DD has a fulltime 1-2-1 support worker at school. She has been with her for 3 years and they are really close. The SW has been fabulous in every way, she goes above and beyond what is expected of her in the job and under her care DD has come on leaps and bounds.
So last week out of the blue she told me that she will no longer be DDs SW from September. A position came up in the school for a general classroom TA and she applied for and got it. She was crying as she told me saying it was the hardest decision of her life, she is worried she has let me and DD down and still doesn't know if she has done the right thing, but she is worried that when DD leaves she will not have a job so that is what she chose, for her future security. She said she knew how upset I and DD would be and she knows she will miss working with DD and is so confused and anxious, but thinks it is the right thing.
I was so shocked I didn't say an awful lot, I ended up half-consoling her. She wanted me to keep saying it was ok and I understood, and don't worry about it, but I didn't really feel like that.
To be frank, I am so SO disappointed in her. In every respect she has been wonderful and acted as though she cared so much for DD and now I think actually this was all about a paycheck for you, so now you have moved on to something more secure. It is 2 years away FFS, that is a really long time. DD has been distraught. I tried to explain it but all she keeps saying is that SW could have stayed but she decided she didn't want to. She feels hurt and rejected and is really down about it. She stays quiet at school SW sais she has been a bit quiet but seems fine, but at home she keeps on crying. She is putting on a brave face not to hurt SW feelings but also because I think she is a bit embarrassed, she used the word "dumped" to me and I know what she means.
We have a few days of school left still and I am really struggling. I can't laugh and gossip with her every morning and afternoon as usual, I can barely look her in the eye. She hasn't mentioned it since she broke the news, perhaps because she realises I am upset.
DH just says it is a good lesson for us that people involved in DDs care are just doing their job and nothing more. I guess I have been naïve in thinking that doing a job like that you would put the child first.
At the end of each term I always send her a note of thanks about all her efforts and picking out some of the wonderful things she has done. I don't think I can manage more next week than "thanks for everything, I wish you well in your new role".
AIBU to take this so personally?