Please interact with your kids, not your i-whatsit!

[oldgrandmama]

It's depressing - seeing mums with babies and toddlers in buggies, or toddlers toddling beside them, but what is mum doing? Studying her i-thingie or whatever is the latest gizmo in her hand.

Being ancient and of the opinion that mobile phones were originally just for making and receiving calls and texts, I honestly don't know what the hell she's looking at. Games? The Footsie? Emails? Online book? Surfing the web? Porn? All I know is that there's a little person that she's not interacting with in any way. No doubt this post will bring down the full wrath of Mumsnet on my head but honestly, small kids NEED interaction with their mothers or carers, not to be ignored because it's apparently more important to study some gizmo. Is it really SO important to never take your eyes of the damn thing that you pay your little one no attention whatsoever.

OK - bring on the condemnation. I have broad shoulders!

"Iwas only posting about the (usually) mums of SMALL tots and BABIES - where the mother totally does NOT interact with the little one, being too busy on her gizmo" - for the five minute snippet you have seen of their life...

"harpies of mumsnet" ha ha ha haha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha
oh you are sooooo a goady fucker

oldgrandmama - you may have more sucess writing for the Daily Mail rather than munsnet

Sent from my iPhone

oh and you flounced......

YABU - mums have always, always had other stuff to do - work, washing, cooking daddy's tea, flogging oysters on the streets of london, you name it, they've been doing it while babies sat by learning that the attention isn't ALWAYS on them.

And anyway, I don't even have a smartphone and you're more likely to find my 16mo on her dad's, ignoring me! I don't mind, she will undoubtedly be a 'digital native' and to keep her from that stuff would be to keep her behind the rest of her generation out of some kind of nostalgic ludditism?

I dont get a look in on my kindlewatsit,the grandkids nick it when the visit.

But I'm laughing at 'unpleasant crowd' so thanks for that

Pardon me, YABU, for a start some of us are on android so quit with the 'i-whatsits'.

Well it is better than scrubbing your front step! Mmm what would the neighbours think?

LOL.

OP - judgemental much?

Clearly you have started this thread to provoke a row!

Don't have much on tonight then?

I was joking though as my DC are too old to be erm... constantly looked after, can I be taken from the 'unpleasant crowd' please?

You can put me in the ' vair slightly sarcastic crowd' if there is one of them.

I think this concerns the latent guilt trip after all the general parental affection absenteeism of the 50s (controlled crying, rigid structure) and the general self absorption of the 60s & 70s (primal screaming, naked) type parents. Every generation has their weakness...

Doesn't mean we all fall into the trap though!

oldgrandmama who are these mums who you spend 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with?

I dont even own a i-thingy

yes but anybody who has a baby or a toddler, or a toddler and a baby has been up since 5 to 7am - and in that time they've fed, cuddled, changed nappies, fed again, dressed, tidied up - all whilst interacting - and then got on a bus where their dc seem to be chilled and relaxed, due for a nap, watching the world go by - so they get out their iphone and sort the plumber, the shopping, work things etc and they're judged by a person who sees a tiny snippet of their life.

oh yes, not to mention the "porn" they're watching.

Hama Oh yes, always watching porn while on the way to town

Well me too, it's my favourite activity on the bus.

hamab that's summed me up, I try to spend 'quality time with DS, and I point out all the cars and vehicles passing by while we wait for the bus, but once we get on the bus he looks about whilst I play on my phone! I probably do look awful, but I figure whatever I do I will be judges anyway so I might as well do what I want to do!

Bus? No wonder today's yoof are obese! Don't know you're born...mutter....mutter....

AND I bet she wears the trousers!

I own three i-thingies and have three children...