TidyDancer's bridezilla thread part 2

[TidyDancer]

New thread. :)

Yes, there was a misunderstanding. Yours.

There's probably a thread on NMs and the bride's response has been carefully crafted with the assistance of hundreds of NM types .

I want to respond but I need to do it in a way where I can keep my dignity, or be so absurdly funny that it doesn't matter!

send her a text saying:

'I've changed my mind'

Then no more communication until tomorrow when you send her a text saying:

'I've changed my mind'

and the next day:

'I've changed my mind'

and the next day:

'I've changed my mind'

and the next day:

'Sorry there must be some sort of misunderstanding. I have not changed my mind'.

like you are going to change your mind. No apology. i am

Oh and don't engage with this any further. It would just look like you had invested too much in this. Just leave it, and the friendship there i think. what a loon.

"there seems to be some kind of misunderstanding"

Hell yeah

I think a short breezy reply is best. You don't want to look like you're irritated at this point, as it seems like she's trying to draw you out a bit so she can claim you're displaying sour grapes over the invitation thing still. Don't rise to it. Let it rest.

"Oh well, I'm glad that's settled then. Have a lovely wedding."

"Sounds like you have it all sorted on your end, so I won't worry about it. Have a lovely wedding."

..........posted too soon

She misunderstood you for a mug!

I would not dignify that with a response.

"No misunderstanding-you were astoundingly rude, I don't want to help."

Or just no misunderstanding-I'm not helping!?

There's only one thing for it.

SUMMON THE SYLVANIANS!

Just wondering, her name begins with 'F' ?

Now I know this is a bit of a long shot, but it's not 'Fuckwit', by any chance?

Or rather better I agree-no response.

She's still hankering for your help, I think.

Or thinks she's so great that of course you'll help?

Why would she think that you would change your mind?

why doesn't she ask someone she invited?

Unless she wants a lot of help?

Well she's right in that there HAS been a misunderstanding, but its all been on her part.She's misunderstoof the nature of Save the Date cards and she's misunderstood that you don't invite friends to skivvy behind the scenes for the benefit of those you have more regard for. Except that she's also misunderstood skivvying for fun and being able to experience a leetle bit of the stardust from her Speshul Day.

Tempted to send her a link to the thread, but after the wedding...
(More dignified) But actually, you know - I think I'd just leave it there and retain the moral high ground.

Okaaaay - She's a fruitloop.

How about as per my original suggestion in thread one: Hahahaha, no.

Flipping 'eck, just read both threads and am agog at Gluezilla's behaviour.
Well, there you go, she has as good as told you that not inviting you and then putting you out is 'not that big of a deal'.

She clearly does not understand social etiquette.

Shame you had to find out this way though...

I've delurked as DH wants to know if your pal is JLo?
Fabulous thread by the way, OP.

"OK no probs, I'll let you know"

and then (obviously) you don't

Oh lordy! Send her a link to the threads, maybe then she might get it.

Wow.

The woman is nuts.

OOOOH!

Just when I thought she was never going to reply.

I think this is where you might use some or all of McBalls earlier suggestion. Which, to recap, was:

"Look, I could bullet-point all the ways your request is completely inappropriate but A) you have more important things to be thinking about right now and B) although I'm thoroughly taken aback by this I have no desire to further embarrass you.
I'm quite sure, once the excitement of the wedding has died down, you'll see that your request was very ill-advised.
No, I won't be available to help decorate but hope your day is wonderful."

I think you might be best to go with the last part, with a small addition.

"I'm quite sure, once the excitement of the wedding has died down, you'll see that your request was very ill-advised.
No, I won't be available to help decorate, and I will not be changing my mind, but I hope your day is wonderful."

She's a fucking loon.

No further contact. Ever. Just do yourself a favour and back away as fast as you can.

What a bitch

Wedding rudeness aside, based on this response alone I'd be jacking this friendship in. Anyone nice and decent would be mortified to receive your email and even if the didn't really think they'd done anything wrong would be a lot more ameloriating than that email which basically says she couldn't give a shit.

Don't think there is a decent response, walk away from this one to maintain dignity!