To think that if people think my 2.5 yr old DS is small ...

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They could keep their opinions to themselves?

DS1 is small for his age, about 25th percentile height & just above 9th for weight. Myself & DH are 1.75m tall and slim so ds is unlikely to be huge!

I've had an old friend who I've not seen for over a year say, in front of DS1, oh he's small. And an estate agent at a viewing today ask how old he is and say, again in front of him, oh my 10 month old nephew is practically his size.

Health professionals are not concerned, he is tracking on growth charts as he always has. He understands what people say and I dislike him constantly hearing 'oh he's small'!

Am I being over sensitive? Or should other people think a bit harder before saying things like that directly in DAs earshot?

YANBU, or oversensitive, but, I think you are going to have to develop a thick skin and say 'oh yeah? hadn't noticed' or something, as it won't stop. People do love to state the bloody obvious.

I get/got with DD and now with DS 'oh she/he is such a dinky dot!' 'is she only xx? she/he looks soo much younger!' 'no way?! 2/3/4/5? my little one is 2/3/4/5 and is soo much taller' 'well, it's inevitable that she/he is going to be so small, neither you or their dad are tall', 'you need to feed him/her up a bit!' to them directly 'wow you are tiny! how cute!' 'you are such a lovely little thing'. People tend to say complementary things to DD about it 'delicate, slight, slender' and less complementary things to DS 'going to be small for his age, might get bullied for being small when he is older'. And then, randomly you will get an older person who has no clue about child sizes going 'ooooh isn't she/he big for his/her age!'

As it happens, DD is now 7 and has gained on her height/weight, she is between 6-7 in clothes sizes but has a tiny weeny waist so looks small still.

AS he grows older he will be told he is small by people directly as they just don't think to STFU. You just need to reassure him that 1) it makes no difference what height he is and 2) who cares!

Yes, people seem to forget that we all come in different sizes and the same applies to children.

I am another one who had the opposite problem with a very tall dd. it was particularly hard from age 2 to 4 because people always assumed she was older and expected different behaviour from her.

My oldest child is 9 years old in a few weeks. He unfortunately is small and I have just got him school trousers for September - he is in an age 7 years and they are big for him (so I know they will fit in September).

His youngest sister has just turned 4 and is fitting nicely into 5 year old clothing.

He know recognises he is small as he mentioned that his little sister is unfortunately nearly as big as he is. It is hard - he has heard the comments about being little, I am small too - we just tell him that good things come in little packages. I just tell him not to listen to silly people talking about his size and that he is a perfect size !!

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Well we have always had the reverse - well isn't he/she tall?

And then we get the disapproval. Your typical 3 year old is behaving like a 3 year old and people think he looks 5 so they expect him/her to behave that way, and of course they aren't, so you get disapproval.

You can't win, tall/short, skinny, well endowed, people always comment according to their own prejudices.