To not let this person drive my car.

[Sparklysilversequins]

Will be quick as need quick answers please.

We are away camping. My dc, me and a friend. The friend is in their 30's, they had their licence removed for drink driving years ago and even though that is spent they've never renewed it. So no license, no insurance. I went for a shower, it's about a km away. When I got back the friend asked to take my car to the showers. I said no but would give them a lift. They got into a temper, said its private land (it is) so they are therefore allowed to drive on here. I still said no but again offered a lift.

They stormed off making a crack about the shower gel I had borrowed off them earlier . When they returned they wouldn't look at or speak to me properly. I said if this continued I would pack up and go home as i know of old how long they can keep up a sulk. They was a short argument and then they took their stuff and left. So now I am on my own with two DC with ASD, who want to stay.

I've called and tried to make peace but they won't answer and won't reply to my messages.

So what'd the consensus please?

[Sparklysilversequins]

Well we've just done a big fire wood. hunt and my DC are so happy . Just going to see how we go on. No pitches to move to unfortunately.

[Xales]

Seriously am I the only one gobsmacked that you would drive a km!?! And I am a lazy bitch.

Please don't come back and say they are disabled now!

[myBOYSareBONKERS]

Just take one hour at a time and you will have a great time.

Do not contact your pathetic friend any-more. You are completely in the right and do not grovel to him.

He doesn't deserve you as a partner or a friend and certainly does not treat you as either.

[FrequentFlyerRandomDent]

Glad he showed his true colours before you tried to get back together.

Enjoy your holiday.

[facedontfit]

He's acting like a spoilt brat, you are well rid. You will be fine camping - enjoy yourself.

[allmycats]

I would take hin in the car to the nearest railway station - why are you friendly with such an arsehole ?

[Officershitty]

You had a relationship with him? And you want to start again? Question your own judgement. I think you had a lucky escape from this toxic person.

[Sparklysilversequins]

Xales

My kids both have ASD.

[Notgoingto]

You're well rid of that loser. Now enjoy your holiday!

[Longdistance]

Gosh, he really is an ex for a reason.

I hope he's now an ex x2.

[TheoriginalMrsDarcy]

Do not allow this person to drive your car, whether on private or public land, until he has insurance or you have added him on your insurance. It is very irresponsible.

What if, hyperthetically, he had an accident in your car, causing serious injury to another person and this person claimed against your vehicle. Your insurers may or may not deal with this claim and if they do, they will most definitely request reimbursement back from you or your friend. I'm talking about £0000's, not just a few hundred £ and if they don't, you and your friend will be jointly personally liable to pay out any damages.

Do not allow yourself to be manipulated because this man child is having a sulk.

Enjoy the rest of your holiday, with or without him.

[GiveItYourBestShot]

Please don't go home. Could you have a quiet word with the site manager and explain that you are a bit nervous? Maybe they could give you their mobile phone number in case of emergency. Oh, and you were totally right not to let him drive. He just wanted to play with your toy & is now sulking.

[Turniptwirl]

No way they sound far to immature to be behind the wheel!

You offered them a lift and yanbu, he is being vvvv unreasonable

[UtterflyButterfly]

Be strong OP. You were totally in the right to do as you did. Spend the rest of the day running about with your little ones and hopefully you'll be so tired tonight you'll sleep without worrying! It's surprising what we'll do for our DCs that we wouldn't do otherwise - you'll feel so proud of yourself at the end of the trip.

[ImTooHecsyForYourParty]

Stop calling him . That is giving him far too much power over you! He will interpret it as a begging/pleading/needing and you'll end up apologising for your very reasonable actions, which would be stupid.

Enjoy your camping break.

Don't get back with him!

Whatever he wanted the car for, it wasn't to go and shower. I suspect he may be gone off for a drive in it and spat out his dummy when thwarted

Lucky that you saw this of him before you got back together with him, wasn't it#?

[ImTooHecsyForYourParty]

may be gone off?

may have wanted to go off

[Hissy]

Please don't call/text/beg/plead with someone like this? It's undignified.

This bloke is a tit. You are in the right and he has no leg to stand on.

Bin him, make sure he stays binned.

[Sparklysilversequins]

The thing is the strength of his reaction makes me feel that I am the one in the wrong like I am an uptight cow.

[ImperialBlether]

No, the strength of his reaction should be making you realise what an arse he is.

[McNewPants2013]

I don't allow anyone drive my car thats not on the insurance.

op you will be fine camping and don't need this man child in yours or your childrens life.

[MrsSpagBol]

Thank goodness this happened before you got back together!!

How immature to stomp off like that!!!

The "strength of his reaction" means nothing - he is embarrassing himself. You offered a lift FFS!

[MortifiedAdams]

The strength of his reaction shows what a massive wanker he is.

[ImTooHecsyForYourParty]

The strength of his reaction shows you that you'd be a fool to take up with him again!

Don't suppose he was controlling or aggressive when you were with him before, was he?

[Finola1step]

YADNBU. In fact, what you did was spot on! Enjoy the freedom of camping in the woods - and the freedom from not being saddled with that man child.

[CHJR]

You have already done one brave thing in standing up to this VVUR "friend." Try to do one more brave thing now and stick it out camping tonight. In the morning you will be so proud to realise that you are much stronger than you thought, and the camping will be a happy memory for you of a time you proved yourself! Good luck.