconscious.

So sorry Expat, really and truly. Can not imagine the heartbreak.

I haven't managed to watch the documentary yet. I'll watch it and perhaps I will feel differently.

op I'm with you about the scum who were financially feeding off her; I burst out laughing when that guy was going round with his 'star trek gizmo' - but she was taken in 100% by him

Expat I am so sorry , I hope that if I was ever in that situation I would do the same as you

Cricket I was as ,as you were to see that, my goodness they are really taking the piss

I did find her strange and impossible to relate to but i can't judge her. I can't imagine many things worse than ny child being diagnosed with cancer. I imagine feeling so helpless to help your child must be awful. I think she clung on to these crazy ideas as it meant she could do something, i don't think she was in her right mind.