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to give dd food before paying for it?

735 replies

cantsleep · 29/07/2013 22:20

Went to shops today with dcs. Dd was a bit tired and hungry and I wanted to get in and out quickly and home.

She was very hungry and has health issues and needed to eat that minute so I picked something up and let her have it. I have not done this before but couldn't have gone and paid then given it to her and continued shopping as she needed to eat straight away. Usually I have a snack in my bag for her but she had already had that one and I was going to buy more snack bits for her from the shops to replenish the ones I carry for her.

I noticed that a shop assistant was watching us intently and kept seeing her as we went round the shop.

When we got to the till I took the packet off dd for the man to scan and gave it back to her. As we were leaving the member of staff who had been watching approached us with a security guard and asked had we paid for what dd had eaten round the shop. I replied yes we had but she asked to check the receipt which obviously was fine.

She then told me that in future we HAD to pay for food before consuming it. I explained to her that it was a one off as I had run out of snacks I usually carry and dd needed to eat immediately but the security guard said food has to be paid for first.

It wasn't like I do this all the time and tbh as long as the food is paid for does it really matter?

WIBU to have let dd eat her snack before we had paid for it?

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usualsuspect · 30/07/2013 23:41

Oh stop splitting hairs.

OP did her best.

If she wants advice on controlling her DDs condition I'm sure she can ask you. You seem to be an expert.

ilovesooty · 30/07/2013 23:42

I think coping with a recent diagnosis of diabetes must be desperately worrying.

And to me there's a world of difference between someone who resorts to this in an emergency and people who regard casual grazing as theirs and their children's god given right. I'm astonished that some posters regard it as so normal that they're amazed that people might not agree with it.

usualsuspect · 30/07/2013 23:44

I'd like to swig the wine in the wine aisle though, to blank out all the tutting,huffing and sighing that's going on around me.

Mitzyme · 30/07/2013 23:45

Our local butcher does lovely freebies, sausages, quiche. DGD has a second breakfast there before we hit the supermarket for lunch.

ThisReallyIsNotSPNopeNotAtAll · 30/07/2013 23:45

Sometimes I even let my son look at the magazine on the way round and I purchased it!

Does that mean his eyes are stealing words and pictures I have not yet paid for?

Grin
thornrose · 30/07/2013 23:45

I just feel that no one is really explaining why their child screams all round the supermarket and desperately needs food. Or why giving your child a snack makes shopping easier.

I think a thread about offering a child food when it isn't hungry might provide more answers for me.

Permanentlyexhausted · 30/07/2013 23:46

When splitting hairs is likely to prevent a medical emergency it is probably worth doing so, don't you think?

She would be better seeking advice from her GP though. :)

ThisReallyIsNotSPNopeNotAtAll · 30/07/2013 23:46

It is easier as it shuts him up. If not a snack or drink then its a magazine. I would rather him be quiet while I did the weekly shitty shop

ilovesooty · 30/07/2013 23:48

I just feel that no one is really explaining why their child screams all round the supermarket and desperately needs food. Or why giving your child a snack makes shopping easier

Absolutely. If we're talking about an NT child who's eaten before the supermarket trip the necessity just isn't clear.

ilovesooty · 30/07/2013 23:49

So if he's not "bored" why does he need shutting up?

Byebyebucket · 30/07/2013 23:49

HmmI got the same reaction from morrisons when I did it with my screaming baby and biscotti .... Made me so upset I shopped else where for long while....

usualsuspect · 30/07/2013 23:49

Sorry I thought you had medical training of some sort.

My mistake.

Permanentlyexhausted · 30/07/2013 23:52

No formal medical training, just personal experience.

Not that it would make any difference if I had - she should still seek medical advice from someone who has access to her DD's medical records though.

ThisReallyIsNotSPNopeNotAtAll · 30/07/2013 23:52

Because its constant 'can I have' 'can i have' 'can i have' all the way round. He only eats if hungry but he just wants everything.

Thats why if not its a shitty magazine. I would rather he had something to keep him quiet.

usualsuspect · 30/07/2013 23:53

I was going to have an early night tonight.

Yet here I am having a pointless debate on MN.

Somebody stop me.

ThisReallyIsNotSPNopeNotAtAll · 30/07/2013 23:55

Usual same here! Grin

Why are people so bothered about what others do when it doesn't affect them?

Have a 3 course meal in the ice cream aisle for all I care. As long as I cam reach what I need go for it Grin

usualsuspect · 30/07/2013 23:55

You bad bad mother,SP.

You could learn a thing or two from the MN perfect mothers.

ilovesooty · 30/07/2013 23:55

Because its constant 'can I have' 'can i have' 'can i have' all the way round. He only eats if hungry but he just wants everything

Exactly what I was talking about earlier then.

ThisReallyIsNotSPNopeNotAtAll · 30/07/2013 23:57

Sooty good for you. Whats your point? I do things to make my life easier sometimes. It doesn't ruin any ones day in involve them in any way so what's the problem?

ThisReallyIsNotSPNopeNotAtAll · 30/07/2013 23:58

Usual I know, giving in now and again to a 3 year old while I try do a food shop. Bad mother! Ruined his life, he will be fat, greedy and wont ever understand the word no.

Grin
usualsuspect · 30/07/2013 23:59

He sounds like a normal,typical toddler to me,SP.

They drive you nuts when you are shopping.

ilovesooty · 30/07/2013 23:59

I explained much earlier on the thread what my point was. The expectation of having one's "wants" immediately attended to becomes entrenched and has wider consequences.

usualsuspect · 31/07/2013 00:01

I used to hate taking my DS shopping.
Want want bloody want.

As my old mum used to say Grin

ThisReallyIsNotSPNopeNotAtAll · 31/07/2013 00:02

wider consequences are you seriously for real? This is a 3 year old with the attention span of 10 seconds we are talking about here. What 'consequences'?

'oh mum let me have a snack/drink/look at a magazine now and again while shopping so now I must have everything now'

Grin

No believe it or not he does know the word no and is told it often. I pick my battles.

usualsuspect · 31/07/2013 00:03

He's 20 now though, and he no longer needs a packet of crisps shoved in his mouth to get around Asda.