To be annoyed with my SIL for sharing photos of my children?

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SIL and DH don't get on due to some pretty hideous incidents on her part. I try to be civil and reasonably friendly with her as I want my children to have relationship with their cousin, and as she lives in Scotland and us south we bumble along ok

We were quite firm about not posting pics of children on fb and she used to post pics of eldes on fb without clearing it with us first. We explained that we weren't comfortable with that...

Anyway, we have since relaxed a bit about it but both have very tight privacy controls. I put pic on fb today of children.

Just logged on to see that she has 'shared' the picture with those on her account! Without asking! So now in theory all of her friends who we don't know can see them, their friends can see them etc etc. I also think it is not ok to do something like this without asking permission... Aibu??

please tell me what Facebook is about I'm not being sarcastic i really want to know if I'm missing out. Some of my siblings are on it. Sister joined then decided it wasn't for her. Maybe I've grown old an not with it i don't get why it's so popular?

I don't have longstanding virtual relationships on FB. I know people who have long standing virtual relationships on MN

FB is a tool, people se it as they will. Using one and being superior about the other with no reference to how people use either is a daft generalisation

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I have a a big family, spread all over the place. I have about 30 Facebook friends in total. We can send each other messages, photos, jokes, news. I get to see my nieces and nephews getting bigger. It's nice

ok fair enough sorry for being harsh on Facebook users. I too have lots of nieces and nephews and 6 siblings to be honest i rarely send pics i visit in school hold i suppose I'm lazy.

Hols

The problem isn't FB-it is the fact that people collect FB friends who are not real friends. Cut right back.

Exactly exotic. Fb is fine for loads of people.

Justanothermanicmum
It's fine, you are allowed to think its shite

I can't visit family easily. When my sister died we could only see each other for two days. We were able to share loads of things - thoughts, photos, songs etc - that reminded us of her. It was really helpful at that time.

If it bothers you so much unfriend her on FB

sorry I think your problem with your SIL is bizarre - if you don't want people seeing pics of your children, do not put them on facebook, surely?

I think it's just something you have no control over really. If you take out of the equation it's your SIL, would you be annoyed if a friend did it? I haven't posted any pictures of my dc on fb but there are pictures of them on there from various parties they've attended. It's really difficult to stop it. Just one of those things really.

I don't understand the logic of sending photos by email to make them more secure. The person who gets them can do whatever they like with them and once the email has been sent you have no idea at all what's happened to it. At least on FB you're told if someone shares the photo.

And for posters asking what FB is for I find it really useful for finding out abut whats happening locally, events I can take my children too, news from activity groups we belong to, news from my home town and info about things I'm interested in.

You don't have to have any friends at all, you can just like pages and join groups. Don't let lack of knowledge let you miss out on what's a fantastic free resource if you use it properly.

I've been on FB for years and I don't think I've ever posted a status

YABU. It was in the past that you asked her not to upload pictures on her fb of them. She probably just thought you didn't want them on fb at all. Now that she has seen you upload a pic of them she probably assumes you no longer mind. If you didn't want her to share the picture you should have either no uploaded the picture or changed your settings to make sure no-one can share it.
Although I can't see your problem with her sharing the pic of them on fb if it is on your fb anyway. They are (presumably) fully clothed....members of the public see your children when you take them shopping etc... So why does it matter on facebook :/

What do you think is going to happen to them? What is the worst that could happen if a stranger sees a nice picture if your kids??

a what do you think is going to happen to your Dc as a result of your SIL sharing your pics ?

b Given your Professional preciousness hysterical views on this matter, why post them at all?

c) why don't you customise your post to exclude her from seeing it?

YANBU to be pissed off given that she knows you don't like it. However in future I would limit what she can see using your privacy settings so you still have some control.

She shouted at your child rude name-calling & you want a relationship? Sorry, I can't understand. Is she really the only family? Don't you have any nice cousins & your DC could get to know their 2nd cousins instead?