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Original poster

to keep DD off school because she's knackered and it's going to be hot?

187 replies

ladymontdore · 21/07/2013 21:00

She's in reception and exhausted. They are also meant to be going for a walk and a picnic, forecast is for 31degs!!
Also think she could do with a bit of mummy time, last chance tomorrow when dd2 is at preschool!
I would present it as 'I'm not letting you go' not 'it's a treat'. and she may really want to go on the picnic anyway!

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RussiansOnTheSpree · 22/07/2013 17:37

Others disagree with you about the point of the OP. Since you are not the OP, I don't think that you saying what you have decided the OP was talking about actually negates what everyone else believes were the key elements of her post.

However she never came back so actually, maybe we have all just been hoodwinked.

RussiansOnTheSpree · 22/07/2013 17:41

stunt In fact the answer to the bits you underlined is clearly No, YADNBU. The doctor who treated my DD2 said kids shouldn't be in school in this heat (although god knows what she thought would happen then - people always assume that parents' jobs are infinitely flexible and sometimes they just aren't).

Had she only couched her question in terms of needing mummy time, then I might say she was being unreasonable - but on the other hand, my DD2 was much more clingy than usual after her frightening experience. And kids generally are clingy when they are sick, aren't they. So maybe OP's child is giving signs of needing what she calls 'mummy time' because she is in fact not well.

StuntGirl · 22/07/2013 17:42

The point of the OP was no different to the question asked. There was no issue over illness, that was brought up by other posters. Her daughter is tired and grumpy like the rest of us, not ill.

RussiansOnTheSpree · 22/07/2013 17:43

stunt are you a doctor then? A doctor with special abilities that enables you to diagnose kids over the internet?

StuntGirl · 22/07/2013 17:44

We can only go off what the OP posts. Which was that her child was "knackered". Not ill.

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ladymontdore · 22/07/2013 17:47

Wow, I went to bed and the thread got long! Anyway DD did go to school, because she really wanted to go on the picnic. It was 32 deg at pick up time so definitely hot!
Just to clarify a few points though:

  1. The reason for keeping her off was her tiredness + the heat and the fact that she is vary fair and only 5 + going for a walk & picnic. If she'd been this tired and it not been so hot then not a problem, if they'd been spending the day inside; not a problem.
  2. The mummy time would have been nice but not ever the sole reason for keeping her off.
  3. I am a teacher so totally familiar with all the time off school arguments ime time off is not damaging unless it's missing a key A level revision session or similar if the child is reasonably able.
  4. Keeping a child off school in reception does not mean she'll have bad attendance later because a) she's a mini-geek who loves school and b) I wouldn't let her have time off higher up unless poorly. She wouldn't even remember!! Thanks all for your thoughts! Even though I sent her in I have reached the conclusions that it would not have been unreasonable not to send her!
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Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 22/07/2013 17:50

I hope she enjoyed her day op

I don't think you would have been unreasonable either. Now go and sit somewhere cool and recover from the day :) x

crashdoll · 22/07/2013 17:58

I've seen a few of these threads where OPs claim their child needs "mummy time" and I wonder if it really is the DC who needs that special day or if it's mummy who wants it. Wink

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ladymontdore · 22/07/2013 18:00

Russian - what's with the hoodwinking comment? I posted on AIBU because I wasn't sure if I was or not and wanted some others' points of view to help me reach a conclusion. Then, as it was after 11, I went to bed and I've been busy today so no time for MN.

Surely this would have been the most boring made up question ever!

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ladymontdore · 22/07/2013 18:03

I think DD does need some Mummy time! She never sees me without her noisy little sister and has been very attention seeking recently! I don't think she is BU in that!

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Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 22/07/2013 18:48

Then sod anyone else lady keep her home tomorrow if you want. She's not going to fail her exams or never show up to work if she has one day off. X

StuntGirl · 22/07/2013 18:52

I think DD does need some Mummy time! She never sees me without her noisy little sister and has been very attention seeking recently! I don't think she is BU in that!

Good job you've got 6 whole weeks to figure out how to facilitate that ;)

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