Another thread about facebook and judging other people's parenting

[catgirl1976]

A friend (work colleague really rather than friend) has just posted some mawkish shite about CIO and that she is "anti" it.

I wouldn't do CIO though we did use CC.

However, the thing that annoys me is, if you are "anti" a parenting technique, just don't do it. No one is forcing you to. You can parent your child any way you like. Why post about it on facebook? Just do what works for you and get on with your life FFS.

Again, attention. Now everyone knows the poster has some horrible thing happen and they've told JANE AND NO ONE ELSE SO THERE!

Or, as I like to call it, the high school version of FB.

Insta-hide. Or even de-friend.

Sorry x post - that was in reply to Kirjava

I might have a cull this afternoon

This has put me in the mood for it :)

I think CIO is a bit different from formula or dummies or sugar or TV as it causes a baby distress, unlike the others. So people are going to have an opinion on it even if it doesnt affect their own family. I think it's ok to have an opinion on something that you believe causes babies distress, even if you think it doesn't or that it is worth it etc

I mean even if others think it doesn't or that it is worth it etc

CIO upsets me so I might post about it on FB. If you didn't like it I wouldn't much care TBH. It's hardly a radical AP point of view.

But what would your posting on FB about it do craving?

I wouldn't do lots of things with my DS. But I don't feel the need to bang on about it on FB.

I just don't do them.

I unintentionally used CIO on dd. Nothing pacified that baby,nothing. No rocking,singing,stroking,holding. End of my tether I left her to cry and buried my head and cried from sheer frustration. She was 22 weeks old and had cried and barely slept as did her mother for those 22 weeks. After her night of CIO both sh

*she and I were a bit more rested and much better in the day and she went to sleep a lot easier since.

Sanctimommy is great! So funny. Especially all the serious replies.

I know CC is controlled crying, but what's CIO stand for? thick

I've seen the same FB post this morning.

While I just tend share the funny ones I like (eg Silence is golden.... except when you have a toddler) I sort of agree with you on this one.

However, I think a lot of people who are anti CIO see it is actual abuse and so are sharing this sort of post in a well meaning effort to make others see it as abuse. IYSWIM?

CIO = cry it out.

Leave the to cry to sleep until they stop crying at bedtime. Really hard core CC....

I do see what you mean frogs

I think what annoys me is, I (for example) didn't use a dummy with DS. Personal choice. I would never feel the need to walk up to a mother in the street whose child had one and start trying to make her feel shit for using one.

You just wouldn't.

But these posts on FB are a virtual, passive aggressive way of doing just that.

Even if you feel CIO is harmful, I still don't think (I hope not) that anyone would walk up to someone who did it and start telling them they were an abusive, shit mother.

Yet that's exactly what these posts are trying to. Although they don't even have the integrity to be upfront and honest about it, they hide behind a veneer of a cute picture and some mawkish luffly words.

It makes me pukey and annoyed :)

christ, do you have to label the way you parent these days?

not a fricking idea what CIO is

No you certainly don't have to label

And you especially don't have to drone on and on about labels on FB

Hence the thread

Like MrsdeVere, I liked and then unliked a number of such pages. They are run by bumheads.

"If your child wears disposable nappies, THEY WILL TURN AROUND ONE DAY AND KILL EVERYONE THEY KNOW!"

as someone once said to me when i was weeping over breastfeeding

" it doesnt go on their CV you know"

those were the BEST words ever uttered at that time

maltese

LadyM - yes, very wise words. Although I think you might have mis-understood my OP.

It's not parenting techniques that annoy me, it's other people commenting on how other people parent in a smug, judgey way that annoys me.

Breast feed, formula feed, co-sleep, CIO, dummy, no dummy, baby sling or bugaboo..............I don't care what other people do with their children (provided they are loved, fed etc) and I don't expect other people to care what I do with mine (same disclaimers apply)

no Ikwym, I just think in the end, who cares? Who cares what people do, who gets teeth first, who can say " cat"

Your colleagues H is probably shagging the au pair

Exactly

And he probably is but that's ok as they have an open marriage

(Which I also do not wish to hear the details of on FB or anywhere else}

cat she/he probably just needs validation that their parenting technique is the 'right ' one because they are lacking in confidence by posting shite on FB.

True rex true.

Maybe I should try to be kinder but it just grates