I'm injured, husband wants to play golf

[Petal02]

I had an accident yesterday. Went to A&E, thankfully no broken bones, just badly sprained ankle. Foot is very stiff and swollen, I can only put a small amount of weight on it, meaning I can only just hobble around the house. The only way to do stairs is on my bum.

So AIBU to be annoyed that my husband has decided to play golf with his son this evening? I could really do with some help at home, and I'm still feeling pretty grotty.

[clam]

LongDistance I think I posted on your thread just after you'd broken it, and were waiting for surgery. I think I was probably a little pessimistic for you. How are you doing?
(I had something similar - tib/fib and ankle - rods, pins and plates)

[Longdistance]

Hey. I'm having physio, but it's not great. My ankle is so stiff and swollen ATM. I am probably 50% there wrt mobility now, but physio was very much saying I need to push it, which I am, but having two dd's so young during the day in my own, really doesn't give me much time to do it 5 times a day. Everytime I've gone to do it, my two end up fighting, an incident happens, my dd's want something. It's just never ending. So have to do it in the evenings.

Sorry to hijack your post op.

[Chubbymomie2012]

I had a similar situation a few months ago and i was furious that my DP wouldnt cancel his plans to help/ look after me.

After spending the whole day alone!(well alone with 2 youngest kids) I realised i was actually pissed off that if the shoe was on the other foot. I'd be at home looking after im so he wouldnt have to lift a finger. he clearly doesnt have the same desire to"nurse" that i do.

sorry op not very helpful. hope you are feeling a little better this morning

[Hulababy]

Ouch. Poor you an yea it would have been nice for him to stay and look after you for a bit. Everyone likes a bit of tlc at times!

And yes, a sprain can be very painful. When dd hurt her foot she was in a great deal of pain. The break was sore but the sprained toes were far far worse!

I never really understand the 'its only a sprain' argument - sometimes they are more painful than a break!

[Hulababy]

Fwiw dd couldn't have managed getting around on her own at all in first couple of days or so. No pot and no crutches given but just meant he was unable to get about much. Tried school but it didn't work at all. Took a few initial days for pain to subside enough to try hobbling.

[fledtoscotland]

Yabu. Make hot drink in a flask so you don't spill it. Bump down steps on your bum. Enjoy peace and your own company

[Mia4]

YANBU to feel upset-when we're in pain or poorly we get even more upset or narky. But YABU to be annoyed at him, presumably you wouldn't be if he had no choice but to work late? So is this a thing whereby you feel he never puts you first (selfish arse) and this is highlighting it or is he looking after you but taking a few hours for himself (normal person).

I know how shit i felt after a stomach op, I could barely walk a few steps without needing to stop, breath and les the pain pass. It was horrible and i was in tears of pain and frustration when my DP went to work.

[EvaM]

It's only a sprain, you're not 4.

Put feet up, relax and keep putting ice packs on the sprain.