AIBU to ask what's the Strangest/cheekiest thing you've said NO to?

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First time poster, I like the collective wisdom of mumsnetters so I wanted to check if I was being unreasonable.
Several things have bugged me recently, I've noticed I'm a "yes" person even when I really DO NOT want to do something. I even annoy myself so I read a book called the power of no and put it into practice.
So the things I've said no to this week are:

1. Shift swap (even when the guilt trip was used).
2. Lending a dress to someone who returned the last one with dubious stains on it and when I commented she said she had to go commando to avoid VPL.
3. Lending money to someone who "needed" it to buy chicken to freeze for winter?!
4. Babysitting for someone who asks for an hour then returns the next morning and moans because her kids are wearing yesterday's clothes (I should have put my own kids clothes on them) my youngest is 4 years older than her oldest!

Either I'm getting more intolerant or people are getting cheesier and weirder (is that a word)?

A particularly unpleasant NDN once asked if I'd give him an alibi for a burglary. He'd not only done the burglary but he'd left his wallet at the scene...

Unsurprisingly I told him to jog the fuck on. He'd not long come out of prison, funny that.

Not sure this counts but, my SIL found out she was pregnant 3 weeks after my baby was born. She assumed she could have ALL of our baby things as he outgrew them/didn't need them, as did MIL, because they "just don't have any money to afford nice things for their baby" like we do - their words, not mine. I don't think I would have minded passing on a few sleep suits and vests etc, but she kept asking and asking which made me want to say no and although her husband works, she chooses not to "because I'm going to have children" (yes, really). My DH and i both work full time to afford to buy our own things.

She commented once how DS was looking a bit cramped up in a really cute outfit, she said we should add it to 'her' pile, I sort of laughed it off. She also decided at 3 months that he was too old for his Moses basket, and it was ok because she'd just take it off our hands and wash it herself. The final straw came a few weeks ago when I was sterilising DS's bottles, she told me that I should have stopped sterilising ages ago because DS is crawling (he's not, he can wiggle around on the floor a bit). She said she'd take the steriliser there and then, and that she'd just take the bottles then too since DS could manage his sippy cup now. I snapped, I told her that we were planning on having more children so we'd be needing ALL of DS's things. Every last thing. DH wasn't pleased I'd upset her and I was secretly pleased.

Reminds me of the poster who's NDN ended up using her Mexican holiday home for years after being, grudgingly offered the use of it once.

When they were caught out (by genuine friends of the poster), they didn't understand why it was completely unacceptable they'd had keys cut, moved the insides around a bit and were expected to leave there & then... Now that was cheeky!

Hoover, what a grabby cow your SIL is, passing on old stuff probably wont get used fair enough, but not stuff still using, she should buy her own.

I'm glad that so many people are assertive enough to say no, I look back at all the times I said yes for an easy life or (and this is embarrassing) to be liked. Like the time my chicken friend "borrowed" my toilet brush. No I don't want it back thanks. Or making my kids share and them missing out when the other child won't and parents sit an say nothing.
I get passive aggressive and want to hit myself!!
(Note to self: grow some balls)

One that still rankles with me.I had kept all my childhood dolls at DMs house as our flat was really small,with not much storage. Some of them were worth a fair bit.When I went to get them back,found out that my DSIS had sold them all on eBay. And kept the money.

Just realised I don't fit this thread....as I didn't get the chance to say no.

But isn't it therapeutic Gully? I'm one of those people that always has an answer after the "altercation"

Not an issue now, thankfully, but when it looked like my best friend might not marry she often spoke that it would be great if she could use sperm from a man she knew 'had good genes', for her IVF attempt. It was commentary with intent and was basically intimating she'd love me to offer her my DH's - I didn't speak up but if she had actually gone the distance and asked, that would have been a no.

I was friends with someone who was terrible wih money. When my father died and his house was sold, I received a cheque for £23,000. I had said to her I didn't even want the money I just wish I still had my dad. Yep, her answer to this was why didn't I let her have the money to sort out her debts, and if course she'd pay it back....

skillbo I remember that the cheeky bastards!

mexican house thief story here
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/a1735637-Have-you-ever-encountered-anyone-this-cheeky
posted by WeAreEternal Sat 20-Apr-13 14:52:07

I have a bridal shop, someone asked me if I could loan her some wedding dresses as she was taking up photography and wanted to do a shoot!!!

98% agog at most of these but Wannabegood I actually don't think that was hugely cheeky (if they are display models or if no-one was actually going to wear them) as they could be mutually beneficial if she name checked you. Or am I missing something (eg do you actually sell your display ones? Do you not know the photographer from Adam...))

Creepy guy turned out to also be abusive, and pretty much incapable of having a normal sexual relationship without side-helpings of 'creepy' with everything! Never did get to the bottom of his particular request, but suspect he had some sort of blood fetish or was into practicing black magic (had books on the Goetia, which I'd never heard of before I met him).
Heaven knows what he'd have done with it.

You need a new circle of friends!

Solari is he the guy who asked for your used tampons?

There is a sexual fetish that involves masterbating with them and smelling them, I have no idea how I know this I think I read it on another forum.
Making me feel sick just thinking about it!
Apparently this guy had loads of female friends that used to give him their used sanitary towels for that purpose..

I will never understand some people's minds!

So after a quick google, its appears that this period blood fetish is called Menophila.

Why i felt the need to google that, i will never know, but i feel sick now.

I once had a random phone call at work from my plumber (whom I hadn't seen in ages) asking if I could look up the address of a music shop on the internet for him.

I quite fancied him at the time but I still said no as I was in a meeting.

Some drunken woman asked me if she could have a bite of my kebab while I walked home from a club a few years ago.

Judging by her outraged reaction and foul language, I think she really did expect me to let her put my extra large doner in her skanky mouth.

skillbo I had to read that twice as I could not get my head around people doing that.

BadLad - in Threads I'm On' your post comes up as "Some drunken woman asked me if she could have a bite of my k..."

Sorry, completely irrelevant to the thread but thought I'd post it as I had to click to find out what k... actually was.

And hazle thanks for the link of to read. Don't know how I missed that one.

Nowhere near as bad as some of these, but when DH and I moved into our first house together MIL insisted that she and FIL be allowed to come to stay within weeks of us moving in. They live all of 1 hour 20 away. We had no bed for them to sleep on so of course we would have to buy one.

A few years later we finally realised that the room was far too small to have a double bed in it permanently, taking up all the room, so we swapped it for a sofa bed. MIL offered to buy the double off us and then haggled with DH over the price because, well, it was second hand, wasn't it?

Wish I'd spent more on the blessed thing now because we have to sleep on it when we go and stay at theirs.

Later still, when we moved again, MIL had the cheek to complain about how they'd always hated staying because the bed was uncomfortable and the room was noisy