To pray that smug mothers of little girls are ...

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....sent a beautiful bouncing baby boy torando as their second child.

Those of us with two children realise that nature has a huge affect on a child's personality and ablity to behave.

I have two children and both of them are lovely now. However my son was permamently on the move as a two year old and we used to call him captain chaos. He was the sort of kid who would be into every cupboard, had the wooden spoon in the baby olympics or baby ivory league. (ie he had no desire to read Pride and Prejudice at the age of 2)

My daughter has a very different temperment. She is far more compliant, loves drawing jigsaws and isn't a muck magnet. I am sure that if she had been my first I would have been unbearably smug.

Boys take longer to grow up and my son at the age of eleven is lovely most of the time. He is still a muck magnet, but he has plenty of friends and doing well at school.

Though my two-year-old DS is prone to the 5pm crazies, when he runs about with an egg whisk or brush shouting "raaaargh", he's far more likely to be cuddled on my knee, wanting me to read him a book. Or he loves to hold my hand as we walk down the street. He doesn't push, kick etc. other kids, and is naturally quite wary of rough play. I don't feel I scored a booby prize in any way, and YADBU.

I work with 2 and 3 year olds and have to say the gender differences = not that significant.

Naughty, difficult, unpleasant behaviour is pretty evenly distributed.

Boys are often encouraged to be more boisterous/violent, girls negative impulses are often challenged into sneakier less overt behaviour. This isn't a natural distinction though as far as I can see - parents quite obviously encourage these different behaviours.

It's really irritating when parents assume that their child engages in a particular behaviour because of their sex and therefore all children of that sex are the same as their child. My friends little boy is a sweet, gentle little bookworm, my own daughter can't sit still for a second, climbs on everything and everyone, loves playfighting and needs to be watched like a hawk.

Children are individuals, raise them as such and stop assuming they are their genitals, they're not.

YABU. And a slight ridiculous.

Right at this very second, DD is beating up her older brothers.

Oh FGS! I have 3 girls all of them are more "boisterous" than any boy I've ever met! YABU, and you know it. Kids have different personalities just like adults, talk about stereotypical!

Sorry OP but that's just because of their personalities, not their sex, I have a son who has always been calm, happy to sit with a book or jigsaw for hours and hates getting dirty and I have a daughter who never stops running round, breaking things, getting stuck up trees and bringing slugs into the house!

They are both lovely children and have good days and bad days but in general I actually find my son is far easier to look after.

Bull. Look after my DD1 for 5 minutes that will be enough to break you and then make that generalisation.

She's completely NT. Just a bloody destructive whirlwind since she could roll - at 11 weeks.

Thank god for DD2, she's adorably lazy.

So all girls are made of sugar and spice, all boys are slugs and puppy dog tails as the rhyme goes.

I have three DC. My DS is 13 he is and always has been calm, studious and a joy to be with. DD1 now 25 only stopped being the cause of my exploding stress levels when she became a mother herself 9 months ago.
and I pray her dd gives her at least a little of the worry her mother inflicted on me.
DD2 is 6 and the master of the most spectacular tantrums ever seen. Her ability to argue even the most obscure point will be a massive benefit should she ever decide on law as a career. Even at her young age she has been known to reduce me to tears.

They are all very different but I wouldn't be without any of them and love them all equally.

Doesn't happen often but I agree with RT. yanbu.

Cool story.

Not my experience of my sons... Maybe you are doing it wrong OP?!

Seriously though gender stereotyping to such an extreme... Snooore.

Love my boys because they are mine, they have completely different traits. If i have a girl I'll love her too and she will also have different traits because humans are funny like that

I have two boys and a girl, my first boy is/was quiet, well behaved generally a joy. My daughter is a whirling tornado, no patience, can't amuse herself for long, attention seeking, bouncy, loud! I could go on. My other boy is a much closer in temperament to his big brother.

I love and adore my dd but she could destroy the planet if she felt the urge, my boys are much easier.

And yes I was smug when I had number 1 and I am still very smug even after 2 and 3

Opposite for me! My DD 3.5 is a tomboy! She loves making mud pies and getting dirty and she does not sit down for 5 minutes! My DS on the other hand is very sensitive, alot calmer and will play quietly for hours! I think it depends on the child to be honest!

Most of you are comparing toddler/pre school boys and girls.The difference becomes more pronounced as they get a bit older

I am sorry but I cannot but be amused re the last few posts. Women are so desperate to prove that gender is irrelevant that, if you were to sum up the anecdotes in this thread, a clear picture of gender differences WOULD emerge. All little girls are tomboys and all little boys are thoughtful and compliant.

I had two DS and then a DD.

DS1 was a dream - slept really well as a baby, hit every milestone right on cue... He is now almost 11 and although he has his moments he is very well behaved and responsible most of the time.

Then I had DS2, who took the wind right out of my smug sails

Then I had DD, who is very similar to DS1.

I don't think it is a boy/girl thing, I think it is a personality thing.

Sorry didn't at any time say my girl was a tomboy ( and I do realise you are talking about the majority of the replies and not individual ones), she is deffo a girl just one that could take down a tiger at 50 paces.

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I know I laugh at the competitive tomboy girl and sensitive boy posts on these threads.

I dont think i said mine were tomboys infact one thinks unicorns shit glitter but I am sick to the back teeth of people saying girls are easier and sweet and love to just sit and read or boys are so naughty because they are just boys, I have been hearing it for 20 odd years and still hearing it nothing has changed

Yeah, I have a boy. I found your original post funny, OP. What else can I say? Sighs and and and and .

I've never met a smug mother because she has a girl although I HAVE met smug mothers in general who have children who behave better than mine (not difficult lol) and yes it has made me want their second child to be a bit more of a challenge so they shut up and stop judging...is this what you were asking OP?