ILs have spilled the beans in my baby news.

[Bathjelly]

IABU to go my mile? I'm only 9 weeks and have had congratulations from extended family and friends ( who we hadn't planned on telling until i'd had my scan). We would have liked to tell them ourselves.
We told ILs, and asked them specifically not to tell anyone else yet. Am I making too much of this? Should I just let it go?

Sorry, title should say 'of', not 'in'!!

I would be pretty annoyed by this.

I'd be miffed too bad show ILs

YANBU to be annoyed, I would be too, but yes you should let it go. Don't let it fester for the rest of your pregnancy. Be pleased they're excited for you!

Some, sensible, people would tell you its been done now, tell them you aren't happy and move on. I am not one of those people, I would hold a grudge forever and make sarcastic digs and withhold information from them about every important event from now until the end of time. I would also probably tell everyone apart from them when the baby is born and let them find out through the grapevine.This would piss me off no end. I am on your behalf.

This would annoy me too. I'd be tempted to tell them that in future I wouldn't be telling them anything I wanted to be kept quiet for a while because I couldn't trust them.

I'd be fuming if this happened to me, and would pull them up on it. It's not their news to tell and they should have been more sensitive.

This is why you don't tell anyone until you want everyone to know.

Thanks everyone. I won't let it fester, and for what it's worth, they are lovely, lovely ILs. I totally understand having to tell somebody incase you burst, that's forgivable, but, shouldn't you explain that it shouldn't go any further than that?!

My step mum announced my pregnancy on FB recently.

"Would HAVE" "Should HAVE"

Yanbu to be a bit cross but I think its best to just accept they are just obviously very excited and got a little carried away!!

But perhaps make a little jokey comment to them about not being able to keep a secret! Just so they are aware you are a little annoyed but there's no bad blood!

When we announced our pregnancy I had a sneaky feeling that alot of people already knew due to my Mils excitement!

And my mum was the worst, she kept telling me "ooo don't tell to many people before your first scan etc" and then I would get a phone call every 2 days "oh btw, hope you don't mind but I've told so and so"

I just laughed it off, she's excited and never been known to keep her mouth closed bless her!

I'm with slimshady on this one.

They wouldn't ever be the first to find out anything from me again.

Tell no one anything.

I would tell them just how upset you are. I would also tell them that you won't be sharing anything in the future. Don't let on after your scan that you know the sex of the baby either or that news will be out before you know it.

Get DH on board.

All a bit controlling for me. Your feelings obviously don't matter to them. Doesn't look good for the future.

I'm with Slim Shady too - I went by the rule of not telling anyone about it unless I would have chosen to tell them had things gone wrong, so didn't tell anyone! Both sets of parents were in the dark until after the 12 week scan precisely because we didn't want to put them in a position of knowing and not being able to tell anyone, and even then my MIL kept ringing to ask if she could tell x, y or z if they were people she thought we might have wanted to tell ourselves, which was lovely of her. Is your husband cross as well? Because it's his baby too, so with-holding information in the future to avoid this kind of thing will only work if he feels the same way.

Thanks for the advice everyone. I'm ticked off, and will pull them up, but, as I said, they are lovely, and I know there's no malice. I would just have liked to tell s

I would be livid. If you told them to keep it a secret then they ought to have done. Being excited is no excuse, I presume you and DH are also excited. I'd get DH to tell them how upset you both are (if he is with you on this). It's not their news to tell. For the future I wouldn't tell them anything. Word of warning - do NOT discuss with them teh sex of the baby , possible baby names etc. I'm not saying hold a grudge forever, but do let them know how pissed off you are about this incident, it gives them teh opportunity to apologise and for you all to put it behind you.
Congratulations by the way!

Aaaggghh! Bloody phone! Was just about to say that I would have liked to tell some of the people that already know, myself. Lesson learnt though!

It happened to me and I genuinely didn't care.
Saved me a job of telling people.

Parents and in laws just get excited.

If you want a secret, tell NO ONE!

I think they were probably just hugely excited OP and got carried away. When I told my mum over the phone she rang everyone she knew and told all the neighbours!

Same thing happened to me with ds2. People were congratulating me on facebook at 9 weeks!! I was furious. So was exp to be fair so we decided to find out the gender and tell everyone we didnt know just to get back that feeling of 'knowing' something about our pregnancy that no-one else knew.