To be a bit miffed MIL bought my son age 3 to 4 clothes for his second birthday and my parents do not even get him a card

[Arnie123]

My son is a big lad and is on the 90th centile for his height but I got him to try on the trousers and he would have tripped over in them. It would have been nice for my parents to get him a card but in fairness to them I stopped all contact when my son was 9 months. My dad said he was going to put him in the main road and crawl in the traffic. I felt he posed a safeguarding risk. I do not know what to tell my son about why he has no grandparents on my side as he gets older. Such a shame really.

Tbf, she didn't say "my Mum" outright did she? She said "parents" and has only mentioned her Dad. Maybe Dad was divorced and remarried?

She also has bipolar disorder, so I'd be a bit careful before shouting troll. She might not be feeling well right now.

Thats what I was thinking Fake very possible.

Did u cut contact with ur parents because of the one safety issue? Please please this is not worth it??? You only have one set of parents! You will live to regret this. Life is too short!!!!

Yes, that is true fake I'd not thought of that.

YABU

My 18 month old can comfortably wear some of his 4 year-old brother's clothes. There's a lot of variability in sizes, so going an agegroup up for a big child sounds eminently sensible.

As for the thing with your parents, either you want to be cut off from them or you don't. If you do, then no card is presumably what you want. If not, it sounds a bit like game-playing.

What sort of "safeguarding risk" did you imagine your parents posed towards your child, given that you'd presumably be present during visits?
You sound so highly strung you need to be tethered to the ground.
Maybe you should look at ways to chill out, before it starts affecting your child?

It wasn't just the inconsistency with the parents/mum and partner thing, but also that she'd posted before that she'd cut her parents out of her life over two years ago, so before the child was born? That's why I was trying to figure out how much/little contact they'd had with the child at all.

When my son was 2 and on the 90th percentile various people bought him age 2 clothes and all of them were too small. I'm still on good terms with all of these friends and relations. Get over it.