how much does your husband drink alcohol?

[whereaboutinlondon]

My husand drink 2-3 pints beer once or twice a week at work. And drink a glass of red wine with dinner at home occasionally. Does he drink a lot or not? We always argue with this.

Moderate drinking to me. But I think how you feel about it depends on how much he drank when you first met him (has it gone up? Does he change personality?) And also your attitude to drink in general. It's a very personal thing.

I am a reformed heavy drinker. I spent my teens to late 20s drinking up to a bottle of wine a night and binge drinking at weekends.

Then I met my dh and he was teetotal as he doesn't like the whole drinking culture and I also decided to stop drinking. I haven't drunk a drop of alcohol in about 4 years.

If I suddenly began drinking again I think dh would be a bit surprised (he wouldn't stop me but he'd find it odd). So I.guess it depends on the background too.

Ah. Wine once a week, so 18 units a week maximum. Under the recommended limit.

to me thats a lot but then what he drinks in a week is my 10 year average consumption.

Never unerstood the appeal of alcohol.

You count units of alcohol.

It's much better to spread drinking out over the week. Drinking a small amount over 7 days is less harmful than drinking it all on one day and not drinking the other 6.

Can I ask why you're so watchful of his drinking? Especially as he doesn't appear to be overdoing it at all, from what you've said?

He isn't getting drunk. He isn't going over the recommended healthy guidelines. You need to stop haranguing the poor bloke about a couple of pints a few times a week.

Why are you arguing about it?

Good grief. Not a lot at all. 4 pints in one go is really nothing to worry about (unless they are pints of vodka of course).

Why do you argue about it? Why do you think it's a lot? Are you from a background where no one drinks? (i know my teetotal Pils tell stories of people having 2 glasses of wine in tones because they have no idea about moderate alcohol consumption)

To be honest OP if all your husband drinks is what you've reported well that makes him a moderate drinker, absolutely nothing to worry about. But if I was him and you were keeping a hawk like eye on every sip of wine I consumed it would drive me batty.

Fair enough if he was a problem drinker, but he isn't.

I don't drink and DH doesn't drink often. Not even once a month! We left it behind along with going to clubs and Sunday morning lie-ins. As a non drinker that seems a fair amount to me, but it's actually not that much. Particularly when sometimes it's 5 drinks over a week!

Info on units and drinking

He drink less than when I met him but he is 42 now. I dont drink and know drinking is no good for your liver when you get old. Apart from this he drank a lot when we had a big argument a couple of times recently.

Oh whereaboutinlondon. I remember your last thread where you'd been angry because he swore once and you were giving him a real hard time then as well.

Unless this a cultural issue, I really think you need to stop over thinking his behaviour, he sounds like an angel compared to some men I know.

I'm 43 and drink probably just a bit less than your dh over the course of a week.

Moderate drinking is absolutely fine.

poor fucker!

youvsound way ott and misinformed about the effect if moderate alcohol consumption.

sorry me, dh and my grown up kids drunk more than your dh.

but to be honest you sound hard work and would drive me to drink.

he's an adult so its up to him.

being tea total isn't actually as healthy as moderate drinking my the way.

OP just because you don't drink doesn't mean he shouldn't.

From what you've said, he doesn't drink much.

If my DH started nagging me about drinking that much, I would be very unhappy with him.

Sorry, but I think you're being a bit ridiculous over it.

I don't think that's much at all. If I was married to you I'd drink way more.

Not a lot at all, you sound very odd tbh

He doesn`t drink and I am thankful.

He's drinking the recommended amount, spread out over the week. Which means it's fine. Totally fine, and his liver can take it easily. Let him have his glass of red with dinner. The health outcomes for moderate drinkers are actually better than for non-drinkers - you should probably have one too!

errr there's no 'let him'!! he's an adult so its not your place to control him. you sound wacky op.

Then it feels like he drinks a lot because I count when he drinks a glass of wine over dinner which is stressful to me. But he wouldnt count it so we argue. Should I not count a glass of wine with dinner?

Why don't you just stop counting and focus on something else?

Df has maybe 3-4 vodka and cokes once or twice a week, a couple of bottles of beer probably around the same amount.

Rarely he'll go over this - every few months I'd say - and he doesn't feel all that worse for it, he might in the next few years as he's heading to his mid 30's.

why do you find him drinking so stressful??