To not want to see your bottom hanging out of your shorts however perfect it may be

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Or this mornings see through skirt with Brazilian knickers .

Alright so I'm a little bit jealous but still is this really a good look?

I see young girls of al l shapes and sizes wearing very short shorts these days, and it does my heart good. I'm thrilled they have the confidence and attitude to dress how they want. Really, to absolute hell with body shaming.

My 19 yr old were having a similar conversation. She thinks the buttock hanging below your shorts look isn't good - not all hanging buttocks were a delight to see...about 95% were not. Even for the pert uncovered rather than hanging buttocks it still wasn't a good look. I imagined what reaction a thread on MN to the same effect would get...and Ta da!

My thoughts were a lot of posters indignantly posting 1) you shouldn't make women be ashamed of their bodies. 2) people can wear what they like 3) it's fattist 4) it's jealousy 5) a feminist viewpoint

I think it's the summer version of black leggings tbh. A sort of denial about how much everyone can see because looking down in the mirror at home it all looks ok. I don't think it is empowering to let people wear clothes which make them a topic of conversation in this way. It's not as if we're saying you should only wear a certain outfit if you are a size 6. If the fashion were to wander through town with your breasts hanging below your cut off t-shirt I suspect you'd get similar responses.

I think the responses (in defence of hanging buttocks) are a backlash to the society that likes to impose rules on clothes (too long...too short...must wear). But I see fashion as imposing rules on young girls. You must wear shorts with your arse hanging out. Just a less obvious rule. Still not helping women.

It's got nothing to do with body shaming. Unless I plan to have sex with someone, I just don't want to see their arse when I go into town.

I suspect many complaining here would be flaunting it like mad if they thought they had good arses :)

Fwiw I think the look is a bit tacky.

YANBU, it's not a good look.

I had to send someone home for wearing shorts like that to work, she had a lovely figure but as one of her colleagues mentioned, you could see her lunch when she bent over I was mortified having to do it, but not as mortified as she was having me tell her... So Yanbu.

I'm terribly conflicted about this issue.

I believe we live in a free country and we should all be able to walk around like the naked rambler does.

However, I feel mortified/embarrassed when I catch sight of someone's bum be it out of the bottom of their shorts/through their worn leggings or (as is most often the case at my school gates)in their running tights.

I don't want to see anyone naked really and this feels like I have just seen them naked. I'm ok on the beach or at the pool, but I wish I could feel more relaxed about it generally. I think 'modesty' (and yes I know how oppressive that is) must have been ingrained into me as a child. Happily my kids seem happy to run around naked!

stopped at a traffic lights yesterday. Gentleman nearly went through my left side, hypnotised as he was by the peach pair of bum bits a wibbling along on the pavement. He as I wondering when her fanny would possibly make an appearance. It does look half naked, it does look crap on even the lovliest of bodies. I prefer to see a body wearing its clothes rather than being worn by clothes if that makes any sense.
I would also like to see men putting their shirts on again.
saw a very attractive girl, lovely figure in those shiny roller disco shorts which were nice, though she was in the shade her pearly -pale lovely skin was glowing like a full moon with random streaks of bisto coloured fake tan...oh dear

I'm fairly uptight about nudity too defineme. My parents were the sort of people who were very open about these things and would happily wander around the house nude if they felt like it. They probably still do.

I must have rebelled against their liberal attitudes as I now take a dim view of nudity unless it's during sex.

As doingmycleaning says it boils down in part to a crap selection of shorts in the shops.

They are either obscenely short or something I'd feel happy in.

Woman kind does not consist solely of hipless 5'8" size 8's and pear shaped size 16s, but there is nothing in the shops between hot pants and comfy frumpy holiday wear for older ladies.

Yeah, that was partly my point. I have bought the only things available to me that I will feel halfway comfortable in, I doubt I am the only woman of my size, or any size really who feels they only have a choice between 'frumpy' things or things that are going to cover slightly less than they'd like.

I'm also slightly saddened by the fact that a lot of women not only notice these things about each other but think about them long enough to form a not always flattering opinion about the other person and their dress sense.

Don't you all have hobbies, jobs, kids, a life? Where do you find the time to notice this shit, much less care about it?

I can honestly say I've never looked at another women, big or small and thought "Urgh" or "That doesn't look good" I've certainly never felt "repulsed" or "physically sick" as was mentioned on other summer attire threads recently, by another women's appearance.

The only time I would even think about what someone else is wearing, is if they were wearing something particularly nice or flattering, in which case I might wonder briefly where they got it from.

Obviously if I walked into a smart office and a women was wearing a cut off tank top and tiny hotpants I might notice, just the same as I'd notice someone on a beach wearing a 3 piece suit, but walking around the park/town/supermarket - not so much, I am normally too busy caring about my own shit to bother about what anyone else is doing, wearing or not wearing.

I'm clearly in the minority on this one. What happened to live and let live? Why can't people wear what they feel happy in without living in fear of being judged? Life is for living, not for being a clothes horse, no?

On a brighter note I have now tried on my shorts and I wouldn't say they fit as such, but they button up, they don't dig in and I can breathe in them. They're ever so slightly tight around the lower belly but I have just over three weeks to go to my holiday and I'm not planning on getting any bigger, so I am hopeful. Oh and they don't show my arse unless I bend down, so if you don't like seeing arses, don't look.

D0oinMeCleanin I have hobbies, a job, and a very fulfilling life but I notice other peoples clothes. Because I like fashion, and because my ability to notice what people are wearing does not switch off as soon as I leave the office as you said...

I do agree that people shouldn't be judged by what they wear, but if you wear something deliberately provocative you are doing so with the acceptance that you will be stared at by men and women alike. Dressing in that way is attention seeking in it's most subtle form.

The reality is that the only people able to wear these hideous bum-showers are teenagers - When I was that age I would NOT have been allowed to wear them. People think they're not tarty just because they're shorts, but would you YABUs think it was fine for teenaged girls to wear skirts that show their arses in the same way? I know shorts don't show your front bits but it's really not really much different in terms of length.

Okay I take it back, maybe not the only people. I just saw an older woman wearing them with the most fantastic bum and legs I have ever seen, lol

But how could I have not noticed the woman I saw this afternoon? I'd have had to have been blindfolded frankly. She was an older woman and did have a lovely figure but she didn't even have her bum peeping out of the bottom of her shorts, it was more as if the 'shorts' had been cut out to reveal everything. Most knickers have more material in them and tbh they were so tight that they must have been cutting her in half lets not even think about thrush.
Sorry to go on but it really is impossible to ignore such a vast expanse of white flesh walking along in front of you, it's got nothing to do with not 'having a life'.

I'm not convinced that it's that difficult to buy shorts that cover your arse. I saw loads of girls and women wearing shorts today, all of whom had managed to find ones that covered their actual buttocks.

The only arse on display today belonged to a woman walking in front of me who was apparently wearing a tubular bandage instead of a skirt - I hope to god she was wearing a thong underneath it because I know for a fact she wasn't wearing anything more substantial. Seriously, nobody could defend an item of clothing that you need to stop to adjust every two minutes.

Doesn't annoy me nearly as much as fucking thongs sticking up above hipster jeans.

I do not want to see what is up the crack of your arse!

Seems to have gone a bit out of fashion now thankfully.

If you don't like it, don't look. I'm sure everyone is capable of averting their eyes from a young lady's bum in the same way they can avert them from a topless man with a beer belly! If you can't help but gawp at a woman's bum I assume you also helplessly gaup at the state we've seen middle aged men plodding around in over the past few days.

NOTE I say this as someone who wouldn't be seen dead in short shorts, I rarely wear shorts anyway but any I do buy fully cover my bum and have to pass the 'bend over' test! I'm far too modest to want any old man (or woman, judging by this thread) perving on my body.

I don't think it's a case of don't like, don't look. Funnily enough I don't walk around with eyes that are programmed to bypass all visible bums / topless men - It's not gawping, it's seeing and it's unavoidable.

Saw a few girls walking earlier in very short shorts - Which covered their bums. They looked lovely