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WIBU to report my colleague for this? *contains upsetting content re child abuse*

79 replies

RalphGnu · 11/07/2013 11:39

Had to pop into work yesterday to pick something up from my boss and popped my head into the staff area to say hello to some colleagues. One of the lads that I work with (22 years old) was laughing at a video he was watching on his phone and showing it to his friend, asked me if I wanted to see.

It was a home video, not made by him, of a man hitting a small asian boy across the face. He looked to be about 5. My lovely colleague found this hilarious and when I got upset, made a horrid racist remark excusing the behaviour and implying I was uptight about it.

I had to leave straight away but after an hour I called my manager and told him what I'd seen. He was horrified and told me to leave it with him. I've had a text from a colleague this morning to say the lad in question has been suspended pending an investigation and there are some other colleagues apparently annoyed with me for going to my manager about this as it wasn't work related and the lad himself hadn't made the video, and the poor lad could now lose his job.

I can't see how anyone could defend him for this, I really don't. We've all recently had to sign an update to our contracts with regards to social media and internet use which explicitly forbids staff from sharing this kind of thing. No decent human being wants to see that kind of shit.

Suppose the lad keeps his job. WIBU to refuse to work with a nasty, vile, racist child abuse excuser?

OP posts:
greenhill · 11/07/2013 13:55

You did the right thing. Well done.

Blu · 11/07/2013 14:01

You did the right thing.

Hold your head up high, and if anyone says anything say 'i'm not prepared to discuss it as it i subject to further investigation. But I don't tolerate treating images of child abuse as a jokje and I am pleased that the official company line is as it is. If you don't like company policies discuss it with your manager'.

He is a total idiot, and his gf's FB postings will do him no good in a discipliniary either.

happystory · 11/07/2013 14:02

You absolutely did the right thing. In the Plymouth nursery case, the abuser was always sharing nude photos of men, rude jokes etc. and no-one had the guts/confidence to report it. Maybe not connected to work or even made by her, but revealed what a disgusting person she actually was....

RoxyFox211 · 11/07/2013 14:19

Yanbu!! Definitely not.

LilacPeony · 11/07/2013 14:29

Makes me kind of glad some people can't see the funny side of things! Bloody hell, the funny side of child abuse? WTF! The girlfriend sounds very dim.

FasterStronger · 11/07/2013 14:34

ralph - you have done the right thing. its not funny or a joke.

All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good (wo)men do nothing

LindyHemming · 11/07/2013 14:35

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minouminou · 11/07/2013 15:58

Yay! The funny side of things..... Yeah! Hit the defenceless five-year-old again...shits'n'giggles!

The unbearable lightness of being hard of thinking, eh?

Stupid pair. Even if he'd been watching this video and expressing his horror he'd be on thin ice by accessing it at work, surely?

notanyanymore · 11/07/2013 16:00

YANBU, good on you.

Buswanker · 11/07/2013 16:08

Whoever did that to a five year old and filmed it is vile.
Whoever watches it is vile, finding it funny!? Being racist about a child!? Vile.
You did the right thing, your college is a sick excuse for a man.
He should face the consequences for his actions.
The world needs more people like you and less like him.

Asamumnonsense · 11/07/2013 16:16

YDNBU!
Well done! hold you head up high.. You did the right thing and do not let anyone tell you otherwise. I would have done the same 100%. I couldn't live with myself if I didn't report it.

Boomba · 11/07/2013 16:32

There is an organisation that investigates child abuse on the web. I forget the name of it. I phoned our local police about a video on Facebook and they gave me the website address. What I was reporting didn't fall under their remit but it sounds like this video does...give your police station a ring

Ezio · 11/07/2013 16:52

OP, Shame you didnt ask his dim witted girlfriend, if she would find it funny if her child was filmed by slapped and it was dumped on youtube, doubt she'd be so happy then.

Ezio · 11/07/2013 16:54

Also, I'd like to point out, anyone who watches child abuse and laughs is just as bad as the abuser. Its like people who watch child porn and say "I didnt touch them myself", still looked, sick bastard.

CredulousThicko · 11/07/2013 17:00

Boomba I think it's CEOPS:

ceop.police.uk/

Can't stand this type of shite being passed around, it desensitises people and they end up thinking it's normal and funny, wtf?!

Boomba · 11/07/2013 17:12

That's it thicko

Is this on Facebook? Facebook are fuckers

Theimpossiblegirl · 11/07/2013 17:19

Well done for reprting, you are brave and right. I'm sure you will find that many of your colleagues were also disgusted and wish they had been as brave as you.

There is no funny side to child abuse and the sooner those fuckwits realise it the better.

EggInABap · 11/07/2013 17:25

I've seen this disgusting video. Well only about 15 seconds of it, was on Facebook. God knows why I clicked on it.

I felt traumatised after seeing those few seconds, it stayed with me for weeks. Heartbreaking HmmHmmHmm

Badvoc · 11/07/2013 17:30

Why is this stuff on FB!!?

Mintyy · 11/07/2013 17:44

Yes, good question, badvoc.

Sometimes I feel like modern life is actual proper Hell.

garlicsmutty · 11/07/2013 17:45

Is this the story of the same video? (Warning: There is a heavily redacted copy of it on the page, still very distressing. It doesn't play automatically.) He has been charged, but no news of any trial or sentencing yet.

Of course YWNBU, OP. Be proud that you were the one who said "This isn't okay."

garlicsmutty · 11/07/2013 17:46

Badvoc, in the story I linked, the stepfather posted the video himself!!

Ezio · 11/07/2013 17:57

It makes my blood boil seeing kids treated this way, and you know what really pisses me off, i got a visit from SS over a bruise on my DD's leg, makes me feel sick to my stomach, i've had finger of suspicion pointed at me, then theres that.

Awomansworth · 11/07/2013 18:07

You didn't do anything to get him suspended... He did.

Hold your head high, you did the right thing by reporting him. This type of thing on FB makes me sick to my stomach.

fryingpantoface · 11/07/2013 18:23

good on you for reporting it. well done

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