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To hate 'filler' middle names

116 replies

VAVAV00M · 09/07/2013 06:02

Middle names like Ann, Marie, May, Rose, Grace, Jane

FFS just don't put one down if you aren't going to be a bit creative!

Disclaimer: slightly light hearted and possibly bias as my favourite names are Rose, May and Grace so I feel the beauty is being taken away...

OP posts:
Dackyduddles · 09/07/2013 07:31

Not light hearted really is this? Bit snippy to my mind. Just because these names are just pretty or something to you does not mean they don't have meaning to others even if all that meaning is their description. I don't see that as any less value.

Fwiw rose here is named after a grandmother. But you wouldn't have bothered asking that would you and just decided I'd been fashionable or copycatting.

IceNoSlice · 09/07/2013 07:34

YABU. But it's a daft argument to have so I CBA to engage further.

cory · 09/07/2013 07:36

In my family middle names are about remembering relatives and maintaining links with the past: our children get one from each side of the family. One of dd's middle names is for my grandmother, whose death was the first real grief I ever knew; it also links her to my cousin's dd, on another country, who has the same name. They are particularly important to me because my children are bilingual and bicultural, so middle names allow us to acknowledge both sides of their heritage.

MortifiedAdams · 09/07/2013 07:43

I do think Rose Jane and Grace are much nicer as first names.

DDs MN is the other girls name we were toying with. Feel a bit daft doing it now.as she has both our favourite girls names so lord knows what we will call this baby if it is a girl.

LottieJenkins · 09/07/2013 07:49

Biscuit OP one of those names is my middle name! Biscuit

Longdistance · 09/07/2013 07:51

Here's a grip op, I suggest you take it...

cory · 09/07/2013 07:53

"in another country" Blush

Chopstheduck · 09/07/2013 07:55

'Ps a lot of middle names like that are in honour of dead relatives so think before you speak, maybe.'

Exactly!

My dd's middle name is May, after my dad's mum. Biscuit

Pascha · 09/07/2013 07:59

yanbu to hate filler middle names, if that's what annoys you, then fair enough.

I like middle names, I didn't consider not giving my sons a middle name because I like them. I like to use the full name to good effect when they are about to get a bollocking - Xxxxx Yyyyy Zzzzzzz! Get here now! Just as my mum did Smile

Mum always felt a bit miffed she didn't have a middle name, especially as her sister and brother did.

KnittedC · 09/07/2013 08:01

YABU. My DD has two of those as her middle names as they are mine and my DP's mum's names.

AWhistlingWoman · 09/07/2013 08:02

'Ps a lot of middle names like that are in honour of dead relatives so think before you speak, maybe.'

This. YABU. Biscuit

Januarymadness · 09/07/2013 08:03

Yep one of mine is in that list as is one off dds. They werent fillers they have meaning.

GalaxyDefender · 09/07/2013 08:14

Poor attempt OP. Even a nanosecond's thought would suggest to anyone that those names being popular as first names would result in them also being popular middle names, as middle names are often given after various relatives (mine, one on your list, was the name of one of my mum's aunts).

1/10, must try harder.

mrsscoob · 09/07/2013 08:21

Yes how appalling! I suggest you quiz your children's friends on their middle names and then refuse to let your children play with them, in case their names corrupt them and are a bad influence.

NoComet · 09/07/2013 08:27

DFs DD is Jessica May, which is lovely, lets her play at being Jessie-May if she feels like it and she was born in May.

SoYABU, but it is annoying when everyone else used names you like/have a family reason for. Niether DD is ever going to be the only one in their year.

Wildfig · 09/07/2013 08:28

YABU. Everyone knows there were only three middle names available for girls in the 70s - Claire, Jane and Louise - so this represents a massive step forward in middle name choice.

whoneedssleepanyway · 09/07/2013 08:32

littlewhitebag my DDs have those middle names too I love them and think they are beautiful. I personally prefer short middle names. YABVU OP.

DalekInAFestiveJumper · 09/07/2013 08:46

I have an actual filler middle name. My parents gave my older siblings middle names, but when it came to me, they couldn't come up with anything they liked. So they just picked something at random that they didn't even like (it's weird and awful) and then wisely didn't use it much.

They love pointing out that they never like this name anytime my middle name is mentioned. When I got older, I finally asked why they didn't just skip the middle name. The answer? "We didn't want you to feel like your name was less special."

Good job.

vix206 · 09/07/2013 08:52

My middle name is Marie and I love it. YABU.

Arcadia · 09/07/2013 08:56

I would love to have one of those normal middle names. Mine is Audrey, my gran's name, have had a fair bit of stick for it, though i do know a little audrey now so if I wait long enough I think that name will come back in...
I do regret my DD's middle name because I was in such a state after the birth that I just let DP decide and it was pretty random and not an interesting name that doesn't even go that well with her other names (not saying what it was). I now wish I had given her my first name as her middle name because she has DP's surname.

Hamwidgeandcheps · 09/07/2013 08:56

Mine have rosé and grace. Rose I mean not wine. Dm chose it and grace is a family name. Dd2 has really hippy names which I expect are judged too.

Hth

TheMagicKeyCanFuckOff · 09/07/2013 08:58

I have DDs. One is Katja Rose. Rose is a pretty, beautiful name, which flows well and isn't a 'filler'- it was chosen because it's a beautiful name in it's own right! Just because it's a common middle name doesn't mean that you choose it for no reason- love for the name (of course), in memory of a dead person or similar.

The other has two middle names-

Futterby · 09/07/2013 08:59

YABU, and a bit strange Hmm

My middle names are Kathryn Ellis, after my aunt and great gran. I fail to see the problem.

grumpyoldbat · 09/07/2013 09:04

One of my DDs has the middle name Grace. It is not a filler. It is as in the hymn because the first cries were the sweetest sound. Until then there were doubts that I could carry a baby to term and have a live birth.

It is also the hymn that the organist was playing when I went to pray for her when I out I was pregnant.

But obviously I chose it just to take the beauty out of the name for you. Well I don't find your post very light hearted at all.

MiaowTheCat · 09/07/2013 09:07

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