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AIBU?

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To hate the stealth boasting of posting holiday pics on FB?

124 replies

juneau · 10/07/2013 08:40

I'm not jealous - we're going on holiday ourselves later in the summer - but I just find it bad taste and I'd hate my friends who aren't going on holiday to be reminded of that fact and feel even worse about it than they probably already do.

OP posts:

thebody · 10/07/2013 14:22

I never stealth boast I just post and boast.

DiaryOfAWimpyMum · 10/07/2013 14:29

I don't mind the holiday ones, well I sometimes do in December it's the

I (Heart) my DS1 .......

20 mins later

i (Heart) my DD

20 mins later

I (HEart) my life soooooo much (heart)

20 mins later

I (Heart) my kids

20 mins later

A PIC OF Me I love a selfie LAL X

fuck off

MrsHelsBels74 · 10/07/2013 14:37

DH and I took 2 small boys (3yo and 9mo) to a Haven caravan park in Dorset. I put pictures on Facebook. Somehow I doubt any of my friends will be overcome with jealousy

ZenGardener · 10/07/2013 14:41

Facebook is 90% boasting, complaining, posting pictures of your cat or forwarding 'funny' pictures.

Raum · 10/07/2013 15:12

I dislike facebook and I'm only on it to keep in contact with friends living abroad.

My "friends" from school and family do tend to post a right load of old shit boasting about X, Y or Z. I've taken to simply posting random garbage to see how many muppets like it.

You'd be surprised how many liked a link I provided when it went to a porn site, clearly they didn't even check it (either that or my dad likes that sort of thing.)

BadaBingBang · 11/07/2013 05:06

I think you might have a point OP, depending on context. If its just a few photos, then YABU, but if its someone who overshares, then you are not. I have known people who would respond to any topic you might raise with "that reminds me when I was in Nepal..." or "I had better Ym Cha in China" etc. You'd think they had no other life experiences.

Mutley77 · 11/07/2013 05:16

I do feel funny sometimes posting holiday pics as we generally have quite a lot of holidays - so I ask my DH to limit it (he is the primary culprit in our family!)

But then the people who I worry about offending seem to post loads when they have a less frequent holiday so then I think - oh well it probably doesn't matter. It's a tricky one.

I must admit I do get pangs of jealousy when I think people are doing somethign more exciting than me!! But fully appreciate that is my issue not the facebook posters...

BadLad · 11/07/2013 06:22

"Okay, so this is clearly more about me hating FB than anything else!"

Yep. Unless you feel the same way when somebody sends you a postcard with "Having a wonderful time" on it

funkybuddah · 11/07/2013 08:10

People who feel bad that Other people have holidays when they don't need to get a grip.

Other people can't go around being sensitive for the have Nots. I've not been abroad for 10years but I don't feel sorry for myself, you don't have to look at their pictures.

I've found some people are too concerned with what other people have/are doing than making the best of their lot. What an exhausting waste of energy.

needaholidaynow · 11/07/2013 09:20

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Sparklingbrook · 11/07/2013 09:28

I think that with FB things that you wouldn't know much about you suddenly know more than you would ever know about your friends. Prior to FB you may have seen the odd holiday snap and had a brief chat about parties/new cars/proms/exam results whatever. But with FB it is all thrust in your face in writing whether you like it or not. Everything is shared and discussed and recorded for posterity. There's no mystery any more.....

MorrisZapp · 11/07/2013 09:31

Nope, not having it OP. As ever, I don't understand having FB friends that you don't like. Nobody would possibly take offence at seeing holiday pics from their real friends. Well, apart from me that is, in ye olden days of tripleprint. My best pal is lovely but honestly dear, a quick précis would have covered it.

Long live FB!

pianodoodle · 11/07/2013 09:48

I like seeing pictures of nice places.

A lot of people on my FB seem to want me to see the inside of their hotel room though :)

Saw one from Dad this morning he's abroad in a lovely place. Clicked on photo entitled "by the harbour" expecting a lovely scene and it's a picture of his pint on a table next to some sunglasses...

I wasn't the only person to comment "where's the fuckin' harbour?"

Next one is his partner reading the cafe menu lol!

YoniRanger · 11/07/2013 10:58

I love seeing other people having fun on Facebook. I love the baby pics, the school report boasts, the odd pictures of lush looking dinners and all the happy news.

Because I am not a miserable sod who cannot stand other people being happy.

OddBoots · 11/07/2013 11:01

I can remember my parents in the 70s trying to keep up a fake smile while friends were showing off their holiday pictures (or worse, slides!). I'm very grateful for FB, now I can skim them on there quickly comment 'looks lovely' and get on with my day.

Sparklingbrook · 11/07/2013 12:16

I think I will just avoid FB and be mysterious.

JassyRadlett · 11/07/2013 12:53

Bah, I was going to ask if you bin postcards when they arrive, the smug bastarding things, but Heebiejeebie got there first.

whois · 11/07/2013 12:55

YABU (and clearly green eyes even tho you say not!)

I like to see my friends happy and having fun. Because, you know, I like them and want nice things for them.

Plus if they are interesting location photos rather than just 'lunch time cocktail' photos then I look forward to talking about it when they come back.

But then I do extremely well for holidays myself so can't be too envious of other people's.

HatieKopkins · 11/07/2013 14:20

God help you people if you ever discover Twitter.

KobayashiMaru · 11/07/2013 14:23

jaysus, people sharing their lives and happy times with people who have chosen to connect with them online?
How fucking abominable!

Get.a.Grip. Leave facebook if it makes you bitter.

Sparklingbrook · 11/07/2013 15:41

Twitter is proper bonkers.

'Been to Wilkos. Bought a mop' That type of world shattering news I can do without.

maddy68 · 12/07/2013 06:52

I use Facebook as an online photo album. It's not a stealth boast just somewhere to store the photos and share with whoever else is interested

Vellimetry · 12/07/2013 06:56

I tend not to give a stuff what I see on Facebook. However I know others do: I have a friend (A) who's away at the moment on one of her many holidays - it's just the way life is for her boring hedge fund peddling husband - and it makes one of our mutual friends (B) apoplectic. Which I think is sad and undignified. B's life is great. So she would like to travel more: who wouldn't? A would probably like some of the happiness that B has, if you pressed her about it. Meh.
I think if you get worked up about a couple of pictures on Facebook you're probably not really doing life quite as well as you might be.

Lweji · 12/07/2013 07:16

Okay, so this is clearly more about me hating FB than anything else!

I think it's mostly about you being envious of your friends.

Some people share photos about their lives, others don't.

I hardly take any photos when I'm having a good time with people.
Others do.

Fine.

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