AIBU to ask what's the Strangest/cheekiest thing you've said NO to?

[Sister77]

First time poster, I like the collective wisdom of mumsnetters so I wanted to check if I was being unreasonable.
Several things have bugged me recently, I've noticed I'm a "yes" person even when I really DO NOT want to do something. I even annoy myself so I read a book called the power of no and put it into practice.
So the things I've said no to this week are:

1. Shift swap (even when the guilt trip was used).
2. Lending a dress to someone who returned the last one with dubious stains on it and when I commented she said she had to go commando to avoid VPL.
3. Lending money to someone who "needed" it to buy chicken to freeze for winter?!
4. Babysitting for someone who asks for an hour then returns the next morning and moans because her kids are wearing yesterday's clothes (I should have put my own kids clothes on them) my youngest is 4 years older than her oldest!

Either I'm getting more intolerant or people are getting cheesier and weirder (is that a word)?

SlimShady

My sil demanded that my husband drive 200 miles to fetch her so she could attend our sons wedding. For free and on the morning of the actual wedding. The air turned blue when she was told no.

I had a bit of a rant about this years ago when DC1 was due.

Friend of DH's asked if he could stay for 10 days to be a part of a cycling event.

On my due date for DC1.

When we were planning a home birth.

Dh said he did not think the timing was convenient. friend's response was that 'first babies are always late'.

DH said 'yes'.

I put my foot down so damn hard I got splinters.

friend still occasionally references it as being 'when he was unwelcome'.

FFS.

I'm pretty good at saying "No" these days, so rarely get put in a position where I have to. One of the best ones I ever had though was being asked if I'd pose nude for a neighbour!

I once said no when I was offered alcohol (and wasn't pregnant). That was the strangest thing I said no to for sure. Why did I say no?

Otherwise 'Can I have a fuck?'

I said no and stalked off

By far, the weirdest request I have ever had was an ex who wanted me to put any used tampons into a special container of fluid (not water, don't know what it was!) he had for them, and that he would "dispose of them properly".

At first I thought he was just a bit weird about the smell or something, but he got most irate when I explained I don't use tampons, and spent ages trying to talk me into switching (complete with showing me a variety of 'spare' boxes for "lady friends"). He turned out to be far from normal though.

A fortnight before my due date with pfb and a couple of days before we had to move back into our house from a rented flat, SIL demanded DH go miles across town to help her pack up her (one room's worth of) stuff over 2 days because she was going traveling. I was at the finding it difficult to move stage, the builders were taking an age to finish and the stress was building. DH said no.

She began the most epic, horrible, text and telephone strop. DH was wracked with guilt. At the same time she was doing all this she was posting on Facebook. I showed DH (FB refusenik) her Facebook feed, which was all smiley, happy pre-trip excitement with not a word about packing stress or needing help. That was the beginning of the end for his relationship with SIL.

this doesn't really count as I said yes but...
a friend once asked if I could look after her toddler while she was at college just for a few days. I said fine. Her partner had agreed to do it but then decided he needed to work instead. Then she said could I do it at her house as her son would be happier with his own things around him. ok - but it was a 30 minute bus ride there and back for me. Plus I was on income support and signed off sick with depression...but it's only a few days, right?
Wrong. Six weeks later, many times she had arrived back with, 'oh, I just popped for a coffee after class'.
oh yes - & I was paying for my own pfb to go to nursery.

I turned down a request to do a shift at work one hour after I'd been discharged after surgery.

I was woozy, on painkillers, on anti-biotics and only had the use of one had after emergency surgery.

Which they knew .

A bloke I met years ago told me he was an experienced 'master' and would I like to be his slave? I said -fuck off- no thank you very politely but he seemed shocked.

My ex left me for OW then suggested that he and I should buy a house together as a financial investment. I said no.

My sister asked to borrow money from me as she had an unexpected business tax to pay and could have her business closed or go to prison if she didn't pay (not UK). I reluctantly gave her the money. Two months later she rang to ask if I would lend her the same amount again as she thought her shop's poor location was reducing custom and she wanted to rent somewhere better. She mentioned that there used to be an advertising board directing people from the high street to her shop but it fell down and she couldn't be bothered to put it up again. I declined to lend her any more and suggested she get the board back up instead.

A 'friend' asked me to look after her 5 y.o. for a day til 6pm. She turned up to collect her at 9pm (!) and then dropped enormous hints that she'd like to leave her dd with me for the night and just go home and enjoy a shower and a coffee. I ignored the hints. She then asked me to take her dd to school the next day as she wanted to go to work extra early. I agreed. She drove up 20 minutes late and I hadn't dared leave as I was afraid she'd leave her dd on my doorstep without checking if I was at home. She still thought she could leave her dd for me to walk to school, even though we'd be 20 minutes late for school and it would only take her 5 minutes to drive her there.

An elderly relative pleaded with me to visit her on her birthday and was adamant she didn't want to spend the day with any of her friends, just me, so I caved in because I felt mean saying no as it was a 'special' birthday. It's a 3 hour trip x 2. When I rang her the evening before, she told me her friends had offered to take her out for the day so she'd be doing that instead. I was quite shocked but pretended it was fine. But I still had to do the trip because I'd arranged some things to fit in with it and couldn't cancel.

I am shocked that people are so cheeky! Never had anything like this!

My neighbour likes to run out of the house in her pyjamas at going to school time to ask if I will take her kids. Once was fine, second time was ok. 2 weeks later and I was sneaking out the back way.

A few weeks after avoiding her and she asked again - cause she wanted to get to the gym early and her DD is a real dawdler. I said no. She hasn't spoken to me since!

Me and my friend were sitting outside a cafe using a very small (two people table) and the food/drink we had ordered was on plates taking up any space left on the table. A very posh older lady came and said she wanted to sit outside and demanded that she sit at our table, to which we said no. She couldn't understand why two young girls wouldn't want a stranger sitting between them on their table whilst we ate our food. And she was smoking as well and presumably planned to smoke all over our food. Totally bizarre and entitled.

I've got another one. An "old friend" of my dh (who he hadn't seen for years and only spoke to dh when he wanted a favour) asked if he could stay in our tiny flat for a few days whilst he was in the UK. My dh annoyingly said yes (even though our ds was just born) and this guy turned up and complained because he thought he would be sleeping in the 2nd bedroom (i.e. ds room) rather than on the sofa. He then proceeded to return at 2am after going out and getting drunk when we had repeatedly asked him to come home early as he didn't have a key and had to ring the bell to wake us up the previous night, knowing we had a little child and were tired and he was a "guest" in our home.

This thread is shocking!

solari I really need to know WTactualF. ????????

sister77 welcome to MN, what a corker of a thread!

Ophelia similar happened to me....except my friend let the man sit at our table! He was in his 60s...not doddery....friend said he just couldn't sit their knowing an older man wanted to have the table. We had coffees and cakes...we had to stand inside! Mate was an Aussie...they have very, very good manners. Polite to a fault ime.

I posted this recently on another thread about cheek. My friend's DW is very cheeky. Her DS was born around the time my long-term relationship ended leaving me late thirties and gloomy. She called me and asked if I fancied meeting up with a really fascinating man she knew on Friday night and she had told him all about me. I said OK that actually sounds pretty good. Thanks, she said, I have to meet my NCT group so I'll drop off DS (a couple of months old) and then come back later and stay the night. She then actually complained that by letting him sleep on the sofa next to me I had exposed him to the TV which wasn't allowed.

Later on, I had met DH and our DS had literally just been born. Her son is now 7. She called to say she was coming to our town and would we like to go to a gig with them and share a babysitter. We declined the invite, obviously, because I had just come home after a C-section. She then said oh well, is it ok if I drop DS off with you while we go out . NO NO and NO again!

The bloke who fitted my windows wanted me to bounce down the stairs on my bottom so he could watch my breasts jiggle up and down presumably!

Our NDNs asked us if we could sit somewhere other than under their DS's window when we smoked outside in our garden as it was going in his bedroom. We didn't even tell them no. We just slammed the door in their face. How dare they tell us that our cigarette smoke goes in their house! Self entitled or what? Cheeky fuckers!

^^ This is what our NDNs would say if they were on MN.

I lent a friend a top I had very recently bought, had only worn it once myself at the time. To be honest I kind of forgot about it ...but...3 years later she has still not given it back and has even worn it to events I am attending including last Sat night. I said "nice top!" and she just giggled. I am sooooo getting it back this week!
She does have form for this though, another friend has lent her gloves and scarves which never come vack and I have never seen my iron she borrowed when hers bust. Jesus just writing this is making me cross with myself!

solari!!!! seriously, what was the reason you left him? 😃