to think if we are going out for family meal ds should get one too

[likesnowflakesinanocean]

family occasion coming up, two elder relatives have decided to take family out totalling about 18 people so has to be booked. my dad told me in passing yesterday that they won't be ordering ds age 6 a meal because it would be a waste of money. ds is quite a good eater there are lots of things he likes. I then said well I will pay for ds meal. oh no they are going to ask for a small plate so he can have bits that won't get wasted. aibu to think if you invite us out for a meal you invite us all and that 6yo ds is capable of eating a children's meal in restaurant. its not as though they don't see him often so know that he will. wibu to say we were not going if this is the case.

[formicadinosaur]

If he was 2 that would be fine but a 6 year old needs a meal.

[mikkii]

At 2, DS and his cousin (same age) would share an adult meal between them (their tastes ran better than most places children's menu).

DD1 is 6, if she and I were expected to share, I would go hungry! She has a very healthy appetite and usually would not be satisfied with a children's main course. That would be enough if there had been starters/nibbles and a dessert.

YANBU, but, perhaps the elderly relatives are forgetting is age and what a good eater he is. My parents forget stuff like this now.

[BoneyBackJefferson]

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Tell them to do one, they obviously don't want him there.

[HaveIGotPoosForYou]

You should get him to get a plate and in Oliver Twist style after he's been given a scrap say,

"Please Sir, I want some more!"

See what your Dad says then.

Is it just your DS or any other young kids that will be eating (under 7?) are the 9 and 11 year old yours, or another siblings?

Just baffles me.

[HaveIGotPoosForYou]

Oh and 9 o'clock seems very late to eat, even for a lot of adults.

I'd simply not go. I know it's gutting as you don't get to see family often, but if they aren't factoring in your DS what can be done?

Have a little meal of your own at home instead as a little treat. Pretend to be eating fancy food and make it fun for him :)

[nkf]

Some places don't do kids menus. Fancy places don't on the whole. Of course what people mean by fancy varies, but lots and lots of places don't bother. Particularly at night. Old people often are a bit clueless about kids. I remember my grandmother buying me tea sets when I was about 12.

Of course, on an MN AiBU, everything is a calculated insult and requires a full on passive aggressive response, preferably via Facebook.

What the fuck!
Hell would freeze over before my child would be given leftovers!
And so on.

[pumpkinsweetie]

Sounds like they don't want him there scraps for a 6yo!
I wouldn't even bother going if they cannot be straight with you!

[FunLovinBunster]

I wouldn't go because its far too late for a 6 year old IMHO.
My DD is a lousy eater, but I would still order her her own choice of meal.
Your relatives are extremely rude. I wouldn't waste your time visiting them either. If they ask why cite their rudeness, inflexibility and inability to understand a child's point of view.

[OhMerGerd]

Just go enjoy time with your family stop worrying. It's a restaurant whether a bargain barn or Michelin starred if you ask for a meal for your son they will make one.
Just go. Have fun I'm sure no offence intended.

[Notcontent]

My dd, of a similar age, would be in tears if she wasn't allowed her own meal. It does sound like something from the Victorian era....