To not let this person drive my car.

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Will be quick as need quick answers please.

We are away camping. My dc, me and a friend. The friend is in their 30's, they had their licence removed for drink driving years ago and even though that is spent they've never renewed it. So no license, no insurance. I went for a shower, it's about a km away. When I got back the friend asked to take my car to the showers. I said no but would give them a lift. They got into a temper, said its private land (it is) so they are therefore allowed to drive on here. I still said no but again offered a lift.

They stormed off making a crack about the shower gel I had borrowed off them earlier . When they returned they wouldn't look at or speak to me properly. I said if this continued I would pack up and go home as i know of old how long they can keep up a sulk. They was a short argument and then they took their stuff and left. So now I am on my own with two DC with ASD, who want to stay.

I've called and tried to make peace but they won't answer and won't reply to my messages.

So what'd the consensus please?

If he had no car, then were did he go, he cant walk km to the showers, but will walk out of the woods with a bag, for sake of pettiness, what a dickhead.

Yeah I get that it would be easier for you and your kids.

But a 30 year old man?

I assume you would have to get both yours in the car just to drive him that too or could you leave them for it? Wouldn't he have got there faster on foot?

Certainly faster than the arguing and stropping off

Oh and YANBU just incase I didn't mention it.

Narrow escape!

p.s. I also have a child with ASD, can imagine how hard two must be. On the up side, it's sometimes a relief to be just with DS with ASD, we can do what works for him with no unhelpful comments and interference from outsiders! Eg no one is going to complain about their sleeping habits LOL! Or suggest you stop "spoiling" them if they get scared of a campfire or a bee. Tonight you're free.

Ironic, innit, that the person who trying to spoil your holiday is neither child nor ASD.

I think that you and your children are well rid of such an immature, selfish person. He obviously puts his (trivial) needs above the (important) ones of your children. Have a lovely holiday

The thing is the strength of his reaction makes me feel that I am the one in the wrong like I am an uptight cow.

That's probably the intention - it's called manipulation, and should tell you all you need to know.

dont spoil it for your children - you will be fine camping on your own loads of people do it - I have done it many times
have nothing to do with this stupid man

This isn't about not wanting to walk to the showers - if it was he'd have accepted the, more than reasonable, offer of a lift.

He wanted to go somewhere in your car.

And he's a wanker!

Well I have had a message telling me I "behaved appallingly" today but he is willing to come back and lend a hand and what happened will not be mentioned.

How magnanimous of him ... I hope your response included the words Foxtrot Oscar ...

Even if he had a licence and was insured, it's your car. If you choose not to let someone drive it, tough titties for them. It's your car and you et final say in hat happens to it.

Is he heading back because he has no car and no where to go perhaps?

I'd tell him he's not welcome back.

Tell him to fuck off!

Yep, jog on loser

Please OP, don't agree to him coming back. He's an abusive, manipulative twat.

I agree with everyone else, tell him to get lost.

Thank the universe/gods/lucky stars that he showed his true self in all its glory before you got back together.

Have a lovely holiday and just let this person wash off you life the plankton that he is. It's tough being alone, but nobody needs somebody like that in their life.

Yanbu your car your say. Bye bye friendship, does not sound like a good friend.

I can imagine he had the same "I want to do this, so I will do this and sod how it could affect anyone else!" attitude when he got behind the wheel pissed in the first place.

He needs to grow up before he's allowed to be in control of a vehicle again.

Tell him to nob right off!

Oh God he sounds vile - please do what everyone else says and tell him to jog on, that you'll be fine on your own.

I bet he thinks your gonna welcome him back with open arms!

You did not behave appaulingly - you just said the word "no" (and rightly so) and he didn't like it.

I just knew that he'd come back.What a drama llama.If you can manage alone,tell him to do one.Enjoy the rest of your holiday.

I hope you told him to shove his 'apology' what a wanker indeed!

What an immature idiot. Can't believe he told you that you behaved badly. Steer clear of him OP.

It's your car. Your don't have to let anyone drive it, whether they have a clean license or not.