To be stressed out about DD's name 8 months in?

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(Namechanged for obvious reasons!)

DD is called Evie, I have loved the name for years, DP loves the name, and I wasn't to keen on any of the long versions. But from about 4 months onwards I have been getting ridiculously upset about it not being a "proper" name and how its going to affect her. I don't know why it kicked in then, I'd thought again and again about it during pregnancy and felt fine about it then because of there being lots of other Evies.

I wish I'd called her Evelyn, I don't think I'd have ever "called" her it, but I feel like I've doomed her to being stuck with a cutesy name and she's going to really resent me for it when she's older.
What do you think about it as a full name? Is she likely to hate it? There's not much I can do now but I can't stop stressing out about it.

Most of the time I think it would be weird for people to change a birth certificate name but this would be a really easy change and you wouldn't need to explain to everyone that Kal-El was now actually called Edward.

As it's easy to do in the first year, if you want to change the birth certificate to Eve or Evelyn (LOVE Evelyn!) and just continue to call your DD Evie. Which is a lovely name and can quite happily stand on its own.

I can understand why you're having a wobble. I'm not a fan of shortened names on birth certificates though. I'm clearly 75 in a 24 year olds body

If you do choose to change it, I would go for Eve rather than Evelyn. Just because I think Evelyn Waugh, who was a man.

MrsTerry - Marion was once a mans name. As were Vivian (i know one in his 20's!) Lindsay,Gillian,Evelyn. Funny how times change isn't it!

I don't think it is 'cutesie' at all, think its a lovely name.

The type of girls names I object to are those wildly cute and/or pretentious names like 'Honey Kitten' or Fluffy Boo Boo Pwincess (the first is real, the second I hope to god I have just made up but something tells me there is a poor child out there named that).

Because that to me suggests the parent has no insight into the fact they have created a human being but see the child as some extension of their own fantasies or wish to project how 'unique' they are.

children have to live with the names we give them andi hate the fact that some people think it is perfectly ok to give little girls some horrible fluffy name they will have to endure into their forties and beyond.

But I don't think Evie is that kind of name, so I wouldn't worry.

Don't change it. Evie is lovely. Evelyn is old and dreary (sorry any Evelyn's out there)

I hate my "Sunday" name and its only used by my dad & stepmum. It's on my professional registration but in reality I'm never called it. I'd never really thought of changing it by deed poll though

I have an Evie and I love it. She has a 'proper' middle name just in case she decides that Evie isn't grown up enough but Evie is on her birth certificate.

I have a 'proper' first name on my bc but am never, ever called it. As others have said, it feels odd to use it on official forms.

I am having a wobble over DD's name, but I figure if as an adult she hates it she has a very grown up middle name.
I think Evie is a lovely name in its own right. As much as I like Evelyn I don't see the point in changing it if you will never call her it.

Evie is lovely and though it is a NN it's very common as a standalone name nowadays. She's 8 months so you can change the birth certificate to Evelyn or evangeline if you like, both are lovely. But it's not necessary.

I have a friend with an Evie who will be 3 next month, and one with a 5 year old Evie. I've never questioned it being a 'real' name (it is the given name in both cases!)

Evie isn't a nickname for Evelyn, it is a diminuative of Eve. Evelyn was very much the made up name that became mega-popular in the 1920's (it is the name of my friend's elderly aunt who is just called Ev for short) before falling into disuse very quickly, so in one sense it is very old-fashioned though it has re-emerged recently very much on the back of the popularity of Eve and Evie.

I don't know why you are stressed, OP. A am sure the parents of all the thousands of other Evies born in the last few years are not stressed and I doubt if they are going to resent their parents either. I think musicposy's advice about using the name you are going to call your child is spot on.

I agree that Evie is not a dimiminutive of Evelyn, that's why our sort-of-DIL Evelyn is called Evvie. I think Evvie or, for that matter, Evelyn, are pretty nanes, whereas Evie summons up to me a picture of an old Mrs Mop type person, hair in curlers, fag hanging from mouth.
I could be biased.

Mmm, we always called our son Jamie, but put James on his birth certificate - suddenly at the age of eleven, when he changed schools, he started to introduce himself as James and now that's what he is always known as - so we're glad we went with the longer version on his birth certificate.

I think Evie is a really nice name. I don't think it in any way compares with Dotty and the like. But if you want to give her the longer Evelyn on her birth certificate then do.

It's a lovely name. Cut yourself some slack, your daughter can always start calling herself 'Eve' at any point, should she suddenly take against her name as is.

I keep saying on these kinds of threads that there's no point in getting your knickers in a knot about whether an Evie, Maisie or Polly could be Attorney General. By the time those little girls are in their thirties, those names will be ten a penny among professional women, and newborns will be being called Karen, Nicola, and Angela.

Evvie makes me think of "Ev" in Eastenders- the unfortunate Heather! I do love evelyn though and would call a DD Evie as a nn for evelyn.

I too had a crisis of 'wrongname-ness' with DS2. It really bugged me for ages, and I used to get quite upset but didn't want to go through the hassle of changing it - he is five now, and I can't imagine him being called anything other than his actual name, and am so glad I didn't change it - you will get used to it and this will become a non-issue! (Evie is a lovely name BTW, and it is a proper name, IMO!)

Evie is beautiful. I wanted to call my daughter Evangeline if I ever had one, had 2 boys so suggested the name Eva to my sister. She named her daughter Eva. I'm now pregnant with a girl and can't use Evangeline as it's too similar.

Also having issues with the full name/nn scenario as DH wants to name the baby Milly and I want her to have a "proper" name. This is possibly because I'm not mad keen on Milly though, as I wouldn't mind her having Libby as a full name and not Elizabeth. Hmm.

Off the point but...talking to DS2 yesterday, I misheard a friend's name he mentioned as Evelyn. I said that I didn't know he had a friend called Evelyn, he said he didn't, "but that's a nice name, i've never heard that name, how do you spell it? I'd like a friend called Evelyn" and wandered away muttering "Evelyn. Eve-lyn." to himself .

Sorry Bream!

I have an Evie, lovely name

Foxy - I don't get that. Why can't cousins have similar names?

I mean, I get why DSS' mum didn't call her new baby when we had a Luke, but surely cousins is ok?

Although, it does make me think of that scene in My Big Fat Greek Wedding when the cousins are being introduced and they're all called Anita, Diane, or Nick

Another one here who really likes the name Evie. I wouldn't change it. My name is a shortened full name I prefer the shortened version anyway

That's OK Snatchoo.

Ooh snatchoo I hear ya!

I have a cousin David ( I'd have been David if I'd been a boy)
My sister married a David
My dh has a David
As has his sister ( which always makes me think- why did you call your son that when there already was one in the family- means they always get referred to by their full names to distinguish)