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TidyDancer's bridezilla thread part 3

1001 replies

TidyDancer · 01/08/2013 17:27

Here you go!

OP posts:
elQuintoConyo · 06/08/2013 19:31

Or you could be very adult about this and come out smelling of roses by e-mailing:
Dear Gluesister,
Please tell you sister UP YOUR BUM!
Regards,
Tidy
xoxo

BalloonSlayer · 06/08/2013 19:32

Oh, I thought my "I think this has gone far enough line" was supposed to imply Tidy didn't want any more communication. Confused

If an apology did suddenly miraculously appear after it I'd suggest the all-time-favourite "too little too late" as a reply.

MrsKoala · 06/08/2013 19:34

I agree Balloon, but i think the earlier mention of an apology would give the terminally deluded and desperate wishful thinker a chink of hope which you wouldn't want to encourage in any way!

BelleJolie · 06/08/2013 19:36

I would reply but keep it very simple:

Dear Gluesista

I'm really sorry I'm not able to help. Hope things get sorted.

Tidy.

Lambzig · 06/08/2013 19:39

Gosh, this is the thread (x3) that keeps on giving.

I agree that that was a response that gave her sister loyalty while demonstrating that clearly she agrees with you. It's a really nice response actually and I think I would feel better if I had received that.

I wouldn't reply, I would just leave it there.

prettybird · 06/08/2013 19:43

There's nothing to reconsider. Tidy was never asked to decorate the venue. The fact that Gluezilla assumed that she would is her funeral wedding problem. Hmm

3birthdaybunnies · 06/08/2013 19:47

I liked mrskoala's reply.

SarahAndFuck · 06/08/2013 19:50

I'm glad Gluesister had the good manners to reply.

But I wouldn't engage any further if I were you.

She understands exactly where you are coming from, she knows you're not going to reconsider and I don't think she blames you one little bit, but she had to mention it to you so she can tell Gluezilla she did.

I'd leave it now. Everything has been said, several times, there's no real point in repeating yourself again. They are just going to have to accept you've said your last word on the subject and make other arrangements. If you reply again Bridezilla is going to feel she can still convince you because you are still responding.

SarahAndFuck · 06/08/2013 19:51

I like the sound of Gluesister by the way.

She sounds sensible Smile

RenterNomad · 06/08/2013 19:56

If you don't like "understanding", ParsingFancy, what about referring to "the acknowledgement"?

FriskyHenderson · 06/08/2013 20:00

MaryZ gives the perfect reply to keep stringing out this thread Grin

ParsingFancy · 06/08/2013 20:04

Oh yes! "Acknowledgement" could cover acknowledging GlueZilla's behaviour.

But still better not to reply at all.

InLoveWithDavidTennant · 06/08/2013 20:09

blimey!

id either go with no reply or baloons reply

i have agreed with every single post baloon has posted on all 3 threads... thats never happend before said in a non creepy way obvs! Grin

InLoveWithDavidTennant · 06/08/2013 20:11

bugger! missed the second l both times Confused

roslet · 06/08/2013 20:17

I want Tidy to reply cause I don't want the thread to end! But it probably is kinder to leave it there. Gluezilla's only reason for being upset must be because part of her has at last realised that she has been massively rude and presumptuous. Easier to feign hurt rather than admit Olympic medal standard bridezillaness!

zipzap · 06/08/2013 20:36

Anybody else childish like me think it was funny that gluesis said that gluezilla was stuck? GrinGrin

Or wonder if she is a mnetter and used it to show she understood? also a conspiracy theorist

I agree that not replying is the best way to go. However if I was tempted, I'd say something along the lines of:
I really hope that gluezilla understands that I am not able to help decorate the venue for her wedding - she really will have problems in finding someone to help her decorate this time if she doesn't start looking for somebody very soon. May I suggest that as soon as she has somebody on mind, she asks them straight away and not leave it in the hope they telepathically pick up on her hopes.
Should gluezilla need somebody to help her decorate the venue for subsequent weddings, please do remind your sis if she would like to use my services, she needs to get in touch well in advance. I'm sure could provide a very reasonable quote given that we were once friends.
I hope that you all enjoy the day.

  • ok obviously I wouldn't send this but it's fun to think about sending! Grin
nauticant · 06/08/2013 20:39

As ever, SarahAndFuck (with her kick-ass name), is right.

The sister's reply is good, it requires no cleverness to read the clear subtext, and doesn't require a reply.

EagleRiderDirk · 06/08/2013 20:42

Grin zipzap
Loving the not so subtle 'subsequent weddings'

SanityClause · 06/08/2013 20:51

Has anyone else pointed out that Gluezilla is stuck!

Grin
Beastofburden · 06/08/2013 21:03

Diddl, on saving days, the wedding and the hall decorating would not be on the same day. (Though if gluezilla gets really really stuck, they might :) ) So un saving the wedding day doesn't mean she wouldn't be free on the hall decorating day.

qazxc · 06/08/2013 21:08

oh dear there is now disabusing gluezilla from the notion that op will change her mind is there?

nilbyname · 06/08/2013 21:24

Good golly! the sister is obviously thinking the bride I'd nuts, and you are fine. What a pickly the old glue sniffing has gotten her into this time. Dear oh dear oh dear....

zipzap · 06/08/2013 21:30

Eagle I thought it was a nice suitably bitchy touch myself Grin

SanityClaus I beat you to it - just - by a couple of posts! But was also very surprised that no one else had picked up on it!

knickernicker · 06/08/2013 21:36

There is nothing in the sister's reply that suggests she might see the OP's point of view. (wishful thinking on readers' part).She could for all we know entirely agree with the bride, particularly as she continues to request the OP's help. No more contact would be the best way forward I think.

SanityClause · 06/08/2013 21:38

Oh, zipzap, I knew I couldn't be the only one who noticed. I did skim through to see if anyone had mentioned it, but I was so ludicrously excited by my extraordinary wit, that I missed your post. Wink

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