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Original poster

to have called a woman in TK Maxx an "effing idiot" for this...

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dontsqueezetheteabag · 07/08/2013 12:46

she had her child in one of those shopping baskets that have wheels and a pull up handle. Child must have been about 12 months old. Woman turned round to look at something on the shelf and let go of the handle on the basket. Child stood up in the basket and it tipped backwards. The poor child fell with it banging the side of her little head on the tiled floor.

I was TRUELY appaulled by this and muttered "fucking idiot".

Why the HELL would you let your child stand in one of those baskets???!!!!

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soverylucky · 07/08/2013 12:48

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WorraLiberty · 07/08/2013 12:49

I'm quite sure she realised what a stupid thing she did once her child hurt itself.

You're lucky you didn't get a punch in the face to be honest.

Feminine · 07/08/2013 12:49

No idea. Some people are just totally unaware.

As long as you said it under your breath, then YANBU

JumpingJackSprat · 07/08/2013 12:50

Oh well, lesson learned and none of your business. did she hear you judging her for her momentary lapse in concentration?

KellyElly · 07/08/2013 12:50

You sound charming. I'm sure she needed that after the shock of her child falling on the floor. Parents make mistakes and children have accidents. I'm sure the shock of it all will ensure she doesn't do it again. Most people would have rushed to help rather than muttering 'fucking idiot' at the parent.

KellyElly · 07/08/2013 12:51

You're lucky you didn't get a punch in the face to be honest.

LRDYaDumayuShtoTiKrasiviy · 07/08/2013 12:53

I think you were harsh, to be honest.

She fucked up, I bet she knows it. Seeing a child you're meant to be looking after get hurt is absolutely horrible, isn't it? Have you honestly never done something daft, let a toddler fall over, etc. etc.?

TheToysAreALIVEITellThee · 07/08/2013 12:55

Haha if you had done that in my nearest tk maxx you'd probably be nursing a thick lip!!

Yabu, yes she was a bloody idiot, but its easy to misjudge something, and tbh she probably feels worse for that than a stupid comment by someone who has clearly never made a mistake in their life, ever

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dontsqueezetheteabag · 07/08/2013 12:55

It's not the fact that the mother had a slight lapse in concentration and let go it's the fact that teh child was in the bloody basket... surely an accident waiting to happen and not what they are provided for.

The woman did not seem that bothered to be honest and it was under my breath... not directly at the mother.

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weeblueberry · 07/08/2013 12:56

Oh yeah. When you've made a momentary lapse of judgement when it comes to parenting you absolutely want someone to mutter under their breath about it.

Ffs...

AnnabelleLee · 07/08/2013 12:57

MYOFB.

LRDYaDumayuShtoTiKrasiviy · 07/08/2013 12:58

Well, if you'd said something snippy like 'excuse me, I don't think that's what the baskets are for' before she did it, I think you wouldn't have been unreasonable.

But it's a bit different swearing under your breath someone for inappropriate parenting.

(Btw, I wonder how under your breath it really was ... I'm just waiting for the AIBU 'some random woman muttered 'fuck' and guess what my baby's first word was?' Grin)

AnneUulmelmahay · 07/08/2013 13:00

Discusting Wink

Op did you offer any help
?

juneybean · 07/08/2013 13:00

I don't act bothered when a charge hurts themself as I don't want them to get hysterical. I wouldn't have judged her for that.

Feminine · 07/08/2013 13:00

Putting the child in the basket was a very silly thing to do.

I'm with you dont putting her in it in the first place was beyond daft!

I imagine you said/thought what you did out of shock!

Still hope you said it under your breath :)

LazyMonkeyButler · 07/08/2013 13:02

Was the baby seriously hurt? Was there blood? I think I probably would have thought "well, don't put your baby in a basket madam" but I wouldn't have said anything in the situation you describe.

Some people are clueless, yes, some people may have forgotten the buggy & been desperate to put the baby down after carrying him/her for a while. It probably isn't something the parent will do again.

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dontsqueezetheteabag · 07/08/2013 13:02

I did offer help and went to pick up the child. The mother took a few seconds to notice and I saw it happening. The mother and staff from the shop ended up dealing with the baby who was absolutely hysterical.

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rockybalboa · 07/08/2013 13:03

Do you even have children OP? I bet you anything the child had made an almighty fuss about getting into the basket and it's mum said, "no, you'll fall out and hurt yourself" but the child kept going on and on and on so she let it go in and oh look it fell out. Mummy proved right, child learns lesson. Fellow shopper muttering abuse under their breath: totally unhelpful and very unnecessary. So yes, YABU.

MissDuke · 07/08/2013 13:04

My ds got hurt in TK Maxx once. He was simply walking round a corner at the end of a rail of clothes, and walked straight into the corner of a mirror - it was angled in such a way that there was no chance of him seeing it and just the right height for a 2 year old to get whacked in the face :-( He was marked really badly, and cried for ages. I went and reported it in the hope that they would put something on the side of the mirrors so it wouldn't happen again!

Anyway, that was very off topic! But I was so upset when he got hurt, I am sure the woman you saw was too, and was bound to have realised her mistake :-(

MissDuke · 07/08/2013 13:04

My ds got hurt in TK Maxx once. He was simply walking round a corner at the end of a rail of clothes, and walked straight into the corner of a mirror - it was angled in such a way that there was no chance of him seeing it and just the right height for a 2 year old to get whacked in the face :-( He was marked really badly, and cried for ages. I went and reported it in the hope that they would put something on the side of the mirrors so it wouldn't happen again!

Anyway, that was very off topic! But I was so upset when he got hurt, I am sure the woman you saw was too, and was bound to have realised her mistake :-(

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dontsqueezetheteabag · 07/08/2013 13:04

Lazy - theer was no blood as far as I could see but it was a horrible thud on the floor. I am fairly sure the child would have had a huge lump on the side of her head. Maybe even some bruising to her wee face. Awful.

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SirChenjin · 07/08/2013 13:04

YANBU - she was an effing idiot. Hope the baby was OK, and as others have said, hopefully she'll not do it again.

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dontsqueezetheteabag · 07/08/2013 13:07

Rocky - I don't have children, however I do have expeirence of being out and about with very young kids (neices, nephews, friends kids) and I DO know that it can be a nightmare! I would NEVER dream of putting a child into a shopping basket... surely that is just common sense?

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ImNotBloody14 · 07/08/2013 13:08

when toddler ds pulled the shopping trolley on top of himself after climbing on the side while i searched through the whoopsies in asda people rushed to help me and check he was ok- odd that this didn't occur to you Confused

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dontsqueezetheteabag · 07/08/2013 13:10

ImNotBloody14 - I did go to help.... read the thread.

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