To think its pretty standard for a man to go down on a woman

[JaffaMyCake]

I know it's not Friday but its very hot and I'm bored at work waiting to go home!

Texting a friend who was telling me about a ONS she had at the weekend and she just announced in a shocked/smug tone that her man of choice went down on her because apparently that never happens . According to her, in the world of casual sex it's normal for women to give men blow jobs but if a man goes down on a woman it means he really likes her. Surely this can't be true?

Dangerous, LEM? What could happen?

Back in the dark ages of the 90s, sometimes the ONS would JUST be oral sex. If that was especially good (or especially bad) there would be no need for anything else.

In fact, I'd even go as far as to say that it was a base that had to be touched before a home run could be achieved.

Or, to use a British sporting metaphor, a cucumber sandwich that had to be necked before in started to rain.

Umm my DS told me you can get things now for oral sex, dams or something.

I could be getting my contraceptives mixed up

[]www.pamf.org/teen/sex/std/oral/dentaldam.html yes my 13 yr old was correct]]

again

Ah yes, the dental dam. Tends to rob the moment of its magic, ime.

strawberry - it lines ones labia

I'd never heard of them until last month.

It means he really "likes her" (that's big of him tell your friend). Gimmee a break, I believe in Santa Claus while I'm at it.

Doesn't mean he's any good at it either.

BTW, "standard"? That sounds passionate, genuine

Pretty sad that so many women think the man is doing her a favour after she's sucked his cock.

I cannot speak for other men, but I really enjoy going down on women. Even with a ONS I have respect for the woman and I went her to enjoy it as well. And if I see and/or hear her enjoying herself then that turns me on even more.

And if I am just about to have sex, whether an ONS or in a relationship, I always pop into the toilet just to give myself a little wash so I am clean down there.

And do I like getting a BJ? Well with most women it does not float my boat (although that could be a relfection of the women I go for or that go for me), only very occasionally is it brilliant. And with an ONS I am less inclined to give The Golden Shot like instructions than in a relationship.

Does anyone just give oral when they are going to enjoy it? Like I have to be in the mood to enjoy it to give it?

I like giving it, Orange. His getting off gets me off. It's a power trip. I learned from a bi-sexual man and he trained me well :). I didn't usually do some of the things that I do in a relationship (even a friend with benefits one), orally, on a ONS (such as play in the perineal area or teabagging) with a stranger (although there were a couple of ONS's involving showers over bathtubs that stand out :o) but I have given BJs in ONS's and had plenty of oral in return on them.

A lot of guys get off on getting a woman off the same way some women do.

ime, most men will go down in a ONS.

I clearly shagged some duffers!

I don't think it matters if the sex is casual or not; if a man won't go down on me I will think less of him as a lover.I would feel he is selfish. Fact.Especially as I maintain my lady garden very nicely.

But you can't do cunnilingus in the street - or can you?

Yeah. I thought the entire point of ONS/casual was to just let go, you know, let it all hang out and get jiggy.

that's more of a knee-trembler. I always preferred someplace where we could be skin on skin.

YY, won't go down on me, ever=dump.