Try and make it short as I can.
A couple of months ago a friend and I were saying about a certain type of party we had always wanted to go to and as her birthday was last month I suggested we do it for that and she was up for the idea.
As I have a big project on at work the idea was I would host as I have the space but she would organise, however I did want a bit more control over the food that people would bring, the idea being that if everyone brought something, it would save me having to do all the cooking. Everyone was ok with this idea.
Before the event she was texting and asking what food people should bring. I was swamped with my project and hadn't had time to think about it so I said this to her, she asked more than once and I told her the same. We finally got it sorted just before but there was a bit of a problem with a dessert as the person who was bringing my friends favourite decided she was doing enough so said she wasn't bringing this, so another friend offered to bring it instead, my friend specifically really likes this dessert.
On the day I was getting texts from my friend asking me what time we would be eating. Everyone was arriving for 8 with the food and it is the type of party where you arrive on time. I said whenever as I didn't want to be rushing with the food I was doing as I was already running behind that day, it was a weekend but I had been busy all day. I usually eat between 8 and 9 in the evening anyway. My friend was not happy with this and was trying to pin me down to a time. She asked if it would be just after 8 but I laughed and said I doubt it. However I was getting pissed off by this time as I wanted to be able to relax and enjoy it but it was becoming a pita by then. She did tell me that she wasn't feeling well that day, she does have a long term health problem and often gets ill.
When she arrived I admit I was really hacked off and I didn't speak to her for quite a while. After I got her on her own and had a word that I was upset because I was doing this for her birthday and felt like she didn't appreciate it, I was in tears. She looked really uncomfortable and apologised. She said the reason for asking about what food people were bringing is because people kept asking her because she organised it but she couldn't tell them anything because she was waiting for me. She also said that if it had been another event she would have cancelled because she was feeling ill but she knew she couldn't cancel this one.
We started eating at about 9ish but as we were with a large group it wasn't rushed and we were just taking our time and enjoying the evening. When we had finished the first 2 courses I suggested we all go and sit in the other room. My friend stood up and said she was sorry but she really felt ill and had to go, it was about midnight by this time, so not too late and I was actually pretty annoyed because my friend had specifically made the dessert that she wanted so I said that she couldn't go yet as X had made her favourite so she had to have some, all in a friendly way, not confrontational or anything although we were at opposite ends of the table so everyone did hear. She sat down and ate it then when it was finished, she did leave. I did go over to her and say I hope she didn't mind me saying that (about the dessert) but I had really felt she should have it after it was brought for her. I also said I hoped we were ok from the texts and me saying something to her earlier and she said she was, although I wasn't so sure.
Its been about a month and I am sure she is slightly off with me so I am wondering if I have done something wrong here but I didn't think that I did. I wasn't mean to her at all, it was all in a nice way but I did feel that there were things that warranted saying.
WIBU?