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To be stressed out about DD's name 8 months in?

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ReassureMePlease · 10/08/2013 22:54

(Namechanged for obvious reasons!)

DD is called Evie, I have loved the name for years, DP loves the name, and I wasn't to keen on any of the long versions. But from about 4 months onwards I have been getting ridiculously upset about it not being a "proper" name and how its going to affect her. I don't know why it kicked in then, I'd thought again and again about it during pregnancy and felt fine about it then because of there being lots of other Evies.

I wish I'd called her Evelyn, I don't think I'd have ever "called" her it, but I feel like I've doomed her to being stuck with a cutesy name and she's going to really resent me for it when she's older.
What do you think about it as a full name? Is she likely to hate it? There's not much I can do now but I can't stop stressing out about it.

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AnythingNotEverything · 10/08/2013 23:26

I think mrsterrypratchett's response should be mumsnet's automatic response to all name query post.

She doesn't need a (fake, never used) full name. Evie is lovely.

NoComet · 10/08/2013 23:38

A fake real name anythingbuteverything that's exactly what I feel when I stick my real name on a stupid official form.

My parents never used it (except very rarely if I was naughty).

It isn't me, I only put it on forms because I feel I ought to.

kreecherlivesupstairs · 10/08/2013 23:42

I think it's a pretty name.
I really regret what we called our DD.
12 years on.
Fortunately she loves her name. Not so sure how she'll feel about it in about a months time when every other girl is called it though.

formicadinosaur · 11/08/2013 03:27

You can change the birth certificate up to a year. Make an appointment with the registrar

Wishfulmakeupping · 11/08/2013 05:02

Evie is lovely.
What is your dd name kreecher?

Kytti · 11/08/2013 05:48

I always think you put the name on the birth certificate that you intend to use. If her name is Evie (and it's a lovely name btw) then that's her name. If her name on the birth cert is Evelyn, THAT'S her name. I don't understand why people call their children one thing on the birth cert. and then something else. But that's just me.

sleepywombat · 11/08/2013 05:56

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LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops · 11/08/2013 06:25

It's really lovely...please don't worry.

Smartiepants79 · 11/08/2013 06:37

Well my Dd is Evie too so I love it. It never occurred to me to think it is not a proper name. It is just her name.
If you've always loved it why change your mind now?

sweetestcup · 11/08/2013 06:55

Kreecher Im curious as to why your DDs name is suddenly going to be more popular in a month?

Mrsrobertduvall · 11/08/2013 06:57

Lots of Evie lovers here

Did we all watch House of Elliott?

HintofBream · 11/08/2013 07:34

Starballbunny and Snatchoo - Lay off Evelyn! It is a beautiful name which belongs to my adorable D-out-law. We usually all call her Evvie though, rather than Evie. As Sleepywombat says, it's more like the sound at the beginning. She is Brazilian by the way, Evelyn never struck me as a likely Brazilian name but apparently it is not unusual there.

MelanieCheeks · 11/08/2013 07:40

You can call youself whatever you like, you dont need a deed poll.

My sister was named Alison , but she changed the spelling to Alyson when she was in her teens.

On my second divorce I adopted a family surname, and just told people that that was my name from now on.

What it says on the birth certificate is only used on very rare ocasions.

Wishfulmakeupping · 11/08/2013 08:24

sweetestcup my theory is that her daughter is called female version of George and that the Kate and Wills effect might filter over to the girls versions of George- am I right Kreecher or just paranoid- dont want dd name to get too popular

WhenToGo · 11/08/2013 08:37

Evie is lovely. If that's what you intend to call her, then leave her birth certificate alone.

BlackholesAndRevelations · 11/08/2013 08:49

I worried about this too (different girls name but similar idea). However now- it's her name and suits her! My FIL said when we named her, no point giving her a name she won't be called by!

Incidentally- love Evie for next DD but partner not keen

everlong · 11/08/2013 08:59

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musicposy · 11/08/2013 09:01

Don't get into the realms of giving her one name and calling her another. We did this. DD2 was longversion on birth certificate but we always called her shortversion.
The problem was some people like doctors would insist on keep calling her longversion even though we gave them a "known as" so many times.

At school we told them she was shortversion which they were happy to go by but one teacher if she got cross with her would shout "Longversion! Stop that! " in front of the class. DD2 hated it so much it would reduce her to tears, and then, of course, it became an easy thing for other children to taunt her with.

"Known as" is less easy than people think. You have to have your real name on passports, driving licence when you're older, and then it's impossible to get any other type of id in your preferred name.

At the age of 12 DD2's passport was due for renewal and she knew she would need longversion on GCSE certificates. She begged us to change it to shortversion by deed poll, which we did. After sending a whole lot of proof including solicitor's letter saying why it was in her best interests she now has a passport in shortversion name and legally has to be called that. She is so much happier, liie a weight has been lifted.

Keep it as Evie, it's a beautiful name. Don't saddle her with a lifetime of having to try to persuade others to call her something different to what is on her birth certificate.

RedHelenB · 11/08/2013 09:07

FWIW - i always remember this telly programme with a registrar from Liverpool saying that no kid liked the name their parents had chosen! I always wanted to be called Alison!

curlew · 11/08/2013 09:08

"Lots of Evie lovers here

Did we all watch House of Elliott?"

Yep. Short for Evangeline.

samithesausage · 11/08/2013 09:31

Evie is a lovely name. I have a ds called jimmy. He doesn't look like a james and when he was born he did a jimmy riddle (piddle) over the midwife!
You say you will never use the long name, so why give her a long name. It's just more letters for her to write on forms and exams and such.
There's always going to be one teacher who will always refer to her as evelyn reasurremeplease even though she will repeatedly tell her/him to refer to her as evie and cause annoyance!

ChristineDaae · 11/08/2013 09:49

I don't think of Evie as a cutest name. And if she really wants a more 'serious' name when she's older she can shorten it to Eve. I'm not a fan of cutesy names but I think Evie is lovely.

percythepenguin · 11/08/2013 10:01

I think Evie is a lovely name. I have a relative who was named Evelyn and hated it so much she changed it by Deed Poll to her nickname.

foreverondiet · 11/08/2013 10:20

Change birth certificate to Eve and continue to call her Evie. Evelyn very old fashioned and she won't think you for it. Then don't mention it or think about it again.

Bue · 11/08/2013 10:43

Very odd that people think Evelyn is old fashioned and out of date - it was the 58th most common girls' name in the UK last year

FWIW I think both names are lovely OP and it won't really matter what you put on the bc. But if it will make you feel better then just change it.

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